Submitted by Staff on Sun, 07/20/2008 - 19:16.
In my file marked "keys to life," there's a simple realization: people do most of what they do to make an impression on others, and only secondarily think, is this a good idea?
The reason is simple. Influencing others is tangible and a 1:1 relationship; I react to others, they do something, I react. Plotting a good idea requires reaching out into the unknown of thousands or billions of factors. This is why we have writers and kings, to sort through this mess.
We call it status, that attribute of how we're seen and ranked by others, because in a 1:1 relationship, every aspect of reality becomes linear. Am I ahead of it, or is it ahead of me? We might not know if our decision is right, but at least we can say, "well my parents/friends/coworkers think it's smart."
Read Brett Stevens' latest article: Status And The Single Woman
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Bitter women
The unrealistic expectations that women have of life now is very true and it is due to the culture that shows like Sex and the City portray. However I don't know whether it's the western affluence that creates the shows or the other way round. When people didn't have as much and had to struggle to make a living I don't think women really had time to think of which handbag matched the colour of their shoes (Jimmy Choo of course!!) Nor could they spend time in bars looking for the guy that has it all money, charm and a caring personality, oh please... It is so true that women who have these expectations end up pretty bitter by the age of forty and beyond. I have to deal with them everyday for my job and I find them very toxic and unhappy and ready to attack anyone that threatens their delusion and high belief in themselves. What they don't realise is that they need to change their attitude and expectations. They need to understand that the glamorous life based around material stuff like that in Sex and the city does not exist and even if it did it dosen't make you happy. It is a delusion created by the media to get them to buy more products. What they need to do is become more realsitic about what it really takes to have a happy life.
mentioning the media was a good point
Women are "empowered" today - empowered to be neurotic and to spend money trying to live like the gals on Sex & The City. all this has done for our society is make us dependent on more people making professional wages than before, which ruins our real lives, which should be more focused on family, raising children, etc. my mother in-law runs a daycare out of her house, and most of the women that drop their kids off every single day with a stranger to raise them, have husbands who make plenty of money - they just don't want to give up the lifestyle they lead. this goes to prove brett's point - when it "works", all that means is that the woman has succeeded in turning the man into a relatively solid/stable money machine so she can live her own lifestyle as well.. the trendy thing now is for these 'couples" to take breaks from each other and in some cases new homes are built with two master suites. completely neurotic and stupid, and the point of this article is where it begins when it comes to the harm this inflicts on family life.