I don't pay for any of her expenses. Why should I? In an ideal world, e.g. going back 50 or so years, a man could ask a woman out on a date and he'd cover everything, because the woman would immediately feel closer to you and want to hook up for real. Today women just want to freeride on whatever they can get their hands on.

I don't take off her coat at restaurants. It's a nice gentlemanly thing to do, but it'll be expected of you to do it as well in the future. I might hand her the coat or help her to take it on again, but that's slightly different.

I don't smile when I don't have to. If what she says is not funny or interesting, why pretend it is? Again, if you smile too much, it'll be expected of you that you smile all the time, which no man will live up to.

I don't take her out bowling/pooling/laserdooming/whatever. This is mostly an activity for friends, not for more intimate socialization. If you take a woman out to play pool, you essentially say you just want to be friends and have fun. Playing games is something you want to do much later on when you're already close to each other.

I don't go out with her friends and she doesn't go out with mine. Simple rule: friends get in the way, especially her friends, which will evaluate every single thing you say or do, which will make you prone to defensive behavior. Female friends will test you in all sort of ways, and it will affect your date's judgement. I have no problem meeting her friends, but prefer to do so at a later stage when I already have some control.

I don't say what I feel for her. This should be obvious. The quicker you are to communicate how you feel, the more it seems to her like she's in control and can pretty much act any way she wants to. Just give her a hint of what you're about and let her think about the rest. It doesn't matter if what she thinks is even remotely close to reality. Let her dream.

I don't mix in alcohol into the picture. I don't really like to get drunk in any situation, especially not on a date. You'll simply say stupid shit you'll regret later and open yourself up in a vulnerable way that's going to cost you something in the long run. If you want to drink alcohol, have a beer, but let it stay there. Besides, most women are unbearable when they're tipsy.

I don't ask about her age. [---]

I don't bombard her with messages the next day (although I would like to). Stay chill.