
Me: Medical student in London, Arab, romance-novel loving and rediscovered romantic, suitably confused, sometimes self-contradicting, irrepressible and occasionally Islamic.
Also blogs at GirlGame.
by Bhetti Ameen
Being human is a strange state of conflicts. Sometimes, we wish to conform. Others, we want to stand out. Being normal is to be lauded, while being mediocre is to be feared. Its the same state but changing the way you say it -- normal versus mediocre -- makes the same state mean different things.
Some people suffer in the modern mindset everyday is that we expect the impossible from our all too human selves. Men and women are expecting themselves to be able to play all roles, to be able to construct work, home, family and play successfully and beautifully. The inability to exercise a divine omnipotence in perfecting our lives and our influence among those around us may plague too many with a sense of failure. There are those with overblown sense of responsibility and of expectation from what they should be.
An entry as shown if you click here is just one manifestation of this but its a recurrent theme of the modern age. This sense of failure leading to dissatisfaction.
Its human to be a bit stupid with our dreams. However, it is important to remember that we live in an age of overpopulation and standing out is unlikely as ever. No matter where you are in the hierarchy, there will be someone who is better. There will be a better scientist, cook, friend, lover, mathematician or blogger.
I'm as guilty as anyone of sometimes fantasising of doing something that matters, of being responsible for a breakthrough in this or that, of changing the world. Everyone's already working on the problems, on the ideas you can have. All you can do is help.
The world is too big for you to change anything hugely significant in it alone.
I'm not proposing that aspiring itself is wrong. That's also not socially constructive: how would we have achieve progress thinking that way? What is actually wrong is allowing the inability to achieve a near impossibility as soul crushing or depressing.
Greatness is local. I believe where meaning and satisfaction lies is in what difference you make to the people in front of you and around you. You start with the self, the home, the community and then the country. Everything follows by the local examples you set and changes you make; this should also be where you find happiness.
There is greatness in attending properly to a child, in a job well done, in helping a neighbour, in generating local safety, in teaching a lesson, in preventing a crime by your or others, in inspiring someone, in contributing towards collective knowledge and in everyday kindness.
That's where I see greatness and that's where I appreciate it.
by Bhetti Ameen
Sofia's latest post on her brand of conservatism highlights an interesting point. She identifies her struggle of resolving typical traditional values -- or perhaps more widely what she ideally may want to typically support -- against the way she lives. Despite coming from different perspectives, I identify perfectly with the sentiment she makes using the comparison of chastity: trapped between two extremes and not truly belonging to either. We must invent a middle ground.
This is something we all go through. How can we support measures that would disadvantage us in any way? How can a person who's tried cannabis in their youth and come to no harm advocate harsh measures which would punish those in similar situations?
If I didn't give a thought to it, I naturally may want softer policies on immigration for my own self-interests. Most often people do this and brainwash themselves, believing what's good for them is good for everyone. They deny evidence to the contrary. They fail to recognise the wider social implications and that these implications will have an effect on their very own future and present.
When we advocate for change to the status quo, this is often a crisis you have to face: you usually have benefited in some way from what you seek to change. If you're old enough, you may even have supported a measure that you later disagree with.
Be honest to yourself about the issues you face. Be open to the idea that you may be wrong. Acknowledge that you may be advocating something simply in your own interests, rather than as part of a coherent ethical system. Who knows? You may even choose to occasionally decide that what's more important to mankind or its planet is more important than you. Humans are much more altruistic than the cynicists in us gives them credit for.
by Bhetti Ameen
Today is Pancake Day.

This day is also known as Shrove Tuesday.

Until today, I have never made a connection between the two. I have lived in this country for six years now. Yet, I didn't know what Shrove Tuesday was. I'd definitely heard of pancake day before. Perhaps you knew the significance of today and perhaps you didn't.
How completely the separation of church from the people has occurred. Shrove Tuesday has a spiritual significance: it is a day of confession. The pancake tradition is derived from using up ingredients involved before they would not be used for Lent. Many similar traditional days peppering the Western annual calendar that have their spiritual significance wiped out or reduced.
Strange how a nation clings on to these days that no longer have any real meaning to them.
Well, they should have no meaning to them. Yet, a nation clings. These holidays are kept with all their accoutrements including their moral significance, but with a studious avoidance of any religious reference. You cannot turn your back on the religious tradition you have come from. The patterns of your calendar, the values you uphold and the law of the land are all derived from an ethics routed in religious belief. Without Christianity, your identity is impossible, even though you may not be Christian. You cannot completely wipe out Christianity, because it is who you are.
Notice the emphasis on feeding the body and pleasing it that these various days have taken on, or perhaps all that remains once you remove spirituality. Easter is for chocolate. Christmas is for gift giving and copious feasting. Don't forget Pancake Day.
As human beings, I do believe we have needs and wants that we are compelled to feed. Disobeying these compulsions is both difficult and unpleasant. These are all things basic to our nature. Obeying them is the fulfillment of natural behaviour. You cannot control what you need and want as a human being any more than you can control being born with two eyes.
There is those of the body: for sleep, nutrition, comfort, physical pleasure, adrenaline rushes, social contact and material objects.
There are compulsions of the mind. Our minds cry out for stimulation, for rationality, for control, for understanding, for stability and security.
These are wants and needs universally acknowledged modernly. What is not modernly acknowledged and most certainly not emphasised is the desire for spirituality as fundamental to human nature. Spirituality is viewed as a choice, as a personal preference, as a luxurious indulgence of emotion and thought. To quote the quotation that is always quoted, it is regarded as the 'opiate of the people'. (I should someday read the quotation in its original context. Keep that in mind that as I give it a small treatment below.)
In some ways, that quotation is apt. You manufacture your own opiates within your body; you have receptors for them in your nerves. Part of the human experience is to experience the effect of opiates. You require them for your normal functioning as a human.
Spirituality likewise is natural to the human state. I know of no people among the peoples that have built communities without marked spiritual expression. That is the evidence in history. Yet there is evidence in the present.
There are many who reach for spirituality but cannot quite capture it; the domination of rationalistic thought bars them from conviction. When they indulge their spiritual instincts, they have to compartmentalise it away from their everyday experience in a world that is effectively spiritually bankrupt.
There is much modern pursuit of practices that have a spiritual dimension to their experience. 25% of school age youth in the UK have tried drugs. This isn't mentioning when they move on to institutions such as university where they have loans to spend, lack of supervision and easy access to dodgy substances. Most of it is of course marijuana. An attraction drugs reportedly hold is an altered state of consciousness. Particularly interesting to me is repeated references to oneness and dissolving your conscious self as an individual entity. This is interesting to me because it is evocative of a practice I indulge in: Prayer.
I am not unique in this comparison. Many also seek similar experiences out in meditative rituals of various forms. Some instructors even claim they can give a psychedelic experience.
I am not commenting heavily at the moment on the consequences of spirituality. I am simply presenting to you the idea that it is human to be spiritual and that it is the natural human state from social, biological or even philosophical perspectives.
I do acknowledge that spirituality for me is basic to me and my contentment. I often become preoccupied with my experience of life as a scientist and a woman, neglecting my spiritual self. Yet, recently, when I found myself heavily immersed in religious practice which I was not accustomed to habitually, I found a weight lifted off me that I barely knew was there.
We are human. Our needs and wants are varied and conflicting. However, it is important to consider what they are before they are denied, controlled or indulged. You live as a human being on so many levels.
You have your body.
You have your mind.
You have your soul.
Remember that all parts of you must be fed.
by Bhetti Ameen
There is a reason that Islam and other hard patriarchies enforce such strict rules about female attire, and where and when they can be with members of the opposite sex. It is because they recognize that any woman can be seduced.
They do not make distinctions between the devout and the not so devout. The rich or the poor. It is all women, because the nature of women pertains to all women.
As standards went in my little corner of the United Arab Emirates that I grew up in, I was one of the most conservative girls present. I never really thought I'd end up being the person I was today. I was in denial about my female nature.
On one hand, the above article is comforting. I'm not alone and nowhere near far gone.
I vacillate between seeing any violations of what Islamic practice should be -- the way I view Islamic practice should be -- as small forgivable slips to great sins that are unforgiveable.
Retrospectively, with the eye of clarity, I can identity how seemingly small steps lead to a slippery slope of worsening behaviour. Does that make the beginning steps morally unconscionable?
It strikes me that faith can fill you with false hubris. Despite all the clues I had to my romantic and even passionate inner nature, I was convinced that no real life male could pose a potential threat. The very lack of experience with sin leads you to a complete naivete of the seduction of its nature. It is so much more difficult to identify the devil seducing you, because you are unaware that you are being sorely tempted and seduced until the very point past surrender. I've managed to avoid a fall from grace, although I've come worryingly close to that fiery flame.
This hubris is generalisable and doesn't just apply to the romantic sphere. 'At risk' situations need to be identified early, before you are even remotely tempted. Where possible, temptation needs to be avoided rather than resisted.
I know now that each situation that carries aloneness and privacy with a man needs to be avoided wherever possible. This could be physical. This could be electronic. I have no illusions about myself any more and no faith in my self-control. While my will is or usually was iron, you can underestimate the erosion to your willpower moments of weakness present to you. It is a work of miracles to have pulled back as much as I have, seeing as how much 'at risk' I've put myself. I'll confess even e-mails from men make me nervous, which has led me to opt for rudeness occasionally as my anxiety about it competed with my desire for discourse.
Yet this realisation of the self has come too late in some ways. The awareness of the real danger a situation carries to you personally only occurs after you've experienced it. It's easier to avoid because you can identify it, harder to avoid because the damage is done and when you're weak a voice whispers: well, what's a little more? You know how good it was. That little taste of food, of drugs, of pleasure. You know you're craving it. What's a little more?
Prevention is easier than the cure in some ways. Yet the need for prevention can only be recognised after learning from the experience of others. Don't just learn from your own mistakes. Learn from everyone else's.
by Bhetti Ameen
I've been seeing over the course of the last few weeks a phrase that sets my teeth on edge.
There is this phrase that just says all there needs to be said about exactly how free-thinking, how much ikhtiyar, people are exerting over their own destinies. Its a phrase that only rarely should be used and which I admit to have practically used:
It is clear that you need professional psychological help.
Sorry, didn't write it properly for you guys the first time. Let me fix that for you.
If you do not agree with me on my opinion about this issue, then you need psychological help.
Occasionaly, the phrase is better and more honestly portrayed like this:
I've gotten emotional over the matter of discussion at hand, I'm going to ignore any facts you state because you're the one who needs psychological help for shocking me.
The language in which we speak contains memes we transmit. What does you need psychological help mean? It means that:
Who would you rather be: the ones who lie to themselves and say they are all individual or the one who deceives society and present themselves as not?
What this signifies as far as the modern zeitgeist is that everything we do is somehow diseased. When someone does something with some structure, they're being anal. When a person sets expectations on a significant other, they're being controlling. When a person doesn't want to choose everything themselves, they're being dependent. When a feminist has sex, it's rape. When you have a strange dream, you're repressing something.
You have to work with what you've got. e.g. If you're "controlling", you'll get along with someone "dependent".
Why are we obsessed with calling all human actions diseased when accepting the unchanging parts of our natures is the path to happiness as what we cannot help being?
Psychology should be sparingly used. Abuse of psychology and psychiatry is nothing less than massive propaganda, a political and social tool to control a population. As exhibited by the easy clarity of the example of the target of homosexuality, what is psychologically healthy is what is considered socially normal.
For most human beings, there is nothing wrong with you! You are usually reacting in a sane way to a deranged human landscape: its the landscape that should be corrected and that can be corrected, not you. If someone went to war in Afghanistan, saw terrible unspeakable things and reacted to them in 'post-traumatic-stress-disorder' there is nothing wrong with him. Psychological help is a bandaid that effectively hushes up a much bigger problem: why send the man to a war unrelated directly to the defence of his country in the first place? Additional to this is the social problem, for any psychological problem you name, it is much more likely to happen given a lack of social support and meaning in life: in no small part due to materialism, superficiality of modern existence, a lack of cohesive communities caring personally for each other and dysfunctional families divorcing and collapsing.
Noone addresses the true issues behind mental health. A troubled mind is birthed from troubles.
by Bhetti Ameen
I love this Planet, Life, Science and the Internet.
What's prompting me to declare this? Check the video out.
There's more Symphony of Science videos here.
by Bhetti Ameen
Have you heard of Frances Inglis, mother?
Thomas had suffered serious brain damage after falling out of an ambulance in July 2007 and hitting his head on the tarmac. Although medics insisted he was showing signs of improvement, Inglis believed he would never recover, and plotted to "put him out of his misery", the court heard. Inglis tried to kill Thomas, administering heroin, most likely through the tracheotomy tube that was keeping him alive, the court was told.
She was on bail for attempted murder when she killed Thomas by injecting him in the thigh and arm, again with heroin, the court heard. She gave a false name to gain access to his care home. , and tried to stop nursing staff entering his room after she had injected him by claiming to have HIV and threatening to infect them with blood or saliva.
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It's happening. I've talked about it here. It has been increasingly.
Why did she do this? Perhaps the clue is in her profession.
Frances Inglis, 57, a trainee nurse from Dagenham who was described by witnesses as “a pillar of the community”, denies murder and attemped murder.
I needn't tell you who it benefits to not emphasise the fact that she's connected to healthcare in any way. She's only a student, too.
The media has been giving this issue increasing attention, reflecting back the popular sentiment. For reasons I've explained before, I'm not surprised.
You're probably going to hear about this happening much more often. The popularity of euthansia or mercy murder -- whatever you wish to call it -- shall rise.
by Bhetti Ameen
The world's a playground. You know that when you are a kid, but somewhere along the way everyone forgets it. 
I do want to take guitar lessons. I do want to learn how to fly. Yes, I would like to learn Korean.
Jim Carrey plays a banker who says yes to life; this means according to a personal development guru that he must say yes to every opportunity that presents itself.
I consider this movie a fun and funny must watch before making your New Year's resolutions. If you've ever liked Jim Carrey's style, you must watch him in this.
Life is limited. I don't know about you but I feel my tenuous mortality and the encroaching passage of time. Nevermind the unambiguous prospect of death: I can feel the prospects of responsibility, duty, family, growing and tying me down in ways I won't predict and ways I already feel. We need to live every moment, have stories to tell.
You need to make every moment matter. And what matters is what matters to you. Living a good life, a constructive life, one where you grow, one where you've experienced as much as you can, learned different things or became an undisputed master of a field.
You could live life like you'll live to a 100. A responsible, future-oriented and community conscious human being. You could live life like you'll never see tomorrow. Spreading joy, having fun and repenting now. These two attitudes aren't mutually exclusive. They have something in common: make every moment matter by not wasting it.
Don't waste. Don't 'kill' time. Time is too precious to kill whether it's your last moment or a foundation for your future. Don't waste it on ill-health, on hurting yourself and others, on cheap experiences, on doing nothing. Quality. If you're going to try a smoke, make it worth it. Smoke a top class blend, not the cheapest cigarette.
If you're drowning in boredom and ennui, if every movement seems hardly worth it, if you're not feeling purpose running through your arteries? You're doing it wrong.

Inertia and fear shouldn't hold you back. Fill your life with activity, philanthropy, friends, learning, work and experiences. Summon the energy and quiet the insiduous voice of antisocial laziness. Savour the silent moments all the more for their rarity.
Embrace being human.
It's what I tell myself to get me out of bed. It's what I'm telling you. It's what Alex has said too.
Embrace living.
Yes Man on Amazon and Amazon UK.
Source of emo:
Emo Boyfriend
by Bhetti Ameen

I'm gonna pull the whole thing down. I'm gonna bring the whole fuckin' diseased, corrupt temple down on your head. It's gonna be biblical.
Clyde as a hero* appeals on so many levels. A civilised man betrayed by the promises of civilisation. He's forced to become a vigilante to attain justice. He is the dad doing anything for his family. Sickly self-righteous; the monster that is birthed by monstrosity, with its heart a black vortex birthed from the abyss it has too long gazed upon.
* (well, meant to be the villain of the piece but I'll call him a hero because that's how I see him in a twisted way)
The problem with this movie was not that it didn't go far, but that it did not go far enough. I'm surprising myself saying this. Even though there was destruction and violence, there wasn't enough. Well, not quite. The system itself did not pay nor did it change. It did not get enough scrutiny or involvement. I'm not sure whose fault it is, where in the chain of Hollywood production things weren't adequately addressed. The system is impersonal, yet this movie personalised and focused on the personal interactions. We did not see the corrupt temple collapsing in and on itself. We did see hints of the corruption of complacent bureaucracy; obsessing with targets and creating enough rules that you'll find one to suit you if you find one that suits your agenda.
The personal interactions themselves left something to be desired in terms of substance, rather than style. The style itself was brilliant. Our hero was by turns insolent and tragic. He taught his lessons in perfect time with instances of hypocrisy and negligence; giving a way out if the lesson was learned although he did not expect it to be learned either.
Yet: Our vigilante father did not face much of an adversary. We didn't know anything about his thoughts or his background. In order for his opponent to remotely measure up, Clyde had to commit an error that was grossly out of character. What chessplayer doesn't watch their king?
This movie was a tragedy in so many ways. So many suffered for an end that simply was in teaching a man a lesson that is learned too late. Even this change is an optimism that is confined to the realms of Hollywood and an optimism we didn't see realised in the contexts of the actual film; we didn't actually see the change ensuing from the hero's terrible actions played out on screen.
It did strike me that Clydes of the world exist. They are losing their families everyday:
They[mothers] will continue to run off with the kids and there will be nothing the children’s fathers can do about it.
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In fact, if there is anything men should have learned from the lessons of the past half-century or so, it is that in the absence of vigilance and stern oversight, government and politicians can only be counted on to betray us.
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Noone is doing anything about it. Noone is seeing it as the same thing, not even the dads themselves (and that's where they're different from our hero.) Noone will. Noone even knows how.
Deal with the human being in front of you, not their ID number. Know the rules, then resolve to break them when it matters. Retain your humanity; it's not only a duty to yourself but it protects the humanity of every other human being around you.
by Bhetti Ameen
Alex has said previously how aerobic exercise has been proven ineffective. The most effective way to get rid of fat and increase your overall health is to build up your muscle mass.
The ideas behind this can be simplified to be that the more muscle you have, the more energy it needs. This is the fundamental reason why men on average have higher energy requirements than women at baseline; testosterone-driven differences in muscle mass. If you build up your muscle: not only do you look good and have better strength, you are increasing the amount of energy you consume by doing the same things you normally do.
At its basics, it's not a hugely difficult concept. I had a chance to talk to a few male friends and colleagues about it recently. The conversation somehow went into weight loss, usually after noting the changes I'd made to my own diet for different reasons. I was surprised at the resistance to it I got. I felt the difference stemmed from one important thing: a concern with losing weight as an absolute.
A common argument presented to me in defense was that muscle weighed more than fat. Well... so? That's a fact to note when you're having a workout, so that you aren't deceived by the scales. In itself, losing weight isn't an end goal. Being healthy, looking good and feeling good is the goal, right? What do the scales and balances you weigh yourself on have to do with it?
When I mention weight-lifting, I instantly get a worried reaction: 'you aren't turning into a muscle builder, are you?' Well, no, I can't really. I'd have to try much harder. I don't have the right hormone. Building up muscle is more than natural for a man. You can take it easy and save money by investing in a couple of weights and doing some basic exercises based on youtube videos. Upper body, lower body then abdomen or core. You can pretty much do it while watching television.
by Bhetti Ameen
A famous piece called The Physician's Prayer:
"From inability to let well alone,
from too much zeal for the new and contempt for what is old,
from putting knowledge before wisdom, science before art and
cleverness before common sense,
from treating patients as cases
and from making the cure of the disease more grievous than the
endurance of the same,
good Lord deliver us. Amen."
-- Sir Robert Hutchinson
(1871-1960)
by Bhetti Ameen
When examining or speaking on any subject, I fancy myself a Jill of all trades and mistress of none. The highest state of expertise I feel I may lay claim to is that of the novice.
Novices have their place. A person new to a subject undergoes a stage of enthusiasm and integration that can be the ideal for the creative process: new eyes and new skills that can breathe fresh air into a stagnated subject. A good novice questions what is established and the dogma. They are open to new knowledge and theories. Sometimes a novice can err exaggeratedly here, descending into paranoia and suspicion as opposed to being merely skeptical . Sometimes a novice can go the other way and accept what they're told too easily.
Their intelligence is fluid and adaptable. A novice relies on knowledge, logic and systematic approaches. They are clear eyed. They are limited by their lack of experience, especially in areas in which there is little pre-existing knowledge or there is practical skill needed in application.
Experts are always the ultimate authority on any subject and can be regarded as such. Yet, experts rely on pattern recognition. Their intelligence is crystallised.Their judgements are authoritative and intuitive; they'll go with their feelings based on experience in the face of evidence. It has to be strong evidence before they'll be convinced otherwise against their prejudices. If there is no prejudicial process in the recruitment of experts in a specific field, they actually often contradict each other. Their experiences are necessarily different due to their individuality based on background, school of thought and location.
An expert who neglects renewal of their knowledge base and theory, necessarily, makes a bad teacher for anyone in ignorance. You cannot inherit good pattern recognition from anyone; that comes only in the experienced. Worse, they may pass on to you bad habits or erroneous beliefs made on how they incorrectly interpret their experiences.
Subjecting yourself to experience is not sufficient. People have the same thing happen over and over to them; it does not mean they understand why nor what mistakes they make nor how to repair them.
In order to gain knowledge, you must be an excellent novice before attaining experience. You will have the framework to interpret your experience correctly, understand where your mistakes lie. You will learn that much more and that much faster. Do your research: you will learn in an hour of experience what shall take others a lifetime of the same. Be the novice, the expert and ultimately the master.
Related: Kamal's blog post on wisdom, intellect, and authority: aqli vs. naqli knowledge.
by Bhetti Ameen
(Despite my misrepresentation: the emergency code for the UK is 999, not 911. I am surprised the Politically Correct Brigade hasn't thought to push for changing that 9/11 number.)
Being in medical school, any idealism about your role is systematically ameliorated and deconstructed. When we submitted our personal statements outlining precisely why we wished to pursue the arduous path of medicine (an admittedly mad decision), a common piece of advice was not to present a picture of unrealistic idealism: they wanted some evidence of the understanding of precisely what a doctor's role actually is, specifically within the framework of the National Health Service. Still, the primary reason for choosing the doctor's role over other professions for most who do is in finding that is worth doing, worth getting out of bed for, worth the comparative loss of sanity, sleep and income to other fields open to you. A role that is both compatible with your personal ethics and perceived to be of inestimable worth to society.
You are allowed to retain some version of naivety and self-righteousness -- sorry, encouraged to be ethical and good -- insofar as it allows you to justify any action to yourself within the safe knowledge that you are doing it either in the best interests of your patient or out of respecting their autonomy: that is, for them to make their own decisions even if you disagree with them.
You are allowed to do a lot of good as part of the medical profession: vaccination, treatment, easing suffering. This is what happens most of the time.
However, there are grey areas. Or even black areas. A problem with being part of a nationalised service or any organisation is that you are essentially an agent of their interests; you may disagree with them but your enforced job is to remain in line with them. You are a slave to political trends and helpless to powers beyond your realistic control.
What faces the future doctor?
We have the financial consequences of the recession, although finances were a problem already. Latest figures from the office of statistics place the public debt at 7.7 billion, compared to surplus at the same time last year. Contributing to this figure is the cost of bailing out banks; figures for the cost of this ranged from billions to over a trillion.
Cost-cutting measures in the nationalised health service are happening and will happen, leading indirectly to loss of life. This can't be avoided.
Euthanasia is currently illegal in the United Kingdom. A matter darker than this is that there is and will be increasing clamour for legalisation and laxity around anti-euthanasia measures. Not only will this benefit the strained coffers of the NHS but the demand increases: as we lose the soft, warm and comforting blanket of the comforts of deranged consumerism, more of the population will find the idea of living intolerable as well as the idea of being a 'burden'. More people will want to be helped to die and it will be easier to say 'yes'.
This is an issue wherever economies are affected and not just a local one.
I wonder -- as an aside -- what the USA motivations for pushing health care reform measures leading to an increase of control by governmental institutions might be amidst a tenuous economic climate? Will Obama's administration abuse this control? Will the next administration?
Again and again, I question and reflect: will I be able to recognise when I'm doing what a good doctor should be doing or am I rationalising that what the NHS wants is precisely what a good doctor is?
Well, we are far away here from the idealistic pre-medical student state where the role of the doctor is to 'save lives.' It is to ease suffering. Like healers before me, I may include dispensation of death within the purview of my role: even though it offends the very foundation of what I intended to study and fight to preserve.
Easing suffering (where do we draw the limit for suffering?) or not: will I be able to make the decision to kill? That remains to be seen.
by Bhetti Ameen
They hate Twilight for the same reasons misogynists actually do.
On her official website, Meyer responds to feminist allegations that Bella is weak and easily led. “There are those who think my stories are misogynistic – damsel in distress must be rescued by strong hero.” But to Meyer that isn’t who Bella is. She points out that, in New Moon, the second book in the series, Bella must contend with Edward leaving. Meyer reminds her fans and her detractors alike that Bella is not mourning an ordinary teen romance but rather the loss of the love of her life, her other half, her soul mate. And perhaps this is the reason for the series’ massive success among modern young women. In his August 2008 Washington Post article, Twilight Sinks Its Teeth Into Feminism, Leonard Sax posits, “Three decades of adults pretending that gender doesn’t matter haven’t created a generation of feminists who don’t need men; they have instead created a hoard of girls who adore the traditional male and female roles and relationships in the Twilight saga.”
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And there are those who actually just thought we were pissed because we were "feminist women." I can't imagine what they'd say to this.
Well, what about wikipedia's page on Domestic abuse, especially under emotional abuse?
Same thing!
Oh, but then, you think I'm just looking for something to bitch about, don't you? I want to hate on a romance and I have no idea what fiction is. Because that's another thing, isn't it. It's just fiction! It can't do any real harm! It's not real! Just fun! It can't cause any problems because it's just a book, right?! It won't have a bad or damaging influence. Because it's fiction, we're just being stupid and bitchy, right?
Ok, so yeah. Bella and Edward are imaginary. But that doesn't make it okay or safe.It DOES have an influence on girls my age. And the thing is, it has nothing to do really with Bella. She really doesn't matter despite being the narrator. No it's all Edward.Yes, I've heard my girlfriends, ones I know to be fully against sexism and such, actually say to each other, "Well, I think Edward is the most perfect boyfriend you can have. I want to have a boyfriend just like him."
Examples of Edward’s Creepy Control Issues
-He tries to control who Bella is friends with (with the handy excuse that her friend is a werewolf, enemy of the vampires).
-He refuses to turn Bella into a vampire despite her wishes, For Her Own Good.
-He refuses to have sex with Bella since he “won’t be able to control himself” if they do. Buffy, of course, turned this icky rape-culture stereotype on its head. There is no such consciousness here.
-He won’t allow Bella to make her own decisions regarding . . . ok, basically anything. Edward calls the shots, period.So yeah, he doesn’t beat her. Other than that, they are the very picture of after-school-special abusive relationship. (Full disclosure – I was so disgusted with New Moon I never bothered to read Eclipse, the third in the series. If anything improved in #3, please let me know!)
This is the legacy of our kick-ass vampire slayer feminist icons? –sigh-
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The following one is great, since she sees no contradiction between these two sections:
In my own opinion (key word), the foundation of feminism is this: being able to choose. The core of anti-feminism is, conversely, telling a woman she can't do something solely because she's a woman—taking any choice away from her specifically because of her gender. "You can't be an astronaut, because you're a woman. You can't be president because you're a woman. You can't run a company because you're a woman." All of those oppressive "can't"s.
One of the weird things about modern feminism is that some feminists seem to be putting their own limits on women's choices. That feels backward to me. It's as if you can't choose a family on your own terms and still be considered a strong woman. How is that empowering? Are there rules about if, when, and how we love or marry and if, when, and how we have kids? Are there jobs we can and can't have in order to be a "real" feminist? To me, those limitations seem anti-feminist in basic principle."
[No warning of the change of tack, here. It's like it's written by two different people. However, it is on the same page. Listed as written by the same woman.]
Really, Meyer? What about the allegations of abuse by Bella's love interest, Edward? Like the way he dismantles her car so she can't see her friends? Locks her in his house for the same reason? Or how Bella jumps of a cliff (literally) just to "hear his voice in her head"?
Bella's choices are troubling, sure, but it's the blatant romanticism of what she and her interest does, excuses of him doing these things "out of love" and "to protect her" that makes her an anti-feminist figure and indeed make you one as well.
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For a contrasting opinion from whiskey:
Edward Cullen wins the girl in Twilight by being the most dominant and controlling male in Bella's life. Superman wins Lois Lane by being ... mostly Clark Kent, the mild mannered reporter. Lois herself is independent, and while lacking powers has opinions and a mind to match her beauty. This is the male heroic model that worked, that built Western Civilization, and males resent it's overthrow by the female-tween fantasies of Twilight and other vampire-fantasy fads. Lois is desirable because she's winnable, and winnable by more than just superpowers and wealth and power, otherwise Lex Luthor would have married her. Her very independence and intelligence make her winnable, by Clark Kent not Superman, and it means she stays won. Clark does not have to constantly mate-guard her like Cullen does Bella.
For girls, Twilight teaches them to be passive, eschew education and a career, forget a traditional family with a traditional husband who while not "sexy and dangerous" is faithful and loving, and sacrifice warm, loving, and emotionally intimate relations based on the mind as well as raw sexual desire, for pure adrenaline based excitement. Twilight explicitly teaches girls to abandon their minds and intellect for their emotions and lusts. In short, a how-to for girls to enter into inevitably abusive and emotionally destructive bad-boy relationships, in the desire to "change" and control a powerful, dangerous man.
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by Bhetti Ameen
In 1886, a man called John Langdon Down asked a question that would be regarded today as politically incorrect. In his "Observations on the Ethnic Classification of Idiots", he showed that ' A very large number of congenital idiots are typical Mongols'.
In fact, he was using this observation as an argument against slavery:
If these great racial divisions are fixed and definite, how comes it that disease is able to break down the barrier, and to simulate so closely the features of the members of another division. I cannot but think that the observations which I have recorded, are indications that the differences in the races are not specific but variable.
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His observation was also an important step in understanding Down's Syndrome and dealing effectively with those affected, resulting in less stigma of the condition. Needless to say, any allusion to 'mongolism' is studiously avoided modernly.
Political correctness itself is a recurring seeming contradiction in the pursuit of truth. In
order to properly care for a group, -- if you are honest about their welfare -- you must face their reality.
When an insult is issued, there may be truth behind it. The more important question to ask is why was the seeming insult issued? It leads to a line of inquiry and debate that leads to real investigation and thought about what action to be taken. You cannot even begin to decide what to do unless you have the facts. You cannot have the facts unless you verify observations and investigate any reasons behind them honestly.
These facts do not go away simply because we choose not to acknowledge them and bury our heads in the sand.
An example of a very controversial current topic is IQ differences between ethnic or racial groups. Yet, asking the question is important. The answer will of course be used by different factions to promote their agendas; that's no reason not to ask the question or acknowledge average differences in the first place. Only then can real debate and action happen examining why is it happening: to what extent is it genetic, disease-related, environmental, cultural or socioeconomic? What're the implications of this and does it matter to society? What are the solutions and do we need them?
by Bhetti Ameen
Sofia, a philosopher, recently blogged about her ideas regarding free will and determinism in one Q&A session on her blog. (I'm sure she'd be open to any questions any of you have too. )
Alex also states that:
Learning to accept the powers too great for you is part of growing up--but using those conditions to your own advantage and creating greatness out of life, that is a task only worthy real men and women.
How much control do we have over our own lives? On one extreme of the answer to this question is al jabr*: our paths are determined by forces external to the self. These forces could be anything from divine will to the inevitable conclusion if one thinks in terms of what is purely physical: that we are governed by forces that are random, impersonal and inevitable in nature.
There is much to be gained from acceptance and peace with one's self and its nature. There is much to be gained from being satisfied with little in this life. Yet, routed in this perspective makes us unable to take responsibility for either what we do or what occurs to us. We regard ourselves as machinery, incapable of influencing our own programming even if we could fathom it. Believing in al jabr births an apathy that easily causes us to suffer more than we need to do. It leads to a disengagement with ourselves and this world; we do not seek to influence nor improve either.
An example of being ruled by al-jabr is the use of prayer in disease which may be beneficial but is not curative on its own, using it to the exclusion of all else has been terribly damaging. This emphasises the importance of the concept of al-ikhtiyar.
Al-ikhtiyar is literally translated to 'the choosing'. Here is the perspective that our destiny is what our ambition makes it. That we are what we choose to think, eat, speak, wear and do. In its extreme form, it is a rejection of all that seeks to assert that we are indeed limited. From al-ikhtiyar arises the desire for individual freedom, equality of opportunity and fairness that if applied purely can be irrational and indiscriminate in nature. Somewhat paradoxically to these ideas, we also hold ourselves ultimately responsible for our lives and our failures: when we do not fulfill dreams or hold true to the choices we make.
Either view can be pathological in nature. The balance is difficult.
The lesson to take away is to understand what is good for you, rather than be trapped of circles of abstract reasoning: you can only be helped if you help yourself.
*(al-jabr:"the forced", sharing an etymological route for the world 'algebra' coming from the idea of forcing together i.e. reuniting parts that are broken)
by Bhetti Ameen
The message hasn't sinked in to the disbelieving public consciousness. Best available evidence shows that antioxidant supplements either have no effect or, worse, increase your risk of death.
You heard that right.
These supplements either WASTE YOUR MONEY or they KILL you.
Main results
Sixty-seven randomised trials with 232,550 participants were included. Forty-seven trials including 180,938 participants had low risk of bias. Twenty-one trials included 164,439 healthy participants. Forty-six trials included 68111 participants with various diseases (gastrointestinal, cardiovascular, neurological, ocular, dermatological, rheumatoid, renal, endocrinological, or unspecified). Overall, the antioxidant supplements had no significant effect on mortality in a random-effects meta-analysis (relative risk [RR] 1.02, 95% confidence interval [CI] 0.99 to 1.06), but significantly increased mortality in a fixed-effect model (RR 1.04, 95% CI 1.02 to 1.06). In meta-regression analysis, the risk of bias and type of antioxidant supplement were the only significant predictors of intertrial heterogeneity. In the trials with a low risk of bias, the antioxidant supplements significantly increased mortality (RR 1.05, 95% CI 1.02 to 1.08). When the different antioxidants were assessed separately, analyses including trials with a low risk of bias and excluding selenium trials found significantly increased mortality by vitamin A (RR 1.16, 95% CI 1.10 to 1.24), beta-carotene (RR 1.07, 95% CI 1.02 to 1.11), and vitamin E (RR 1.04, 95% CI 1.01 to 1.07), but no significant detrimental effect of vitamin C (RR 1.06, 95% CI 0.94 to 1.20). Low-bias risk trials on selenium found no significant effect on mortality (RR 0.90, 95% CI 0.80 to 1.01).Authors' conclusions
We found no evidence to support antioxidant supplements for primary or secondary prevention. Vitamin A, beta-carotene, and vitamin E may increase mortality. Future randomised trials could evaluate the potential effects of vitamin C and selenium for primary and secondary prevention. Such trials should be closely monitored for potential harmful effects. Antioxidant supplements need to be considered medicinal products and should undergo sufficient evaluation before marketing.
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This is published by the Cochrane Library, which only publishes the most rigorous and quality systematic review of best evidence.

Photo by Piku.
I urge you to get your antioxidants naturally, my darlings.
by Bhetti Ameen
This isn't a soldier issue, a religious issue or any issue. This is a man called Nidal Malik Hasan's issue. This man does not represent any group of people, because he is essentially unique. He was a single man who couldn't get married to a woman who matched his religious beliefs (you could connect him with George Sodini and all men, then?) , he was a muslim religious man who couldn't resolve it with the military's actions (therefore you could connect him with jihadists who also represent all muslims, then?) -- yet I'm not as religious as he was and still wouldn't go into the military; he made a terrible decision there which others paid for and nobody stopped. He was a deeply disturbed psychiatrist (who have -- in their profession -- elevated levels of mental troubles anyway). He had bad reviews about his psychiatric practice which weren't addressed. He wanted to leave the army and they wouldn't let him. He experienced discrimination which -- in his case -- turned out to be justified.
This situation is a confluence of multiple factors.
The Quran -- although the unquestioned authority full of evidence -- is not by itself the determinant of any one muslim's actions. It is interpreted by each individual muslim who reads it, each muslim who gains guidance from scholars, the Prophet's legacy in terms hadiths and the stories of his seera -- his life's path -- as passed on through the ages. There are schools of thought and interpretation taking it all into account responsible for Islamic jurisprudence. Muslims can reach a consensus between them. They can also be divided.
The point of meritocracy is that you decide in terms of the individual in front of you: you take into account their beliefs, their troubles and treat them based on this. You do not be blind to their ethnicity, culture or religion if it effects them neither do you assume based on religion: the most prominent example is what has happened to Christianity, there're people naming themselves Christians who only remember that when they need to write it on some Equal Opportunities form.
The first point of failure was Nidal Malik Hasan, his mistakes, his arguably self-inflicted mental hell and his horrifying indiscriminate killing. He shot at a pregnant woman. That it is justified Islamically is something only a pathological personality will believe. That he justified it Islamically when it was a grudge against the Army itself of which religion and discrimination by individuals played a part seems very likely. It was a vicious cycle: he felt persecuted and out of place due to his own choices, which resulted in him becoming more defensive and unhappy, which resulted in more isolation and a higher sense of feeling persecuted. Repeat until you have a personality feeling so victimised that you have a remorseless shooter with misdirected anger, instead of finding real solutions.
The second point of failure was the Army for retaining him in service, of which a policy of organisational non-discrimination as well as a failure of policy played a part. Why was he retained against his own feelings and beliefs, as well as giving a poor performance?
The big irony in this situation is that both discrimination and anti-discrimination played a part. This is what happens when you allow individuals to foster a victim mentality.
It doesn't matter whether a person is muslim or not. You need to listen to them and evaluate them as an individual: what do their beliefs mean to them, how are they practically applied? Is it merely lip service? What part of life's buffet is particularly to their taste? Is it family, charity, war? You must protect yourself and others from them if you see signs that are a warning.
by Bhetti Ameen
The NHS is often spoken of like a particularly good and frightening ghost story around the campfire. If by campfire we mean a fake fireplace in your living room. Alhough often nothing has happened personally to anyone, people share stories -- their voices lowering to whispers -- of that person who they heard was infected with MRSA or -- disbelieving gasps! -- that woman who has had her leg amputated by mistake.
The horror stories about the NHS are just that: horror stories. It can be an imperfect organisation, hampered by being a political football as well as financial and organisational limitations. However, healthcare works in many more cases than it doesn't. It is undoubtedly and definitely better than nothing if you need help.
With that in mind, enjoy these Halloween-themed health-related happenings, keeping in mind their rarity and the continuing effort to fight for better standards of healthcare in and out of the NHS:
The witches -- sorry, the alternative therapists -- now have their familiars registering to practice in association with their selves. The first familiar to join these licensed practitioners is, of course, a cat. His name is George. So what talents would a cat have?
Go on, guess.
Look into George the Cat's eyes.
You will have a Happy Halloween.
You will have a Happy Halloween.
You will have a Happy Halloween.
Image credits:
Halloween Hospital -- Jascha Hoste
Bats & Cats -- Jade Gordon
by Bhetti Ameen
For most people, the way we learn is tied to our experiences. I won't go into the neurobiology -- and you don't need neurobiology to know this -- but things are particularly memorable when they have an emotional signature attached to them.
Overachievers have a particular and exaggerated fear of failure. They do what they can to prevent it. They remember the instances where they did and aim to prevent those in particular. This can be exaggerated, a very common error in human perception (availability heuristics). If something rare but terrible happens to us, it no longer becomes inconsequential and we are predisposed to look for it much more than its actual probability.
In any case, failure is a potent learning tool. It is a very human learning tool. Mistakes are arguably the main way we learn. You are bitten once, remember the pain, and remember never to avoid what bit you if you don't want to be bitten. You shouldn't impose a hideous amount of fault on yourself every time a mistake is made: place the emphasis on learning from it.
I'm constantly being reminded how I can be handicapped by the lack of confidence an instance of failure can inspire.
I failed, recently. I was asked to ask some questions from a patient, then examine his peripheral pulses. I went to his bed and called his name: the problem was that it was the wrong patient who had a very similar sounding name to the patient I needed, who was in the bed next to him. So I put this man through an examination that included feeling around his groin unnecessarily. (I'm very thankful for the practice as I'm not in the habit of doing that sort of thing and this clinical skill is important, however, so not all is in vain.) I luckily discovered my mistake later, when recapping with the doctor who asked me to do it.
So I've learned from this. I'll have to be more thorough in using little details to check and double check identity. 'We've all done it,' the doctor reassured me, sharing some near misses early in learning prevented by double checking later in little ways, especially with another member of the team.
Trial and error is hugely important in human learning. 'You're allowed to make mistakes and you should make your mistakes now while they don't matter, while you're students, so you don't make them later' we have not been told once, but repeatedly. It's hugely important not to make any later, when it truly counts.
I have to remind myself of that. That I'm human, just like all the others who make mistakes too. That I can do this. That I'm learning. That my mistakes are even more important than what I get right when it comes to practically applying things in life, as opposed to learning things in simple theory. That what I have to do after my failure is process it, learn from it, then get back to the stethoscope and be confident, because I'll be better than ever now and what I have to focus on is make sure I've done what I can to stop it from happening again.
Do what you can to prevent them. However: Make your mistakes and learn. Make more mistakes and keep trying to learn. You'll get there with their help and you'll get there much faster the more you're afraid of making them.
by Bhetti Ameen
With every right comes a duty. Whenever we assert that we have a right that is basic and important, the only way to guarantee it is by upholding that right for ourselves and others. There is an accompanying responsibility that comes with it that must always be recognised.
It is a reasonable assumption that every individual's preferred status is geared towards freedom and autonomy: they want to decide where their resources and money go, they want to know what is happening to them and they want to know that their wishes are being followed.
What happens when an individual's own independent decision restricts the autonomy of others? Then their own autonomy becomes restricted. The thief who steals the resources of another becomes imprisoned against his will. An eye for an eye is the effective outcome in most cases: the payment may not be exactly equal but the payment is made.
Now let us look at this in a wider scale. Let us call the population the thieves and the government their policeman.
It is a reasonable assumption to make that since we are largely leaning towards maximal freedom, that we wish as minimal governmental interference in our lives. However, this means we have a responsibility. We have a responsibility to ensure that this interference is not required.
Governments only have as much power as their populace gives them, mainly through the amount of interference and involvement we allow.
I see this interference every day. I see it in our failures. Every time a person is unemployed and goes on welfare, every time a family undergoes a troubled divorce, every time a member of a family is left in the care of the state.
Once family breaks down, once community breaks down, once society breaks down, then this is when the government becomes the new society, the new community, the new family.
The government uses your desire for an easier life and abdicating personal responsibility to become responsible for you. The government becomes responsible for what you should be responsible. The government cares for those you love and those that surround you. The government cares for criminality and addicts. The government cares for your planning permission, which you can't resolve because you don't know how to deal with your neighbour.
All this is when you lose any control over the world that surrounds you.
An easy life is not the life you choose freely.
Do you ever envy the parasite that preys on waste itself and benefits noone? Do you ever envy what lives and dies only to feed an appetite that can never be satiated?
If your answer is no, then do what you can to ensure that you do not become a parasite on the body politic. Do what you can to live a life where all those immediately around you can rely on you and you can rely on them. Family first, friends first, community first and government last.
That is as it should be.
by Bhetti Ameen
I watched a person die for the first time this week. With worries about confidentiality, I can't tell you very much about Mrs A. It wasn't peaceful and expected, it was dramatic and rapid. Yet, she was around eighty years old. Peace and rest be with you, Mrs A.
Before sending us on to hospital as medical students, they attempt to prepare us with ideas about the concept of dying. This is when they introduced us to the concept of a Good Death and what it entails. I felt a visceral revulsion to that terminology initially: how can anything be good about facing mortality?
There is a stigma around speaking of death or showing any occupation with it; an assumed disposition to suicide or homicide. I do think it is a justified suspicion with certain groups (goths, emos, certain branches of metalheads): its much more likely to be symptomatic of a pathological nature in one way or another in these cases.
That shouldn't preclude an honest discourse around it. If we do have to die, what are the conditions that would make it as ideal as we could make it? I could tell you what I've been told but that's in a way valueless. People's ideas are different. So how about you tell me:
What might you call a Good Death, preferably for you but if you find that concept disturbing, for someone else? Some thinks you might think about are the Who, the What, the Where, the Why and the How of your Good Death? How would that relate to the life you've led and the people you know or love?
EDIT: Alex's coincidental wishful 'Let Me Remain In This World' is just one in a series of strange happenings around this. The night before Mrs A's death, I'd felt the same sign that she should've manifested and didn't. Yet, she was the one diseased and I was the one healthy.
by Bhetti Ameen
As one astute but anonymous commenter noted, the ethical scenario derived from this ethical problem is from the Tarasoff case:
On October 27, 1969, Prosenjit Poddar killed Tatiana Tarasoff. Both had been students at the University of California at Berkeley. They had met a year earlier at a folk dancing class. After a kiss on New Year's, Poddar became convinced they had a serious relationship. Tarasoff told him she was involved with other men and not interested. Poddar became depressed, neglecting his studies and health, speaking disjointedly and often weeping. He talked to a friend about blowing up her room, and was eventually convinced to go to student health. He started therapy with a psychologist on staff, Dr. Lawrence Moore. In August, during his ninth session, Poddar confided to Dr. Moore that he was going to kill Tarasoff when she returned from summer break. Dr. Moore subsequently informed the campus police that he felt Poddar was dangerous and that he should be hospitalized involuntarily. The police picked up Poddar, but after questioning felt he had "changed his attitude" and released him after he promised to stay away from Tarasoff. The psychiatric directior, Dr. Harvey Powelson, learned of the situation and instructed his staff not to pursue further attempts to hospitalize Poddar. Poddar stopped seeing Dr. Moore. In October, he went to Tarasoff's house and stabbed her to death with a kitchen knife. He then called the police and asked to be handcuffed.
The California Supreme Court heard the case twice, in 1974 and 1976. The court found the police could be held liable in the first hearing, but not in the second. In contrast to the police, the therapist was consistently held liable because of the "special relation that arises between a patient and his doctor or psychotherapist."
As an anonymous commenter said here, the immediate answer seems to be informing the authorities. So they're informed, you can trust them to take action, they have a duty to protect the public, isn't that right?
Well, it is not as proven in the aforementioned scenario. A psychiatrist must be a policeman, somehow find the person under threat without provoking their patient and inform them independently i.e. pull out all the stops especially under the discretion of your judgement, as anonymous here and Yewzer-1 commented.
The ability to consult colleagues in the team at your practice seems is the norm on any aspect of any case: it doesn't seem any medical professional is expected to manage on their own and there is implicit consent apparently that your information will be shared with appropriate members of the team who are also bound by confidentiality. Exceptions may be given to cases where there is any known relationship between you and another member of the team.
by Bhetti Ameen
Not only is the Western chase for status unnecessary, but it is unhealthy as Oliver James argues in his book Affluenza:
"Cards on the table," he says, "I contend that most emotional distress is best understood as a rational response to sick societies."
So why are we, in James's words, so fucked up? It's because of what James calls Selfish Capitalism, or, more catchily, "Affluenza", a virus-like condition that spreads through affluent countries. In these countries, notably English-speaking ones, people define themselves by how much money they make. They are also ruled by superficial values - how attractive they look, how famous they are, how much they are able to show off. As the sociologist Erich Fromm would have put it, we have moved from a state of "being" to a state of "having".
Even though status is presumably much more important in other cultures, why might status-seeking be particularly or in any way mentally damaging in Western society?
He refers to Dominant Goal Depression in his other book: 'They F** You Up'. The focus of these type of depressive thoughts tend to focus on self-esteem and level of achievement: aiming for goals of intelligence, beauty and wealth among other things. The sufferer aims higher and higher, never satisfied even at the top. James argues that this is due to parents projecting their expectations on to their children. However, I would assume wider pressures play their roles. In a society that repeatedly saturates you with propaganda that anything is possible, as well as presenting and enabling upward mobility that is limitless, it is all too easy to think that you can do anything no matter who or what you are: you are simply not working hard enough. You have all the opportunities in the world, so why are you not the best? In Western society, when status-seeking is bad, it's bad.
by Bhetti Ameen
Police and prosecutors are to be told to presume that hundreds more crimes are "honour" based in a new drive to bring more offenders to justice.
Under the new guidance it will be assumed that an honour crime has been committed in any case in which there is the slightest sign that such an offence has taken place - even if the victim has not reported it.
The BBC has a great section on honour killings, which you can read wholly here: it corrects a few misconceptions and confirms other assumptions. Highlighted, I believe, also by the BBC above is how much the tension between differing cultural pressures is a problem.
As the BBC mentions, honour killing are known to take place in certain communities including among Hindus (the story linked here is a bit of a horrifying role reversal) and victimise men (especially gay men) as well.
I like this discussion in the Guardian about attitudes new and old, both in the article and the comments section. There's some evidence attitudes are changing:
In Jordan, Queen Rania has publicly called for tougher sentencing of honour crimes. But the parliament there has twice refused to abolish Article 340 of the penal code, opting instead to modify it and allow convicted honour killers to be sentenced for a few months only.
Pakistan however has voted to introduce a law to punish honour killers with the death penalty. And in Turkey, where honour killers used to incur just an eighth of the normal sentence, life imprisonment is now a real possibility.
Why are honour killings special, and not simply called murder? Here's one argument:
Killing a spouse for insurance is brutal and monstrous but it is an act only focused on the deceased.
But honour killing kills the deceased and threatens others. An honour killing uses violence as theatre to intimidate others. It stands to enforce a sexual code of conduct by violence and threats.
Here's another more detailed argument in the context of honour killings versus 'simply domestic violence'. (simply domestic violence? Now that's something you thought you probably you wouldn't see someone saying in the current political climate.)
Notice that the official position of muslims in the West is not condoning it; this is consistent with the incidents seem to be restricted to new immigrants. As well as this, looking at the incidents of honour killings on a case by case basis there're many unIslamic elements. This doesn't change that it is largely within muslim communities that honour killings occur.
I must take an aside to wonder how we women continue to actively defy this. How controllable is female sexuality, with anecdotal evidence on my part and by another person or two, of promiscuity in e.g. Saudi Arabia?
In general, these honour killings as they occur seem to have no justification to me: my prayers and thoughts with the victims (one of the only times you'd see a muslim spoken positively about in what seems to be a generally anti-Islamic blog).
However, honour killings are and can be used as a propaganda tool to justify the following:
-- global condemnation of values and beliefs perceived as traditional, including expressing disapproval over sexual behaviour.
-- misandry, including presumption of misogyny as men's nature.
-- non-selective anti-Islamic sentiment, extending to other religions.
Honour killings capture the consciousness of the public, with the incomprehensibility of them. A father, a brother killing a family member. Assisted by female relatives, even. It's somehow an extension of forced marriages. I examine all this being in the position of feeling that it could easily be me. I did not realise how progressive my family were until sorely tested with my brother's sexuality. Since I don't like hiding from uncomfortable ideas: I ask myself, do I deserve it? An honour killing? I remember seeing a video of Du'a Khalil Aswad and revisiting the issue in in Channel 4's Britz. I'd congratulate myself on how lucky I am. Then I'd ask myself not to bring shame to my family, because I start to believe more and more they wouldn't do anything like this to me.
by Bhetti Ameen
You are a psychiatrist. Your patient has clearly declared his intention to kill his girlfriend some time in the future. Your patient is saying this with faith this will remain confidential.
What action do you take? How urgently?
If you do disclose this information, who do you disclose it to and how? Keep in mind there are risks to disclosure, including provoking what you seek to prevent.
How far would you go?
What's the ethical action and what's the practical one?
I'll be discussing this further (beyond the comments section) on Friday. Let's hear from you before then:
What do you do?
by Bhetti Ameen
Doctors should be interested in climate change and the environment for many reasons, including those outlined here:
Some of the headline findings were that rising temperatures are likely to increase transmission of many infectious diseases, reduce supplies of food and clean water in developing countries, and raise the number of people dying from heat-related conditions in temperate regions.
It is actually arguable whether any one 'developed' country should really care about developing countries. However, in this world strangely filled with images of starving African guilt and endless global guilt about them, the masses will accept and be motivated by this without question. Or maybe another possibility: perhaps they are just assumed to do so. In any case, although this seems to be the focus of the article, what is more important for the individual making any changes are the costs and benefits to them or their country.
Is a more environmentally friendly society an economically viable society? The answer to this is complex and beyond the scope of this post.
Is a more environmentally friendly society a healthier society? More exercise, less reliance on electricity, more locally and homegrown products. I believe the general agreement on this is that the answer is yes.
This doesn't mean that everything that's environmentally friendly is healthy:
"A low-carbon economy will mean less pollution. A low carbon-diet (especially eating less meat) and more exercise will mean less cancer, obesity, diabetes, and heart disease.
"Opportunity, surely, not cost."
Trans fats have been proven to be culrprits in the above diseases, more or less without question. Saturated fats also have been implicated and well.
However, villifying meat as a food product seems to be unfair. It is a source of protein and iron, working well if grilled or boiled and supplemented with cereals, vegetables and fruits. What's most dangerous is including fish under this heading, which is one of the healthiest foods to eat.
by Bhetti Ameen
Check out this article on Slate:
American doctors' salaries are high for several reasons. The first is the cost of education. In France and Great Britain, students go directly to medical school after high school, and their entire educations are free. In the United States, students must first get a bachelor's degree before attending medical school, and the average medical student's debt is $155,000. Then come at least three years of residency, which usually pays less than $50,000 a year. After all that, it's no wonder doctors feel entitled to six-figure salaries. Another reason U.S. doctors get paid a lot is market forces: In a single-payer system like Britain's, the government can bargain down the prices of treatments, which leads to lower income for doctors. No such entity exists in the United States—Medicare is big, but not that big.
My comment on the Slate forum:
First of all, a correction to the UK: it's not free unless you come from a low income family, otherwise you pay in the realms of over three thousand pounds a year, available as a student loan. Currently the precise figure for this year is 5374 in US dollars. The fifth or sixth final year is free and paid for by the National Health Service.
Second of all, US healthcare is internationally known and recognised as a world leader in healthcare. This is probably due to the US medical school system being the most difficult: not only is medical school a postgraduate degree in the US but the course is one of the most rigorous in terms of knowledge and testing. There have to be heavy incentives to go through all of this, as well as knowing that all the debts accumulated in at least 7 years of study are going to be paid for.
The good pay and good medicine in a civilised country all serve to attract the best of the foreign best who have to study especially for the USMLE exams (which takes a significant amount of money typically) to qualify for working in the US.
All this leads me to believe that the standards of doctors attracted are going to rapidly decline if you cut their pay. It's not the easiest jobs of any level and adding all these additional hurdles in the US produces quality doctors but makes it again much more difficult. The intelligent have options: they could equally go into the finance sector or perhaps law and make much more money, much more rapidly in jobs that're psychologically and relatively less of a draining experience.
by Bhetti Ameen
Martin's post about The Moral Authority of Artists reminded me of some works I've seen in the glorious city that I am so grateful to inhabit, London. The Top Five below encapsulate and demonstrate some of the issues regarding modern art, namely that anything is justified from pure ridiculousness to morally questionable work.
At Position Number Five: My Bed by Tracey Emin

Make your room really dirty. Do not clean up your rubbish, especially discarded underwear and condoms. Move it to a gallery, call it art, showcase the literal waste that represents your life.
Anointing Number Four: 20:50 by Richard Wilson.

It's a room full of oil. It reflects quite perfectly. You have to enter one at a time for safety reasons. I'm not sure what to say more than this.
It's a room.
Full of.
Oil.
Wearing the Crown of Number Three: Self by Mark Quinn

A man so infected with narcissism that rivalled Ms Emin, he drained blood from himself for a year to gather enough to compose a sculpture of his own head.
At Tank Number Two: The Physical Impossibility of Death in the Mind of Someone Living by Damien Hirst

A shark was killed.
So that it could be preserved.
Frozen, appearing as if it was in fact alive and fighting for it.
A very cruel piece of work, this.
As if one wasn't enough, the first was not preserved properly and they had to kill another one. Gruesome.
At the Edifice of Number One: Shibboleth by Doris Salcedo
The Tate Modern is a historic establishment, including its Turbine Hall. So, let's put a giant crack in the floor and call it art. The reactions of people to it is what makes it remotely interesting.
What it is meant to symbolise:
In particular, Salcedo is addressing a long legacy of racism and colonialism that underlies the modern world. A ‘shibboleth’ is a custom, phrase or use of language that acts as a test of belonging to a particular social group or class. By definition, it is used to exclude those deemed unsuitable to join this group.
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Oh, really? What with such a noble message, Doris' crack has become completely justified.
Including the few minor injuries it has resulted in.
P.S. If you for some God forsaken reason actually enjoyed these then, hey, looks like you can do works similar to these at home. Although I am seriously questioning the safety of the blood-taking kit, which I myself have to do some training in order to carry out safely.
by Bhetti Ameen
When the village of Bournville was founded, new residents (largely factory workers in the local Cadbury chocolate factory) were given a set of suggestions for healthy living by the Cadbury brothers. I had occasion to see this and as part of the fun tourist experience, visitors to the factory could pin up their own...
...Suggested Rules of Health:

You hear that: four! One is not fat perhaps. Two has room for doubt. We may give you three. But FOUR?
(Actually, can a person even have four folds or do you hit the human beachball stage before then?)

Well, if the only food groups are chocolate and fruit, with even that disputed since the fruit can be dipped in chocolate then I see why people might think starving themselves is healthy.

In case you cannot read the one on the right: "Chocolate made these people very rich. Keep the money in your pocket, you will be a bit richer too."
So, in fact, it's actually no chocolate any day keeps the creditors away?

For some reason, looking at these two together, I'm wanting to call this The Martin Regnen Suggestion for Health.
Don't tell him I said that.

Health: happiness now or happiness later?
Anyway, probably the most interesting part would be your silly/serious suggestion for health.
Mine is Don't Make Martin Angry.
(Which I of course follow all the time, including in this p-- oh, wait. Er, whoops?)