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Title: Divorce, cheating, and infidelity fiction
Post by: prime on Mar 05, 2024, 10:13 PM
No better place to see The Human Problem than in what we fetishize. Literary erotica is mostly wishful thinking and revenge. The "Loving Wives" (https://search.literotica.com/?query=%22%20%22&categories=12&sort=date&page=1) category is either hotwifing from people who secretly hate their slut wives, or men (mostly) trying to analyze where marriage, casual sex, and divorce went wrong.


Stories in this genre, other than the usual lit-erotica trope of an idealized man having lots of sex with multiple idealized women who fawn over him as if he had purchased them, take one of two forms: reconciliation at all costs (RAAC), or burn the bastard/bitch (BTB) in which the aggrieved and victimized innocent spouse, a husband (cuckold) or wife (cuckquean), embarks on divorce or separation with some element of retaliation or revenge.

A few new types have emerge. Burn your former life (BYFL) means destroying or stealing your net worth and escaping to a new identity, country, or lifestyle, and divorce and get on living a good life (DAGOLAGL) means simply escaping as best as possible. Much of this genre is fantasy and consists of cheating wives eventually realizing their mistake and ending up in pain. There is also a lot of sodomy and rage.

Content warning: this way lies only the pain that casual sex and jobs have inflicted on an otherwise mostly functional civilization.
Title: Re: Divorce, cheating, and infidelity fiction
Post by: prime on Mar 12, 2024, 08:55 AM
The high cost of broken homes:

QuoteI remember standing next to him, in the place where Nancy should have been. The Nancy that had died now almost four years ago on a drug overdoses. The Nancy, who had been his baby girl for so many years, only to grow up, confused and angry, not even knowing why she was so confused and angry. A Nancy lost to us, for seemingly no reason.

https://www.literotica.com/s/it-s-all-good

These are stories about abuse, including sexual abuse, by one family member against another. They are also about how abusers as narcissists destroy the self-esteem of their victim. Frequently the victims are groomed via gaslighting:

QuoteBut humanists see grooming as one person conditioning another person to allow them or someone else to abuse them.  The term is often associated with pedophiles preying on children, sex traffickers conditioning women for prostitution or husbands conditioning their wives to allow them to abuse them.

https://biblicalgenderroles.com/2020/07/16/7-steps-to-grooming-your-christian-wife/

The cheaters are self-esteem-destroyers:

Quote'Don't let her take your pride too.' She had stolen a lot with her infidelity; my confidence as a husband, as a lover, as a man, my faith in her in particular and people in general. She stole my sense of what my future would hold.

https://www.literotica.com/s/glens-pride

Cheatards are motivated by individualism and self-pity:

QuoteI guess a lot of it has to do with the excitement and the thrill of doing something behind my families back that is only for me. It was so wrong but that partially made it so thrilling. And my life is so boring and it seemed to her that no one needed her anymore.

https://www.literotica.com/s/a-daughters-revenge-1

The bed is shat (1) or not shat (0)
But one cannot unshit the bed.

QuoteMom for whatever reason has thrown that code out the door by her actions with your Uncle Dan and once that trust and deceit is done; it can't be undone.

A scream for the inner child:

Quote"You took the innocence right out of your marriage and made it something dirty and ugly. "

https://www.literotica.com/s/requital

Just lay your head back on the ground
And let your hair fall all around me
Offer up your best defense
But this is the end
This is the end of the innocence

RUINED

Quote"I just know you've ruined something that was really beautiful, you know that? Now, I don't have anything but pain...and it won't go away. I loved you with all my being."

https://www.literotica.com/s/separate-lives-pt-01

Torment, ill forgotten
A soul that will never rest.
Innocence withdrawn in fear.
Fires burning can you hear
Cries in the night.

In my view, most of these stories are off-base for the following reasons:


There is also a Darwinian question:

Quote"He told me why she wasn't getting pregnant. She made a big deal about flushing her pills, then went the next day and got one of those implants that last for three months. She plans on saying she got tested and can't conceive. She doesn't want kids, can't stand them, doesn't want to wreck her body and make that kind of time commitment to anyone or anything. She's really shallow when you get down to it, odd how we never noticed it, isn't it? I must say she hid it really well."

https://www.literotica.com/s/did-you-really-mean-it

People who are hostile to biology are portrayed as parasitic viruses. Biology is tied to loyalty and affection:

Quote"There's no such thing as just sex. It's broken promises. It's disrespect. Most of all, it's not love."

https://www.literotica.com/s/anniversary-cheat

This one's for the Gen X kids... you all know what it is.

Quote"Paula has figured out most of what happened. She's no dummy that one. She's incredibly pissed at me and most conversations are monosyllabic. The other two are just confused about why I don't live at home any more. But there is still love there. It's not the same and it's not right and they growing...hardened. I can see it. There's a way they've changed in how they look at the world. Paula, in particular, is far more fatalistic about the world now. I don't know what to do about it – I keep reaching out to her, but she's just not interested."

https://www.literotica.com/s/live-from-the-game-ch-05

Interesting direct cite of reverse discrimination:

QuoteThe mantra these days was that the woman had to be believed. She had to be believed regardless of whether there is any proof or not.

https://www.literotica.com/s/the-guitar-player-ch-03

Psychology of the promiscuous (people with emotional disregulation tend to find, associate with, and defend others with their disease):

QuoteLenz, who writes the popular liberal blog 'Men Yell At Me', has written extensively about her divorce from her Trump-supporting husband-of-twelve-years David Lenz in publications such as Esquire and The Washington Post.

David is now happily remarried to another woman, with Lenz writing of her joy at being able to have 'really good sex' with other partners on their marriage foundering.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13254103/Lyz-Lenz-middle-class-women-happy-marriages-white-supremacists.html

Cheating is how muscletards reproduce:

QuoteTalan Renner, 17, reportedly boasted to Snapchat friends after throwing 'hammer punches' on Preston Lord at the bash in Gilbert, Arizona, in October 2023. He wrote:  I got in a fight, a big group fight and I accidentally killed a kid. I guess I'm just too strong.'

Renner and six other alleged bullies have been arrested over the death of Lord, who died of a brain injury two days after the beating. Police records allege one unnamed boy danced on the dying teen's body shortly after the beating, while others performed 'humping' - simulated rape acts - to further degrade their victim.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13254373/talan-renner-bragged-beating-preston-lord-death.html

It's either literal cuckold where the parasite attaches to a decent man in order to provide offspring for an idiot, or sexual cuckold where the parasite attaches so that it can have a normal life in addition to its lust-life, or leaves normal life for a sexual obsession:

QuoteAfter months and months, we finally decided that we would try to find a surrogate husband. We had no idea what we were doing, but it sounded like a good idea at the time. Trying to find a suitable guy was not that easy. It had to be somebody who we felt could provide a stable environment and still be a good companion.

https://www.literotica.com/s/turning-tables-2

Funny how unequally yoked -- cross-ethnic, cross-class, and cross-racial -- marriages are portrayed as working out as badly as they do in real life:

QuoteShe was definitely upset when she jumped to her feet. "Damn you, Tony! I hate you. You Wop bastard." With that outburst, she left the room bawling. That was the first time she had ever swore at me and the first time she every made any derogatory remarks about my heritage. The Dutchie in her, finally came out.

...Carla and I were tearing up the sheets by noon the second day. My mother was right, I should have married an Italian girl. It felt natural and I did not feel as if I was cheating.

https://www.literotica.com/s/the-old-neighborhood-1

Performance anxiety (for women):

QuoteBecause she was not actually married to Rich and their relationship was only a relationship for a time, she did not feel the moral pressures of her upbringing. She did not feel the need to act as the proper wife and mother of his children. She could easily and openly talk with him about anything sexually, telling him of her fantasies she would have feared to tell her husband. So, it wasn't about the sex they had, that made the sex so good.

https://www.literotica.com/s/between-two-lovers-ch-01

At the core, individualism -- denying the gods/nature for the sake of ego -- spreads its wings:

QuoteKaren thrived on the attention. The ancient Greeks had a word for it; hubris... a great or foolish amount of pride.

https://www.literotica.com/s/birth-day-club-ch-03

It's the French Revolution narrative!

Quote"He made me realize I'm entitled to have sex with three different men so we can enter our marriage as equals."

https://www.literotica.com/s/never-is-forever

The magic word:

Quote"I take care of our family! We do it together! We're equals!" She had a look of triumph, like she'd found the secret phrase that would make everything better. Equals.

https://www.literotica.com/s/february-sucks-for-walter-mitty

Aaaand it's that individualism inversion:

QuoteALL LIES. Planned, rationalized, justified, excused lies.

https://www.literotica.com/s/open-letter-about-flings

Matriarchy:

Quote"You just have to understand that women are the natural choice to be in charge, and we have to use whatever means are at our disposal to gain that advantage. And the fact is that, despite what you might believe based on messages in popular culture, women need far more sex than men and can do it longer and better. We have to have more than one lover, and we need other men to serve in particular roles."

https://www.literotica.com/s/just-accept-it

A criticism of no-fault divorce laws:

QuoteShe can fuck the entire Giants football team in Times Square, and he will still end up paying for a house he can no longer live in, pay most of his paycheck in alimony lose half of his retirement, lose half of his life's savings. She lives like a queen while he is hoping that he has enough money for a couple cheap cans of tuna and some packets of Top Ramen to eat. The divorce laws in this state actually reward women for cheating on their husbands while punishing the innocent men for being faithful.

https://www.literotica.com/s/the-juror

And the technical side, albeit from a careerist perspective:

QuoteSo what do the courts do when dividing marital property? First, at least in Illinois, they never refer to the grounds of divorce when splitting the marital assets. To the contrary, the statute expressly directs the courts to divide marital property—and determine alimony and child support, for that matter—without reference to the grounds of dissolution. The reason for this, and why most states have similar no-fault divisions of marital assets, is simple: Courts are too busy to litigate which spouse was the bigger bastard during the marriage before making the property split.

No, courts in Illinois determine property splits based on the quaint, and faintly defined, notion of doing what's equitable, which is another way for saying it seems the most fair under the circumstances. However, the layman's idea of fair and the legal notion of fair are diametrically opposed matters. How so? Well, take the wife earning $200,000 a year and the husband earning $40,000 per year and tell me which one will get a higher portion of the marital assets. The one who earned, and thus contributed, more to the marital assets? Wrong answer. Rather, the one who earned less will get a higher portion to give that person an opportunity to give them a more sound footing on which to start their new, post-divorce life.

https://www.literotica.com/s/a-crash-course-in-family-law

(Translation: whichever party is the bigger bastard gets to seize half the wealth, instead of having a court decide to punish the bastard and reward the relatively innocent. This is especially relevant in adultery cases, where our gut instinct is to throw out the cheater without a cent.)

Means-over-ends:

QuoteLike most men, I fell in lust with the exterior packaging and forgot to check under the hood to see what made this model tick. There was nothing wrong, but there was nothing really right either.

https://literotica.com/s/the-adulteress-1

Zero-sum:

QuoteYou eliminated me from an intimacy that you and I have shared together for over ten years.

https://literotica.com/s/the-key-15
Title: Re: Divorce, cheating, and infidelity fiction
Post by: prime on Mar 15, 2024, 09:21 PM
Many of them feature people waiting until the kids are gone to split from a spouse who has become a narcissist, solipsism, individualist, sociopath, psychopath, or simply aggressive negotiator:

QuoteThere has been a growing trend in recent years for 'grey divorce', when couples in long-term marriages split after the age of 50.

Firstly, the study found that grey divorce generally leads to a decrease in the frequency of contact between adult children and their fathers.

On the other hand, there was an increase in the frequency of contact and in emotional closeness with mothers.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech/article-13197789/grey-divorce-reshapes-family-dynamics.html

Interesting the kids end up with the mother. Maybe the same biases that allow our society to see women as passive also makes them into perfect Virgin Mary like victims.

It turns out that battered husbands who are afraid to stop their narcissistic wives are a thing:

QuoteChilling never-before-seen footage from a nanny cam has revealed the moment a battered husband cowered on the floor while his wife hurled abuse at him and brandished a knife in their home during her 20-year reign of terror.

And explosive clips from police interviews show Sheree casually lying about her husband being the abuser, only for her face to turn ashen when confronted with the footage.

On one occasion she defecated on the floor and forced him to clean it up, and on another she beat him with a wine bottle so hard it permanently disfigured his ear.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13200557/Nanny-cam-footage-sheree-spencer-wife-abuser.html

Sometimes with erroneous legal decisions:

QuoteWhen they started dating, Jason had been divorced for several years. His first wife, he says, had cheated on him. Tiffiney was in a relationship at the time — married, in fact. It wasn't exactly a fairytale beginning from the outside looking in, but Jason says, for the two of them, it was.

Just hours before she got home, Jason found messages on their computer suggesting that she was having an affair.

Tiffiney's mom, Cheryl, says she knew about the affair.

https://www.cbsnews.com/news/tiffiney-crawford-death-jason-crawford-911-call-alabama-murder-verdict-48-hours/

Sex cannot be separated from love. Affairs end marriages because you can never trust or respect the cheating spouse again.

QuoteI was open to reconciliation, but I just didn't see how we could get there. I was never going to cheat on Tilly, so the only way to move forward with her was to accept her betrayal and forgive her for it. And that would always leave the scales of our marriage tilted. Combine that with her lack of remorse and her philosophy that there were exceptions to everything in life, and I had no confidence that she wouldn't do it again.

https://www.literotica.com/s/how-do-the-scales-balance

And a bit of PUA/MRA:

QuoteI'm a new man, and I would throw you out in a minute if you ever disrespected me again. You would no longer be my queen, or even my equal. You've taught me to treat women for what they are: deceitful, selfish beings. To me, women are just here to please me, not something I can ever depend on or expect loyalty from. In my view, women are no longer my equal, and I now treat them that way. The funny thing is that the more I treat them as beneath me, the more they want and respect me. You also taught me that being the caring, wimpy guy might be nice for the woman but does nothing for the man.

https://www.literotica.com/s/the-heart-never-waits

I think this describes most humans generally: they want to be degraded because that makes them important.

The eugenics question:

Quote"My grandpa always used to tell us the story. A horse was loosely tied up in front of the general store. A guy came by, untied the horse, and rode off with it. The question is: did he become a horse thief when he stole the horse, or did he steal the horse because he was a horse thief? Many others had walked past and didn't steal the horse."

"Hmm." I poured a fresh cup of coffee from the thermos. "I guess all these years I've been married to a cheater, a cruel, cowardly liar and cheater." Shaking my head, all I could say was, "I had no idea."

https://www.literotica.com/s/february-sucks-in-cold-blood

Too bad your kids are half-moron/fool.

QuoteThe worst thing is your heart, the excitement, the tingling you have, to seduce him and betray me. That thrill is downright evil. If you had an ounce of integrity, you'd come to me and tell me you want to be with him. That would hurt me, but I'd respect your wish and not stand in the way of your happiness. Fortunately, I found out about it in time, so I can still give you the divorce and set you free to have all the excitement with your Mr. Stevens you want. Only now, I'm devastated that, after our twenty-six years together, you disrespected me so much you did it behind my back

https://www.literotica.com/s/no-anniversary

More eugenics:

QuoteHow do I know you won't do that again? Maybe it's in your DNA, or something.

https://www.literotica.com/s/turnaround-is-fair-play-feb-sucks

You will find that in many of these stories, the kids of man and moron (or woman and moron) have follow a Punnett Square, that is half take after the Dad in being sensible and the other half are idiots like the mom or vice-versa.

QuoteDerek, our 22-year-old, was always the more perceptive of our two kids. Natalie, two years younger, just assumed everything in the world existed for her pleasure, and therefore she had no need to perceive things.

https://www.literotica.com/s/feeding-ducks

Casual sex is a lie that rapes love:

QuoteThe longer you kiss and fuck someone, you can't help building an attraction. You can't avoid it, we're simply wired that way. So, if you kiss and have sex with Jack, or anybody else, there is no way you can avoid building affection of some sort. Call me selfish, call me what you will, but I refuse to be married to someone building that kind of affection with another man.

https://www.literotica.com/s/making-it-to-25

Inverted "love" is abuse:

Quote"You don't do that to someone you love, or at least not someone you're in love with."

https://www.literotica.com/s/honesty-above-all

Forgiveness does not mean BOHICA:

Quote"Forgiveness isn't forgetting, Mike. It's not letting people back into your life, nor is it about trusting them again."

https://www.literotica.com/s/after-the-future-is-gone-pt-01

Equality destroys self-esteem

Quote"A man's perception of himself," I answered, "is made up of his pride, his ethics, his self-worth and his self-respect. I would sacrifice all of those if I stayed married to you. I don't think your betrayal could be kept from our kids. Over the years, they would learn what happened last night. In about ten years, our grown-up babies are going to ask me why I divorced you rather than live with you in a loveless marriage for the sake of the family. I can answer that question. On the other hand, they would lose all respect for me if they learned that I stayed with you as a cuckold after being so treacherously betrayed."

https://www.literotica.com/s/february-sucks-one-more-time-1

Consequences of equality -- wealth transfer:

QuoteThe patriarchal society that we have known for centuries is slowly giving way to a matriarchal order that is seeing women poised to take control of government and power in the next century.

https://www.literotica.com/s/husband-has-a-limit

Love is the transcendent:

QuoteI didn't think of myself as a separate person. Since we were married, I thought of us as one. Two organisms, but one life force.

https://www.literotica.com/s/law-of-the-heart-ch-04

Have versus have-nots? Users versus the used, and since the users win over time, society declines:

Quote"I'm sure she liked you well enough to begin with, but she's a user. I don't mean she's using drugs. She's manipulative. She was using you. Maybe it didn't start that way, but think of all the things you did for her and ask yourself what she did for you."

https://www.literotica.com/s/playing-the-game-9
Title: Re: Divorce, cheating, and infidelity fiction
Post by: prime on Mar 16, 2024, 08:25 AM
At the core of these stories is casual sex, which not only allows for abuse, but makes people alienated from each other to the point that many of the people in these stories are complete strangers to their spouses:

QuoteI knew what she had been like before we got together, how could I not? She lived two doors down from me and we had been classmates from the fifth grade all the way through high school. I was at a party after the senior prom where she had taken on seven of our classmates. I'd been in the car next to her at the drive in movie when she and Steve had climbed into the back seat and the car started rocking. Ten minutes later Steve had gotten in the front and Ted had gotten in back with her and the car bounced some more. I had been on the roof of our house installing a motorized TV antenna and had looked down into her backyard and had seen her on her knees sucking Mark's cock while Ben fucked her from behind.

I knew what she was before she started going steady with me, but none of that mattered once she committed to me any more than Donna, Maria, Sue, Abby, Bonnie, Sarah or Nancy mattered to Michelle once I committed to her.

You might ask why, given our close proximity to each other and given the way she was, that I had never been one of her lovers and that we had never even dated before halfway through our junior year in college. The simple fact is that I was insecure where Michelle was concerned. She as just so beautiful, outgoing and fun loving and I was such a nobody that she intimidated me. Maybe intimidated is not the right word to use. Maybe not intimidated as much as afraid of rejection.

https://www.literotica.com/s/michelle-and-jimmy
Title: Re: Divorce, cheating, and infidelity fiction
Post by: prime on Mar 16, 2024, 08:55 AM
QuoteI gave away something very clean at that party and like my virginity, I can't get it back.

https://www.literotica.com/s/one-slip-a-hard-fall

Hint: it's about casual sex and chastity.
Title: Re: Divorce, cheating, and infidelity fiction
Post by: prime on Mar 16, 2024, 10:18 AM
And self-image, always important in a democracy:

QuoteI hated Jenny more than I'd ever hated anyone in my life. But my heart was singing, I heard birds chirping sweetly in the trees, and my blood was racing through me with joy. She wanted to come back again! She loved me!

https://www.literotica.com/s/my-second-nightmare
Title: Re: Divorce, cheating, and infidelity fiction
Post by: prime on Mar 16, 2024, 11:45 AM
Disturbing subplot: some of these writers are very fascinated with sodomy. Did infidelity turn them proto-gay?

QuoteThen I went down on her again – this time adding a finger then two. I started rimming her ass with my tongue exerting more and more pressure. Melinda moaned as her head was turning side to side, begging me for another fucking as I actually fucked her ass with my tongue. I rose up between her thighs, hooked her heels on my shoulders and pushed my cock down until it centered in her little brown rosebud. I told her I was going to fuck her ass.

Her face was a masque of conflicting emotions. She wanted me in her again – just not exactly where I was planning on going. We had done anal a couple of times, usually when she was fall down drunk. She wasn't close to that. We both knew I wasn't going to force her, but it was clear that I was intending to press the issue – so to speak. I played my trump card (I can't tell you how tempted I was to call it "my hole card.") "Forgive me for being such an asshole these last couple of weeks?"

https://www.literotica.com/s/52-pick-up

Addendum: it is both a proxy for control and a proxy for virginity.

Quote"Go for it and have a memorable fuck and let him have that virgin ass of yours he been begging for."

https://www.literotica.com/s/the-receipt

Looks like casual sex has torched Scandinavia as well.
Title: Re: Divorce, cheating, and infidelity fiction
Post by: prime on Mar 16, 2024, 07:45 PM
A split here: integralists want sex and love to be coincident, but externalists are perfectly happy to separate the two.

QuoteI always felt that sex and romance should go hand in hand. For Sally it was all about the sex.

https://www.literotica.com/s/computer-history-log
Title: Re: Divorce, cheating, and infidelity fiction
Post by: prime on Mar 16, 2024, 08:07 PM
The cuckoo drops its egg into the nests of other birds, often removing their eggs in the process. This is the origin of the term "cuckold." Imagine accidentally raising a potato:

QuoteThe combination of the Irish reveal, an unknown first cousin and later discovering that she wasn't a genetic match with any of her cousins on her father's side led to one conclusion: the man who raised her wasn't her biological father.

After the initial shock, Paterson tried to understand at what point in her family tree this anomaly occurred. She would learn through research that the unknown first cousin had the same last name as a doctor who worked at the hospital her mother worked at in the 1950s.

https://www.ctvnews.ca/canada/i-was-stunned-dna-tests-reveal-hidden-family-secret-for-b-c-woman-1.6810193
Title: Re: Divorce, cheating, and infidelity fiction
Post by: prime on Mar 17, 2024, 09:26 AM
Crux of the rage. A choice has been made, but waffling has followed.

QuoteAnyway, your affair tells me that you really aren't committed to me or this marriage.

https://www.literotica.com/s/friend-request-accepted

Deprivation is also an issue:

QuoteSuddenly, the woman I desired, and who used to desire me, would barely touch me. If I tried to initiate sex she would move away or say she was tired, leaving me upset and frustrated.

Four years into our marriage, we had a two-year-old and a baby — and a non-existent sex life.

I did not want to cheat. Despite everything, I still loved and fancied my wife and adored our family. But there are only so many times you can hear a woman say how tired and exhausted she is before recognising that the problem isn't with you, it's with her. Something in my brain shifted.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-13244203/I-forced-cheat-wife-having-children-wrecked-sex-life-deceit-justified.html

BTW, I don't buy the term "forced." Forced means a gun at your back. He chose to handle the situation without her and probably has her tacit consent.
Title: Re: Divorce, cheating, and infidelity fiction
Post by: prime on Mar 17, 2024, 02:39 PM
Why it's angry:

Quote"I was trying to get away from a cheating wife without getting raped by the legal system to do it. I didn't do anything wrong, but if I'd stayed I'd have ended up paying for her cheating on me and I didn't think that was right and I wasn't going to do it."

https://www.literotica.com/s/on-the-road-away-from-her

How it breaks the marriage:

QuoteVictor didn't care whether she approved of his drinking or not; after all, she didn't ask his opinion before spreading her legs open for her boss.

https://www.literotica.com/s/revelations-26
Title: Re: Divorce, cheating, and infidelity fiction
Post by: prime on Mar 17, 2024, 03:39 PM
QuoteI am someone's wife, someone's mother. I took vows and was building a life and a family. I am living a lie, day in and day out.

https://www.literotica.com/s/anatomy-of-an-affair
Title: Re: Divorce, cheating, and infidelity fiction
Post by: prime on Mar 18, 2024, 04:52 AM
A species tormented by its own neurosis:

QuoteI smoke and drink too much and Cathy is a little self-centered and the poster child for passive aggression. Cathy argues her passive aggression is a result of my smoking and drinking and I argue that I drink and smoke because she's so damn passive aggressive. Round and round, on and on but somehow it all worked.

https://www.literotica.com/s/brain-stew
Title: Re: Divorce, cheating, and infidelity fiction
Post by: prime on Mar 18, 2024, 09:10 AM
It's the casual sex. No one can ever measure up to the illusion of partial knowledge.

Quote[E]very single woman on the internet or at the bar [has] had a hot sex experience once that would today confound them if they were to meet each other again. All of us women, like all of you men, have a past.

https://www.literotica.com/s/eve-and-jerrys-new-baby
Title: Re: Divorce, cheating, and infidelity fiction
Post by: prime on Mar 18, 2024, 09:41 AM
Rejection:

Quote"I apologized until I was blue in the face. I told him that none of it was his fault, that it was me who'd destroyed our wonderful marriage.

He said it couldn't have been too wonderful if it wasn't enough to keep me out of Douglas' bed."

https://www.literotica.com/s/regrets-17

Transcendental bonding:

QuoteI am the man who forms attachments. When I buy a car, I keep it until it won't drive another mile. It fits me and it feels right. I don't just buy a house; I inhabit it. I bond with it. The walls become my fortress and the ground around it nurtures me. My job becomes my avocation. I rise in the morning with excitement and go to bed at night with satisfaction in a day well spent. My friends are everything to me and my family is foremost in all things.

https://www.literotica.com/s/life-in-exile

Paranoia:

QuoteMrs. Watson took that moment to point out that most situations like ours, more times than not, manifest from both people forgetting to defend and protect each other from the outside world. That a crack in a marriage foundation, no matter how slight, can be manipulated by those with selfish intentions and insert themselves into a marriage normally with a negative after effect.

https://www.literotica.com/s/options-5

The only solution to the tragedy of the commons:

Quote"In this State a man is entitled to use such force as is reasonably necessary to protect himself, his family, and his property. While no one would argue that another person could be considered "property," the marriage can be viewed as property with its own interests that are independent of the parties themselves.

https://www.literotica.com/s/january-sucks

Escape parasites:

QuoteWhile looking up and down the shore I was reminded that when they refuel those nuclear boats, they cut a hole in the hull to refuel the reactor and then weld the hull back together. Was that a metaphor for me? Was Karen's betrayal that tore a hole in my heart nothing more than the first step in refueling my life? Could I heal myself once my new life had begun?

https://www.literotica.com/s/ghost-on-the-wind

Mutality:

QuoteIf she was through with me, then I was certainly through with her as well.

https://www.literotica.com/s/clueless-6

Tribalism:

Quote"I even gave you a second chance, something I almost never do. But then you decided to betray me. I don't associate with traitors, and that's what you are."

https://www.literotica.com/s/roland-and-susan

The criminal mentality:

QuoteShe wanted to believe she was terrified by her narrow escape from disaster, but she knew it was untrue. What she'd experienced when Jack told the story was not terror, or guilt, but pleasure – the thrill of the sky diver or bungee jumper in the moment of escape from disaster. Her success made her charitable and she felt compassion and sympathy for Jack. Having won, she wanted to make him feel better – until the next time.

https://www.literotica.com/s/caroline-alone-ch-01?page=3

Jobs are jails and careers are voluntary servitude:

QuoteWe grew up, our priorities changed. Suddenly the thought of ducking out of work and spending the day playing wasn't as important as making a meeting or coming in early to beat the competition, so you'd have a leg up when promotion time came along, or you couldn't go on a spontaneous road trip because you had things left over from the week before, and needed to finish them and start on the new week so you'd gain ground. Good or bad, Beverly, we grew up, and now we're growing old.

https://www.literotica.com/s/let-go-6?page=5
Title: Re: Divorce, cheating, and infidelity fiction
Post by: prime on Mar 18, 2024, 02:37 PM
QuoteI want you to think about me and your mother. Look at us. I've been married to her for seventeen years, and not a day goes by that I regret it. You and her are the most precious things I have, and my life would be empty without you in it. I love her just as much as I did when I saw her in her wedding dress. She is my everything. Things haven't always been easy between us. After all, I'm nine years older than her. The age difference makes it somewhat tough for us at times. We struggle, we fight, but we've always made it through. She knows that I'm not going anywhere. After it's all said and done, we each know that we have a lifelong partner in the other. Nothing is going to split us apart. I won't let it. Neither will she. Trust me son, you want that.

https://www.literotica.com/s/standing-at-the-cliff
Title: Re: Divorce, cheating, and infidelity fiction
Post by: prime on Mar 19, 2024, 08:09 AM
This one explicitly links casual sex, jealousy, and cheating:

QuoteSheila chose the afterglow of one of our love-making sessions to tell me an amusing little anecdote about her former boyfriend, James. It seems he decided to cook dinner naked after Sheila and he had made love. The prep in the kitchen involved chopping up some fresh red chilli peppers, then he went to the toilet. Sheila smiled as she recalled how he yelled with pain and she had to get ice from the freezer to help cool down his burning member.

The details of the story were not particularly shocking or even titillating. But something changed. I had been given a brief glimpse into the intimacy of Sheila's previous relationship and it was as if a switch flicked in my brain. I became fixated on her romantic history. It was all in the past and had happened well before I met Sheila, but I was unaccountably angry and jealous.

https://www.literotica.com/s/retro

High costs of no-fault divorce:

QuoteA Kentucky father has admitted to faking his death to avoid paying his ex-wife more than $100,000 in outstanding child support and is facing serious jail time for the elaborate ruse.

Kipf admitted to completing a Hawaii Death Certificate Worksheet in Jan. 2023, where he created a fake death certificate for himself and "assigned himself as the medical certifier for the case and certified that case."

https://nypost.com/2024/04/07/us-news/kentucky-dad-jesse-kipf-faked-his-own-death-to-avoid-paying-more-than-100k-in-child-support-faces-lengthy-jail-time/

Including REDRUM, which probably peaked during the COVID-19 fake pandemic panic:

QuoteBecky Bliefnick was discovered dead in her Illinois home one afternoon earlier this year. Her bedroom door had been kicked open, and the nurse and mother of three was on the bathroom floor. She'd been shot 14 times.

Her husband, a star college football player and well-known local salesman who once appeared on "Family Feud" and described saying "I do" as the biggest mistake someone could make at their wedding, was convicted of her murder in May.

https://www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news/-tim-bliefnick-becky-family-feud-murder-rcna123260

She sounds like a delusional votard. When the courts give everything to the woman, they give the man an incentive to light 'er up.
Title: Re: Divorce, cheating, and infidelity fiction
Post by: prime on Mar 19, 2024, 03:29 PM
At the core of our existential question is our biological question:

QuoteEvery animal is on this planet for one reason. To have babies. As a species, we've learned to walk upright, have multi-thousand-word lexicons, and be so sophisticated that we can elect absolute morons to rule over us, but, at heart, we're still animals. Nowhere in nature is there a job description, 'grandmother', or 'grandfather'. Humans, like all creatures, need a reason to live.

https://www.literotica.com/s/dave-and-the-gloryhole
Title: Re: Divorce, cheating, and infidelity fiction
Post by: prime on Mar 19, 2024, 08:00 PM
It's not uncommon for the cheaters to retaliate against the victim for noticing:

QuoteGavin Harper, 45, said acting Inspector Andrew McLullich and his estranged wife Pc Stephanie Glynn started punching and kicking him when he discovered their affair.

Harper is on trial accused of stalking his wife and wounding married Mr McLullich during the confrontation, in February 2021.

But today he told the jury that he only punched Mr McLullich 'three or four times' in self-defence. And he claimed the couple, who both worked for Merseyside police, assaulted him when they realised he was filming their sexual encounter on his mobile phone and feared they would lose their jobs.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13215817/Police-constable-caught-inspector-having-sex-wife-Screwfix-car-park-s-t-kicked-couple-confronted-court-told.html

The ones who do not fly into a rage are the ones who get away with murder:

QuoteDavid Lukey, an aerospace engineer, flew into a rage when he returned to the family home to find wife Andrea half-dressed and evidence of another man in the house.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13209045/Husband-wife-affairs-snapped-punched-rugby-player-lover.html

When we add up all the numbers in the future, it will turn out that no-fault divorce led to an epic number of murders.

If you catch your wife cheating, turn off her phone, pack her bags including toiletries and important paperwork, then suffocate her and put her into her car and then push the car into a lake with her bags and phone. Then tell some gossip that she left you and you have no idea where she was going. The word will spread, and by the time anyone thinks to start looking for her, no one will care.

I think a lot of Boomers killed their spouses during COVID-19. All you needed was a positive test and the panicked neurotics would incinerate the corpse without checking for signs of murder.
Title: Re: Divorce, cheating, and infidelity fiction
Post by: prime on Mar 21, 2024, 12:36 PM
Normies can't make decisions, so they wait for an excuse and then rationalize:

QuoteI should have stopped it before it went too far, but my selfishness and hubris overrode my rational thinking, and I fell into a stupid affair. Yes, he seduced me, but I let it happen.

https://www.literotica.com/s/long-term-affair-consequences
Title: Re: Divorce, cheating, and infidelity fiction
Post by: prime on Mar 21, 2024, 03:20 PM
They mention narcissism/codependency:

QuoteForcing someone to be good is not what we should want in life. You do not have the same love for me that I had for you because when I loved you, it was self-less, as my desire was always what I could do for you rather than what love can do for me. Your narcissism and selfishness did not permit that love.

https://www.literotica.com/s/breaching-a-partnership
Title: Re: Divorce, cheating, and infidelity fiction
Post by: prime on Mar 21, 2024, 09:06 PM
No-fault divorce gives women financial incentive to cheat:

QuoteRepublican pundits and lawmakers have been pushing back on the availability of no-fault divorce, challenging the idea that not being in love is a valid reason to end a marriage.

https://phys.org/news/2024-03-americans-fault-divorce-marriage.html
Title: Re: Divorce, cheating, and infidelity fiction
Post by: prime on Mar 22, 2024, 11:39 AM
Final diagnosis: these are abused children. Who else fears confrontation? Only those whose parents beat them down and refused to instill confidence in them.

QuoteI hate confrontation. I always have. I avoid it like the plague. If I dislike someone, I avoid them. I cut them out of my life. It works pretty well. Occasionally, I can't avoid a person, but usually, I can. I'm like that because my parents yelled and screamed at each other for years instead of getting divorced. If I have to confront or fight someone, I will, but only if there is no other option.

https://www.literotica.com/s/jim-and-bonnie-and-julie

It takes an extreme transgression to bring these people to the point of conflict and then they flip/invert. What was once passive becomes active, to the point of being murderous. Abuse a dog and it will take it until it has no option, and then it will bite. These stories, like the conservative-themed action adventure movies where the protagonist sees his family killed before he will act, are designed to convince the abused child that he can flip and be justified in doing so.

I started reading these as an analysis of a literary trope that somehow popped up on writing about sex, and now believe I have found a group of people confessing their abuse stories to one another through a subconscious language that they can all understand without consciously admitting that this is what is occurring.
Title: Re: Divorce, cheating, and infidelity fiction
Post by: prime on Mar 22, 2024, 03:25 PM
Abused child behavior?

QuoteI folded down into the tub and sobbed like an abandoned child until the hot water turned cold.

https://www.literotica.com/s/cheating-wife-but-so-much-fixed?page=3

Title: Re: Divorce, cheating, and infidelity fiction
Post by: prime on Mar 22, 2024, 05:40 PM
Binary solutions: be with a traitor, or have the possibility of something new?

QuoteDivorce doesn't have to only be heartbreak, custody battles and bitter ex-spouses. Experts explain how you can work toward building something new in the wake.

https://www.ctvnews.ca/lifestyle/the-bright-side-of-divorce-according-to-experts-1.6816237

People without purpose (narcissists, solipsists, individualists, Communists, and Christians are this) will use you for their own ends:

QuoteOf course, her reply was to be expected. "I don't want a divorce."

My response had been thought about and prepared for six months. "Of course not. You want me to be the guy who pays for this house, mows the yard weekly, cleans the pool daily, and buys the groceries as you are far too busy to be bothered by such mundane trivialities. Add to the fact that you don't have to provide even pity sex to your husband, since it has been months since you have allowed me even a glance at your body or allowed even a token touch, then I understand why you don't want a divorce."

https://www.literotica.com/s/remember-when-10
Title: Re: Divorce, cheating, and infidelity fiction
Post by: prime on Mar 22, 2024, 08:21 PM
They always know, even if they cannot articulate it at the time:

QuoteIt appears to be a message to a departed loved one as it begins 'For My Love'.

The inscription was spotted on a bench in Royal York Crescent in the Clifton area of the city this morning.

The full message reads: 'For My Love. 06.09.69 - 25.12.23. Husband, Father, Adulterer. Yes, Roger, I knew.'

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13227611/bristol-plaque-bench-roger-adulterer.html
Title: Re: Divorce, cheating, and infidelity fiction
Post by: prime on Mar 22, 2024, 09:30 PM
Meatsuit people:

QuoteVisually, nothing was different. It was a familiar, even intimate tableau that screamed of normalcy. However, under the comfortable and familiar exterior - the camouflage layer - nothing was the same. The Maria I'd married, loved, impregnated, comforted, nursed through sickness, and pledged my love, my life, and my loyalty to was gone.

https://www.literotica.com/s/the-talk-leads-to-explosive-end
Title: Re: Divorce, cheating, and infidelity fiction
Post by: prime on Mar 23, 2024, 01:37 PM
A couple cheaters:

QuoteJust two years ago, Paul Browning, 37, was living the perfect suburban family life with his wife Jo Browning, 32 and their young daughter in leafy Abergavenny in South Wales.

Terry, 56, who was best man at Gordon Ramsay's wedding and is a well known TV chef on programmes like Great British Menu, was also having an affair under the nose of his wife Jo Terry, 54, who Paul says has been left in the same lurch as him.

Paul said: 'My wife came clean about the affair in May last year. She actually only came clean after Stephen Terry's daughters had seen her name pop up on their dad's phone and she knew that I was going to be told. '

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13118531/My-wife-left-Gordon-Ramsays-best-man-knew-marriage-went-Paris-Jilted-lover-claims-hes-financially-crippled-divorce-ex-enjoys-luxury-trips-TV-chef-Stephen-Terry.html

The secret tracking device (GPS) comes out:

QuoteA policewoman was caught having sex with a married inspector in the backseat of his car in a Screwfix car park by her estranged husband who then battered his love rival with a torch, a court heard.

Liverpool Crown Court heard Harper had followed the couple to the car park after allegedly placing a secret tracking device underneath his wife's car.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13188563/estranged-husband-police-officer-wife-car-screwfix-married-inspector.html

The Martian zombie slut ray is real:

QuoteThe anonymous man, who is from the UK, shared on Reddit that whilst his wife had phoned him on tears during her girls trip to confess she'd had sex with a man 10 years her junior the night before.

Despite her remorse and immediately coming clean, he revealed he is 'not even considering forgiving her'.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-13126709/Wife-cheated-younger-man-forgive-guilty.html

And the deception is profound:

QuoteThere are two sides to me, and they're  diametrically opposed: one is a devoted wife and mother who loves her family very much; the other, a sexually voracious woman who is addicted to the thrill of sleeping with someone new.

Andrew and I have been married for 20 years. I've been unfaithful to him eight times during the past 14 of them. As far as I'm aware, my husband doesn't know about any of these other men.

But even if our marriage was distant and sexless, it still wouldn't be his fault that I stray. It's a choice I make despite knowing that if he or Abigail, 18, were ever to find out, it would break their hearts. I feel guilty, but not enough to stop.

I sleep with other men purely for the frisson of excitement it injects into an otherwise ordinary, and perfectly tolerable, life.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-13239841/I-love-husband-Im-addicted-having-sex-strangers-Shes-devoted-wife-mother-utterly-unrepentant-having-eight-affairs-20-year-marriage.html

Sexual ostracism also factors in:

QuoteI'd lost count of the times I'd rebuffed his sexual advances, closed my bedroom door on him and shut down any conversation around our love life.

Graham and I were having sex only once every two years, if that, and we'd made love maybe five times over the previous decade.

I was the breadwinner, working on the front desk of the local leisure centre while Graham ran the house and home-schooled our children.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-13248349/Meet-woman-says-fault-husband-cheated-agreed-sex-two-years.html

And loverboy is usually a scam:

QuoteNo, these are real men, our age or older, who see a well-off wife as a ticket not only to fun, but to a very comfortable old age with their feet beneath our well-laden tables.

They see us as a catch, but also as women of a certain age who will fall at their feet once shown some attention – hence their confidence (and, as Nadine has discovered, some of these men can be very forthright indeed).

Dressed in old jeans and a scruffy jacket, aged about 70, within minutes of our meeting, he asked whether I'd ever consider getting married again. The 'date', if that's what it was, did not last much longer. Later I discovered that this international financier and publisher was living in a bedsit on the coast. After two divorces, he had hardly any money left.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13245801/real-reason-older-men-proposition-later-life-women-no-think-sexy-liz-hodgkinson.html
Title: Re: Divorce, cheating, and infidelity fiction
Post by: prime on Apr 05, 2024, 12:58 PM
One of Sowell's/Coase's tradeoffs:

QuoteYou love yourself more than you love me. You had an opportunity to do something that you never thought you'd have the opportunity to do so you took advantage of it. You didn't think about the costs or consequences because you were getting something that you valued more.

https://www.literotica.com/s/february-sucks-goodbye-jim

How high the social cost of casual sex, no-fault divorce, and infidelity?

QuoteBut rumors surrounding the incident still swirl today, with some speculating the disaster was in fact a murder-suicide triggered by a sordid squabble after one of the crew members engaged in an affair with another's wife.

Indeed, one report claims that the man responsible for the explosion had received a phone call from his wife asking for a divorce just minutes earlier - while the co-worker accused of sleeping with his wife was later found pinned to the ceiling directly above the blown reactor.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13271859/mystery-america-nuclear-disaster-idaho-love-triangle-murder-suicide.html

Rebonding/reimprinting:

QuoteThe Marriage Foundation found that, for those who were still together by the time their child was 14, having had date nights at any stage of parenthood 'significantly increased' the likelihood of them reporting that they were 'very happy' with their relationship.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13279593/date-nights-save-marriage-avoid-divorce.html
Title: Re: Divorce, cheating, and infidelity fiction
Post by: prime on Apr 09, 2024, 08:08 PM
The crisis of casual sex: it is detachment from life.

QuoteI never lost the mindset that sex with random men was fun but didn't really mean anything. It required no emotional investment.

https://www.literotica.com/s/all-my-loving-1?page=3
Title: Re: Divorce, cheating, and infidelity fiction
Post by: prime on Apr 14, 2024, 02:52 PM
Mortality:

QuoteI don't think Barb lacked character or values. I think something just scared her. She saw herself getting older and lost sight of what was important. Maybe I let her down and didn't comfort her enough, but I always tried to be there whenever I knew something was bothering her. The thing is, you can't be responsible for what a person keeps inside themselves.

https://literotica.com/s/witness-david-and-barb

Eugenics:

QuoteI see two kinds of people in the world. I see builders and collectors. Builders try to create something that didn't exist before and to do it they put a part of themselves into everything they build. In the process, they see their own worth in the worth of what they build. If you are a builder, then you are a builder in all aspects of your life; you are a builder in your relationships, in your work, in your play, and in how you view your role in society. Builders know that they cannot build two things in conflict with one another because each is a part of themselves and they know that it takes both time and commitment to build something of value. Collectors surround themselves with things that already have value. They may enhance the value of what they collect; but in the end, they draw their own worth from the value of the things they collect from the world around them. The irony is that many collectors think they are builders because they are building a collection, but that isn't what makes you a builder.
Title: Re: Divorce, cheating, and infidelity fiction
Post by: prime on Apr 17, 2024, 09:08 AM
QuoteEighty-nine percent of participants reported monogamy, 4% reported open relationships, and 8% reported NCNM.

https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10508-018-1178-7

QuoteFor instance, results of a 36 study meta-analysis on CNM indicate a largely homogenous population of educated, white, middle- and upper-middle-class professionals, with the percent of people of color ranging from zero to a rare high of 48% (Sheff & Hammers, 2011). Specifically, within the context of polyamory communities, Sheff (2005) found race to be the most homogenous demographic characteristic, with the majority (89%) of 81 participants identifying as white.

https://digitalcommons.chapman.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1133&context=psychology_articles

QuoteHalf of Americans say open marriages – a marriage where both spouses agree that they can date or have sex with other people – are somewhat or completely unacceptable. This includes 37% who say these marriages are completely unacceptable and 13% who say they're somewhat unacceptable.

https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2023/09/14/views-of-divorce-and-open-marriages/

QuoteAlthough we know of no representative research that has addressed the question of the prevalence of CNM in the population, it appears from samples that we have recruited generally (i.e., cases in which recruitment was not targeted for CNM individuals), that approximately 4% of participants identify themselves as CNM (Conley et al., unpublished data).

This percentage is comparable to the percentage of lesbian, gay, and bisexual individuals estimated in the population (Mosher, Chandra, & Jones, 2005) and also equivalent to the percentage of lesbian, gay, and bisexual individuals in those same samples.

https://deepblue.lib.umich.edu/bitstream/handle/2027.42/102091/asap1286.pdf?sequence=1

QuoteThe percentage of wives having affairs rose almost 40 percent during the last two decades to 14.7 percent in 2010, while the number of men admitting to extramarital affairs held constant at 21 percent, according to the latest data from the National Opinion Research Center's General Social Survey (https://gss.norc.org/).

Blacks, executives and managers, and Southerners were most likely to report extramarital affairs to the 40-year-old survey, the oldest continuous source of data on American behavior.

https://www.bloomberg.com/news/articles/2013-07-02/cheating-wives-narrowed-infidelity-gap-over-two-decades

QuoteSome research suggests that open marriage has a 92 percent failure rate. Steve Brody, Ph.D., a psychologist in Cambria, California, explains that less than 1 percent of married people are in open marriages.

https://edition.cnn.com/2010/LIVING/personal/03/23/o.open.marriages.work/index.html

QuoteUnlike the goal of an open marriage, in which the focus is on meeting individual needs and desires at the expense of marital unity, a monogamous marriage focuses on individual growth within and not at the expense of the protected space of marriage.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-marital-labyrinth-series/202110/the-problem-open-marriage
Title: Re: Divorce, cheating, and infidelity fiction
Post by: prime on Apr 17, 2024, 09:28 AM
QuoteIf a woman isn't attached to a friend or married to a colleague, then I'm afraid the sexual pizzazz just isn't there.

Sleeping with my brother's girlfriend gave me an added frisson because I was having sex with someone he — one of the golden boys who monopolised my parents' attention — cared for. At last, I was the one in control.

As I shake the hand of a new business acquaintance, I still find myself wondering what his wife is like. They all think their other halves are different and would never stray. But honestly, given the encouragement, they really aren't.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-13315711/sleeping-friends-wives-enjoy-power-serial-adultery.html
Title: Re: Divorce, cheating, and infidelity fiction
Post by: prime on Apr 17, 2024, 11:43 AM
QuoteThe prosecution say the pair hired an unknown killer to strike at Morgan's Food Fayre in Linslade, Bedfordshire, after realising divorcing their respective spouses would leave them in financial difficulties.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13319453/Cheating-husband-married-lover-paid-shopkeeper-murdered-brutal-1981-attack-trial-hears.html
Title: Re: Divorce, cheating, and infidelity fiction
Post by: prime on Apr 30, 2024, 09:16 AM
QuoteNadine Arslanian left the lights on and TVs blaring at her Englewood Cliffs, New Jersey, home without even her children knowing where she was, The Post has learned.

And she left a "weird" typewritten note on the door for the man she was casually dating, that lover told The Post.

She then secretly flew for a week-long assignation with Menendez, the New Jersey Democratic senator, in the Dominican Republic in the spring of 2018.

https://nypost.com/2024/04/30/us-news/bob-menendezs-wife-was-declared-missing-by-her-other-lover/

QuoteA 24-year-old Wisconsin elementary school teacher was arrested Wednesday for allegedly "making out" with her fifth-grade student — less than three months before her wedding.

Inside her bag, police also found a folder with the victim's name on it containing many handwritten notes talking about how much they kissed one another, the charges allege.

In one of the letters, Bergmann allegedly wrote, "One of my cousins is in the 5th grade and I can't imagine a man talking to her how we talk. I know we have a special relationship and I do love you more than anyone in the world but I have to be the adult here and stop."

https://nypost.com/2024/05/03/us-news/wisconsin-elementary-school-teacher-madison-bergmann-arrested-for-making-out-with-student/
Title: Re: Divorce, cheating, and infidelity fiction
Post by: prime on May 09, 2024, 02:48 PM
QuoteA random sample of 464 partners in heterosexual relationships graphed changes in commitment to wed monthly for 8 months and then graphed them from memory. Results supported the developmental change hypothesis; retrospective reports of commitment initially were lower than concurrent reports and increased more steeply over time. This effect was moderated by changes in relationship stage, with advancement showing accuracy of recall, maintenance showing developmental change, and regression showing amplification. Accuracy of recall depends upon relationship history, which has implications for relationship outcomes and reliability of retrospective reports.

https://pure.psu.edu/en/publications/a-comparison-of-concurrent-and-retrospective-trajectories-of-comm
Title: Re: Divorce, cheating, and infidelity fiction
Post by: prime on May 15, 2024, 07:56 AM
QuoteWhen I trust someone enough to finally take them to bed, I end up handing over my heart to them.

https://www.literotica.com/s/conversation-by-a-burning-bed-ch-02
Title: Re: Divorce, cheating, and infidelity fiction
Post by: prime on May 15, 2024, 02:07 PM
QuoteCognitive psychologist Iliana Samara conducted her Ph.D. project on romantic attraction and discovered that men, in particular, tend to overestimate the interest of their date.

"Note: we observed this mainly in men who found their female date attractive. Men who were less interested in the other person estimated their chances more realistically."

https://phys.org/news/2024-05-looking-for-love-how-we.html
Title: Re: Divorce, cheating, and infidelity fiction
Post by: prime on May 17, 2024, 10:41 AM
Quote"He had been dating this other woman, who he'd met online, since March 2019," Palmieri told The Post.

"The last texts they shared were disgusting, sexual messages," said Palmieri. "Eric sent them to her seven days before our wedding."

"I cried for the first few days. But there is just no denying his pathological, narcissistic behavior behind this," she said.

https://nypost.com/2024/05/17/lifestyle/my-fiance-died-on-our-wedding-day-and-then-i-discovered-his-secret-life/

Call out the narcs. They are reptilian meatsuit fake humans, like sociopaths and other individualists.
Title: Re: Divorce, cheating, and infidelity fiction
Post by: prime on May 19, 2024, 02:50 PM
QuoteA mom of two has been mocked on social media after revealing she left her longtime husband for a man she believed to be her "soul mate" — only for him to promptly reject her.

"As I settled into my seat, I looked up and immediately lost my breath," Trenfield wrote. "When our eyes met there was an instant familiarity that ran deeper than water-cooler chat. These eyes had locked before. Twelve years earlier. His name was Jason. I hadn't forgotten."

Less than a month later, Trenfield ended her 14-year marriage with her husband, despite not having had any further communication with Jason since the night of the dinner party.

https://nypost.com/2022/05/09/mom-leaves-husband-of-14-years-for-her-soulmate-only-to-be-rejected/
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