All that stuff about being true to yourself, authentic etc. does contain a grain of truth after all. Sure, I play music "like most people take out the mail, or pour milk on their cereal, or pump gas" and will play just about any style, even music I'm not interested in ever listening to. That means I can play a lot more than people who are picky about only playing styles they like, make more money, meet more interesting people, learn more etc. Who wouldn't want all that?

In one way, though, playing something which accurately reflects your life and personality does have a benefit. The women who are into that music tend to be much better candidates for meaningful long-term relationships. They aren't horribly disappointed when they find out that you aren't really the avant-garde drone pop kind of guy who thinks more listenable music is beneath him.

So if you're like me and usually playing in four-five different bands (six at the moment), it's good to make one of them something that's all about things that are important to you and make up big chunks of your life. It's worth it even if other bands you could play in instead are better in other ways.

I guess what I really need is to find a way to put these two things together...

That could be a tall order... but if I could pull it off I'm sure I'd meet the perfect woman, or even quite a few of them.