Roissy dropped this excellent post a few days ago about a guy who refused to pay a woman a drink at the bar. I hope most men reading this already know women today take advantage of traditional chivalry as a way to freeride. This only emphasizes an important point about feminism in general: it's not really about equality, it's about power.

This is the tricky dualism many men fall for. They only see the public woman, which seems to be behave and think like women have always done, but with the added spice of gender equality. Yet behind that public face there's a private face. The private woman plans how to best take advantage of the modern situation. It's not conspiracy talk, it's power psychology, or whatever you wanna call it. Modern women want us men to:

- Buy them things before we're committed to each other
- Do the traditional housework they've always done, in addition to all else we do
- Accept them like they want to be, but us to abandon our masculine identity
- Accept them to screw around, but give up our screwing
- Go to war for their security

There's more, but you see the pattern. We make sacrifices without getting anything in return. The secret to avoid being fooled by women's power play is to play it back, but better. The only way to do this is not to sacrifice anything you don't have to, unless you're sure you're going to get something in return. You don't buy women things if you've just met them. You don't give up your gender identity because women happen to be confused about theirs. Put simply, modern men shouldn't be screwed over. And I think they'll find, over time, that this is also the best way to win a woman over on your side, anyway.