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No better place to see The Human Problem than in what we fetishize. Literary erotica is mostly wishful thinking and revenge. The "Loving Wives" (https://search.literotica.com/?query=%22%20%22&categories=12&sort=date&page=1) category is either hotwifing from people who secretly hate their slut wives, or men (mostly) trying to analyze where marriage, casual sex, and divorce went wrong.

Stories

• Already Gone (https://www.literotica.com/s/already-gone-1)
• America's Watching (https://www.literotica.com/s/americas-watching)
• A Portrait of the Artist (https://www.literotica.com/s/a-portrait-of-the-artist)
• Ask Aunt Agatha (https://www.literotica.com/s/ask-aunt-agatha)
• The Bridge (https://www.literotica.com/s/the-bridge-6)
• Burning Down the House (https://www.literotica.com/s/burning-down-the-house)
• Caroline Alone (https://www.literotica.com/s/caroline-alone-ch-01)
• Christmas Biology Lesson (https://www.literotica.com/s/christmas-biology-lesson)
• Condo Wives (https://literotica.com/s/condo-wives)
• Cosmo Cheating Article (https://literotica.com/s/cosmo-cheating-article)
• The Cost (https://www.literotica.com/s/the-cost)
• Devil Inside (https://www.literotica.com/s/devil-inside-2)
• Did You Really Mean It? (https://www.literotica.com/s/did-you-really-mean-it)
• The Fearless Husband (https://www.literotica.com/s/the-fearless-husband)
• First Love (https://www.literotica.com/s/first-love-repost)
• Fortune (https://www.literotica.com/s/fortune-1)
• Grey Rock (https://www.literotica.com/s/grey-rock-1)
• I Know My Wife (https://literotica.com/s/i-know-my-wife)
• I Stop Losing (https://www.literotica.com/s/i-stop-losing)
• Interventions (https://literotica.com/s/intervention-4)
• Karen and Mark (https://www.literotica.com/s/karen-and-mark)
• Kathy and Gregg (https://www.literotica.com/s/kathy-and-gregg)
• Knowing Without Knowing (https://www.literotica.com/s/knowing-without-knowing)
• Legion (https://www.literotica.com/s/legion-1)
• Let's Zoom (https://www.literotica.com/s/lets-zoom)
• Look of Lust (https://www.literotica.com/s/look-of-lust)
• Lost at Sea (https://www.literotica.com/s/lost-at-sea-2)
• Love Me Do (https://literotica.com/s/love-me-do-2)
• Man in the Mirror (https://literotica.com/s/man-in-the-mirror-ch-01)
• A Mighty Pen (https://www.literotica.com/s/a-mighty-pen)
• My Fragile Male Ego (https://www.literotica.com/s/my-fragile-male-ego)
• My Wife Fired Me (https://www.literotica.com/s/my-wife-fired-me)
• My Wife Goes on a Date (https://www.literotica.com/s/my-wife-goes-on-a-date-1)
• Newtonian Meditation (https://www.literotica.com/s/newtonian-mediation)
• No Deposit, No Return (https://literotica.com/s/no-deposit-no-return)
• Now It Ends (https://www.literotica.com/s/now-it-ends)
• A Real Surprise Party (https://www.literotica.com/s/a-real-surprise-party)
• Ringing in the New Year (https://www.literotica.com/s/ringing-in-the-new-year-1)
• Second Life (https://www.literotica.com/s/second-life-2)
• Scenes From a Marriage (https://literotica.com/s/scenes-from-a-marriage)
• Sleeping With a Stranger (https://www.literotica.com/s/sleeping-with-a-stranger-1)
• Time Is the Ultimate Revenge (https://www.literotica.com/s/time-is-the-ultimate-revenge)
• Time to Trade Up (https://www.literotica.com/s/time-to-trade-up)
• Was It All Worth It? (https://literotica.com/s/was-it-all-worth-it-1)
• Where's Buster? (https://www.literotica.com/s/wheres-buster)
• Why Are You Trying So Hard? (https://www.literotica.com/s/why-are-you-trying-so-hard)
• Work Wife (https://www.literotica.com/s/work-wife-2)
• The World Made Yonder (https://literotica.com/s/the-world-made-yonder)

Analysis

• Femdom Agitprop (https://literotica.com/s/femdom-agitprop)
• Loving Loving Wives (https://www.literotica.com/s/loving-loving-wives)
• Sex Stories and Morality (https://www.literotica.com/s/sex-stories-and-morality)
• Time For a Non-Fiction Cold Shower (https://literotica.com/s/time-for-a-non-fiction-cold-shower)
• What I Learned at Literotica (https://www.literotica.com/s/what-i-learned-at-literotica)

Stories in this genre, other than the usual lit-erotica trope of an idealized man having lots of sex with multiple idealized women who fawn over him as if he had purchased them, take one of two forms: reconciliation at all costs (RAAC), or burn the bastard/bitch (BTB) in which the aggrieved and victimized innocent spouse, a husband (cuckold) or wife (cuckquean), embarks on divorce or separation with some element of retaliation or revenge.

A few new types have emerged. Burn your former life (BYFL) means destroying or stealing your net worth and escaping to a new identity, country, or lifestyle, and divorce and get on living a good life (DAGOLAGL) means simply escaping as best as possible. Much of this genre is fantasy and consists of cheating wives eventually realizing their mistake and ending up in pain. There is also a lot of sodomy and rage.

Content warning: this way lies only the pain that casual sex and jobs have inflicted on an otherwise mostly functional civilization.

These began as revenge stroke stories:

Quote"Don't worry Adam." she said to me. "I'm not being raped. I'm just getting a little pay-back for all those time you ignored me and rode rough shod over my feelings. You have to realise that you are not the only person in the world and that everything does not necessarily revolve around you! Before you dragged me here, I was supposed to go out with my girlfriends and cruise the bars downtown, you know, a girls night out! I just though that I'd find a little action here instead, and as you are now here to watch the proceedings, it just makes the night even better!"

https://www.literotica.com/s/a-sweet-revenge

The high cost of broken homes:

QuoteI remember standing next to him, in the place where Nancy should have been. The Nancy that had died now almost four years ago on a drug overdoses. The Nancy, who had been his baby girl for so many years, only to grow up, confused and angry, not even knowing why she was so confused and angry. A Nancy lost to us, for seemingly no reason.

https://www.literotica.com/s/it-s-all-good

These are stories about abuse, including sexual abuse, by one family member against another. They are also about how abusers as narcissists destroy the self-esteem of their victim. Frequently the victims are groomed via gaslighting:

QuoteBut humanists see grooming as one person conditioning another person to allow them or someone else to abuse them.  The term is often associated with pedophiles preying on children, sex traffickers conditioning women for prostitution or husbands conditioning their wives to allow them to abuse them.

https://biblicalgenderroles.com/2020/07/16/7-steps-to-grooming-your-christian-wife/

The cheaters are self-esteem-destroyers:

Quote'Don't let her take your pride too.' She had stolen a lot with her infidelity; my confidence as a husband, as a lover, as a man, my faith in her in particular and people in general. She stole my sense of what my future would hold.

https://www.literotica.com/s/glens-pride

Cheatards are motivated by individualism and self-pity:

QuoteI guess a lot of it has to do with the excitement and the thrill of doing something behind my families back that is only for me. It was so wrong but that partially made it so thrilling. And my life is so boring and it seemed to her that no one needed her anymore.

https://www.literotica.com/s/a-daughters-revenge-1

That which is broken cannot be restored. This is the thermodynamics of life.

QuoteMom for whatever reason has thrown that code out the door by her actions with your Uncle Dan and once that trust and deceit is done; it can't be undone.

A scream for the inner child:

Quote"You took the innocence right out of your marriage and made it something dirty and ugly. "

https://www.literotica.com/s/requital

SHATTERED

Quote"I just know you've ruined something that was really beautiful, you know that? Now, I don't have anything but pain...and it won't go away. I loved you with all my being."

https://www.literotica.com/s/separate-lives-pt-01

The rage covers for loss.

In my view, most of these stories are off-base for the following reasons:

• They overestimate how much women want to stay with the man.
• They portray women as more emotional than they generally are.
• They underestimate how much people simply cheat covertly in return.
• They overestimate how much ordinary people have sexual relations.
• They follow a porn scenario for sex that is more acrobat than the norm.
• They overestimate people's capacity for self-reflection.
• And the biggie: so many of these involve men marrying women for being hot, then projecting some kind of Disney-Hallmark love onto her, and finally being disappointed when she turns out to be a thot.
• The lengthy dialogues are right out of Pilgrim's Progress but are unrealistic.
• Jesus H Christ, why is there so much anal?

There is also a Darwinian question:

Quote"He told me why she wasn't getting pregnant. She made a big deal about flushing her pills, then went the next day and got one of those implants that last for three months. She plans on saying she got tested and can't conceive. She doesn't want kids, can't stand them, doesn't want to wreck her body and make that kind of time commitment to anyone or anything. She's really shallow when you get down to it, odd how we never noticed it, isn't it? I must say she hid it really well."

https://www.literotica.com/s/did-you-really-mean-it

People who are hostile to biology are portrayed as parasitic viruses. Biology is tied to loyalty and affection:

Quote"There's no such thing as just sex. It's broken promises. It's disrespect. Most of all, it's not love."

https://www.literotica.com/s/anniversary-cheat

This one's for the Gen X kids... you all know what it is.

Quote"Paula has figured out most of what happened. She's no dummy that one. She's incredibly pissed at me and most conversations are monosyllabic. The other two are just confused about why I don't live at home any more. But there is still love there. It's not the same and it's not right and they growing...hardened. I can see it. There's a way they've changed in how they look at the world. Paula, in particular, is far more fatalistic about the world now. I don't know what to do about it – I keep reaching out to her, but she's just not interested."

https://www.literotica.com/s/live-from-the-game-ch-05

Interesting direct cite of reverse discrimination:

QuoteThe mantra these days was that the woman had to be believed. She had to be believed regardless of whether there is any proof or not.

https://www.literotica.com/s/the-guitar-player-ch-03

Psychology of the promiscuous (people with emotional disregulation tend to find, associate with, and defend others with their disease):

QuoteLenz, who writes the popular liberal blog 'Men Yell At Me', has written extensively about her divorce from her Trump-supporting husband-of-twelve-years David Lenz in publications such as Esquire and The Washington Post.

David is now happily remarried to another woman, with Lenz writing of her joy at being able to have 'really good sex' with other partners on their marriage foundering.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13254103/Lyz-Lenz-middle-class-women-happy-marriages-white-supremacists.html

Cheating is how muscletards reproduce:

QuoteTalan Renner, 17, reportedly boasted to Snapchat friends after throwing 'hammer punches' on Preston Lord at the bash in Gilbert, Arizona, in October 2023. He wrote:  I got in a fight, a big group fight and I accidentally killed a kid. I guess I'm just too strong.'

Renner and six other alleged bullies have been arrested over the death of Lord, who died of a brain injury two days after the beating. Police records allege one unnamed boy danced on the dying teen's body shortly after the beating, while others performed 'humping' - simulated rape acts - to further degrade their victim.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13254373/talan-renner-bragged-beating-preston-lord-death.html

It's either literal cuckold where the parasite attaches to a decent man in order to provide offspring for an idiot, or sexual cuckold where the parasite attaches so that it can have a normal life in addition to its lust-life, or leaves normal life for a sexual obsession:

QuoteAfter months and months, we finally decided that we would try to find a surrogate husband. We had no idea what we were doing, but it sounded like a good idea at the time. Trying to find a suitable guy was not that easy. It had to be somebody who we felt could provide a stable environment and still be a good companion.

https://www.literotica.com/s/turning-tables-2

Funny how unequally yoked -- cross-ethnic, cross-class, and cross-racial -- marriages are portrayed as working out as badly as they do in real life:

QuoteShe was definitely upset when she jumped to her feet. "Damn you, Tony! I hate you. You Wop bastard." With that outburst, she left the room bawling. That was the first time she had ever swore at me and the first time she every made any derogatory remarks about my heritage. The Dutchie in her, finally came out.

...Carla and I were tearing up the sheets by noon the second day. My mother was right, I should have married an Italian girl. It felt natural and I did not feel as if I was cheating.

https://www.literotica.com/s/the-old-neighborhood-1

Performance anxiety (for women):

QuoteBecause she was not actually married to Rich and their relationship was only a relationship for a time, she did not feel the moral pressures of her upbringing. She did not feel the need to act as the proper wife and mother of his children. She could easily and openly talk with him about anything sexually, telling him of her fantasies she would have feared to tell her husband. So, it wasn't about the sex they had, that made the sex so good.

https://www.literotica.com/s/between-two-lovers-ch-01

At the core, individualism -- denying the gods/nature for the sake of ego -- spreads its wings:

QuoteKaren thrived on the attention. The ancient Greeks had a word for it; hubris... a great or foolish amount of pride.

https://www.literotica.com/s/birth-day-club-ch-03

It's the French Revolution narrative!

Quote"He made me realize I'm entitled to have sex with three different men so we can enter our marriage as equals."

https://www.literotica.com/s/never-is-forever

The magic word:

Quote"I take care of our family! We do it together! We're equals!" She had a look of triumph, like she'd found the secret phrase that would make everything better. Equals.

https://www.literotica.com/s/february-sucks-for-walter-mitty

Aaaand it's that individualism inversion:

QuoteALL LIES. Planned, rationalized, justified, excused lies.

https://www.literotica.com/s/open-letter-about-flings

Matriarchy:

Quote"You just have to understand that women are the natural choice to be in charge, and we have to use whatever means are at our disposal to gain that advantage. And the fact is that, despite what you might believe based on messages in popular culture, women need far more sex than men and can do it longer and better. We have to have more than one lover, and we need other men to serve in particular roles."

https://www.literotica.com/s/just-accept-it

A criticism of no-fault divorce laws:

QuoteShe can fuck the entire Giants football team in Times Square, and he will still end up paying for a house he can no longer live in, pay most of his paycheck in alimony lose half of his retirement, lose half of his life's savings. She lives like a queen while he is hoping that he has enough money for a couple cheap cans of tuna and some packets of Top Ramen to eat. The divorce laws in this state actually reward women for cheating on their husbands while punishing the innocent men for being faithful.

https://www.literotica.com/s/the-juror

And the technical side, albeit from a careerist perspective:

QuoteSo what do the courts do when dividing marital property? First, at least in Illinois, they never refer to the grounds of divorce when splitting the marital assets. To the contrary, the statute expressly directs the courts to divide marital property—and determine alimony and child support, for that matter—without reference to the grounds of dissolution. The reason for this, and why most states have similar no-fault divisions of marital assets, is simple: Courts are too busy to litigate which spouse was the bigger bastard during the marriage before making the property split.

No, courts in Illinois determine property splits based on the quaint, and faintly defined, notion of doing what's equitable, which is another way for saying it seems the most fair under the circumstances. However, the layman's idea of fair and the legal notion of fair are diametrically opposed matters. How so? Well, take the wife earning $200,000 a year and the husband earning $40,000 per year and tell me which one will get a higher portion of the marital assets. The one who earned, and thus contributed, more to the marital assets? Wrong answer. Rather, the one who earned less will get a higher portion to give that person an opportunity to give them a more sound footing on which to start their new, post-divorce life.

https://www.literotica.com/s/a-crash-course-in-family-law

(Translation: whichever party is the bigger bastard gets to seize half the wealth, instead of having a court decide to punish the bastard and reward the relatively innocent. This is especially relevant in adultery cases, where our gut instinct is to throw out the cheater without a cent.)

Means-over-ends:

QuoteLike most men, I fell in lust with the exterior packaging and forgot to check under the hood to see what made this model tick. There was nothing wrong, but there was nothing really right either.

https://literotica.com/s/the-adulteress-1

Zero-sum:

QuoteYou eliminated me from an intimacy that you and I have shared together for over ten years.

https://literotica.com/s/the-key-15

Many of them feature people waiting until the kids are gone to split from a spouse who has become a narcissist, solipsism, individualist, sociopath, psychopath, or simply aggressive negotiator:

QuoteThere has been a growing trend in recent years for 'grey divorce', when couples in long-term marriages split after the age of 50.

Firstly, the study found that grey divorce generally leads to a decrease in the frequency of contact between adult children and their fathers.

On the other hand, there was an increase in the frequency of contact and in emotional closeness with mothers.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech/article-13197789/grey-divorce-reshapes-family-dynamics.html

Interesting the kids end up with the mother. Maybe the same biases that allow our society to see women as passive also makes them into perfect Virgin Mary like victims.

It turns out that battered husbands who are afraid to stop their narcissistic wives are a thing:

QuoteChilling never-before-seen footage from a nanny cam has revealed the moment a battered husband cowered on the floor while his wife hurled abuse at him and brandished a knife in their home during her 20-year reign of terror.

And explosive clips from police interviews show Sheree casually lying about her husband being the abuser, only for her face to turn ashen when confronted with the footage.

On one occasion she defecated on the floor and forced him to clean it up, and on another she beat him with a wine bottle so hard it permanently disfigured his ear.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13200557/Nanny-cam-footage-sheree-spencer-wife-abuser.html

Sometimes with erroneous legal decisions:

QuoteWhen they started dating, Jason had been divorced for several years. His first wife, he says, had cheated on him. Tiffiney was in a relationship at the time — married, in fact. It wasn't exactly a fairytale beginning from the outside looking in, but Jason says, for the two of them, it was.

Just hours before she got home, Jason found messages on their computer suggesting that she was having an affair.

Tiffiney's mom, Cheryl, says she knew about the affair.

https://www.cbsnews.com/news/tiffiney-crawford-death-jason-crawford-911-call-alabama-murder-verdict-48-hours/

Sex cannot be separated from love. Affairs end marriages because you can never trust or respect the cheating spouse again.

QuoteI was open to reconciliation, but I just didn't see how we could get there. I was never going to cheat on Tilly, so the only way to move forward with her was to accept her betrayal and forgive her for it. And that would always leave the scales of our marriage tilted. Combine that with her lack of remorse and her philosophy that there were exceptions to everything in life, and I had no confidence that she wouldn't do it again.

https://www.literotica.com/s/how-do-the-scales-balance

And a bit of PUA/MRA:

QuoteI'm a new man, and I would throw you out in a minute if you ever disrespected me again. You would no longer be my queen, or even my equal. You've taught me to treat women for what they are: deceitful, selfish beings. To me, women are just here to please me, not something I can ever depend on or expect loyalty from. In my view, women are no longer my equal, and I now treat them that way. The funny thing is that the more I treat them as beneath me, the more they want and respect me. You also taught me that being the caring, wimpy guy might be nice for the woman but does nothing for the man.

https://www.literotica.com/s/the-heart-never-waits

I think this describes most humans generally: they want to be degraded because that makes them important.

The eugenics question:

Quote"My grandpa always used to tell us the story. A horse was loosely tied up in front of the general store. A guy came by, untied the horse, and rode off with it. The question is: did he become a horse thief when he stole the horse, or did he steal the horse because he was a horse thief? Many others had walked past and didn't steal the horse."

"Hmm." I poured a fresh cup of coffee from the thermos. "I guess all these years I've been married to a cheater, a cruel, cowardly liar and cheater." Shaking my head, all I could say was, "I had no idea."

https://www.literotica.com/s/february-sucks-in-cold-blood

Too bad your kids are half-moron/fool.

QuoteThe worst thing is your heart, the excitement, the tingling you have, to seduce him and betray me. That thrill is downright evil. If you had an ounce of integrity, you'd come to me and tell me you want to be with him. That would hurt me, but I'd respect your wish and not stand in the way of your happiness. Fortunately, I found out about it in time, so I can still give you the divorce and set you free to have all the excitement with your Mr. Stevens you want. Only now, I'm devastated that, after our twenty-six years together, you disrespected me so much you did it behind my back

https://www.literotica.com/s/no-anniversary

More eugenics:

QuoteHow do I know you won't do that again? Maybe it's in your DNA, or something.

https://www.literotica.com/s/turnaround-is-fair-play-feb-sucks

You will find that in many of these stories, the kids of man and moron (or woman and moron) have follow a Punnett Square, that is half take after the Dad in being sensible and the other half are idiots like the mom or vice-versa.

QuoteDerek, our 22-year-old, was always the more perceptive of our two kids. Natalie, two years younger, just assumed everything in the world existed for her pleasure, and therefore she had no need to perceive things.

https://www.literotica.com/s/feeding-ducks

Casual sex is a lie that rapes love:

QuoteThe longer you kiss and fuck someone, you can't help building an attraction. You can't avoid it, we're simply wired that way. So, if you kiss and have sex with Jack, or anybody else, there is no way you can avoid building affection of some sort. Call me selfish, call me what you will, but I refuse to be married to someone building that kind of affection with another man.

https://www.literotica.com/s/making-it-to-25

QuoteHow the hell could I stick my dick where another guy has been? Well, I already was. She hadn't been a virgin when we met and she'd fucked Tanner a lot before we met. This was nothing new. And cutting her off would be cutting her off from a key aspect of relationship intimacy. Maybe I wasn't as good as Tanner in the fucking department, but I knew he didn't love her as much as I did. Every guy who did a one night stand, or was with a girl with serial boyfriends was doing the exact same thing that I was. Why should I sexually deprive myself? Why give Tanner a monopoly? She might be illegally subletting her pussy, but I had conjugal rights damn it!

https://www.literotica.com/s/i-stop-losing?page=2

Inverted "love" is abuse:

Quote"You don't do that to someone you love, or at least not someone you're in love with."

https://www.literotica.com/s/honesty-above-all

Forgiveness does not mean BOHICA:

Quote"Forgiveness isn't forgetting, Mike. It's not letting people back into your life, nor is it about trusting them again."

https://www.literotica.com/s/after-the-future-is-gone-pt-01

Equality destroys self-esteem

Quote"A man's perception of himself," I answered, "is made up of his pride, his ethics, his self-worth and his self-respect. I would sacrifice all of those if I stayed married to you. I don't think your betrayal could be kept from our kids. Over the years, they would learn what happened last night. In about ten years, our grown-up babies are going to ask me why I divorced you rather than live with you in a loveless marriage for the sake of the family. I can answer that question. On the other hand, they would lose all respect for me if they learned that I stayed with you as a cuckold after being so treacherously betrayed."

https://www.literotica.com/s/february-sucks-one-more-time-1

Consequences of equality -- wealth transfer:

QuoteThe patriarchal society that we have known for centuries is slowly giving way to a matriarchal order that is seeing women poised to take control of government and power in the next century.

https://www.literotica.com/s/husband-has-a-limit

Love is the transcendent:

QuoteI didn't think of myself as a separate person. Since we were married, I thought of us as one. Two organisms, but one life force.

https://www.literotica.com/s/law-of-the-heart-ch-04

Have versus have-nots? Users versus the used, and since the users win over time, society declines:

Quote"I'm sure she liked you well enough to begin with, but she's a user. I don't mean she's using drugs. She's manipulative. She was using you. Maybe it didn't start that way, but think of all the things you did for her and ask yourself what she did for you."

https://www.literotica.com/s/playing-the-game-9

Casual sex makes us all whores:

QuoteIn another age, virginity would have been a prerequisite for capturing a suitable mate, but in the Sexual Revolution age, it had almost become a deal-breaker. Men wanted a wife who was not only a good hostess but also great in the sack. And they wanted to "try before buying". That made things very tough, because getting that sexual experience almost always led to the kiss of death for husband hunters: the Bad Reputation.

https://www.literotica.com/s/connies-request

At the core of these stories is casual sex, which not only allows for abuse, but makes people alienated from each other to the point that many of the people in these stories are complete strangers to their spouses:

QuoteI knew what she had been like before we got together, how could I not? She lived two doors down from me and we had been classmates from the fifth grade all the way through high school. I was at a party after the senior prom where she had taken on seven of our classmates. I'd been in the car next to her at the drive in movie when she and Steve had climbed into the back seat and the car started rocking. Ten minutes later Steve had gotten in the front and Ted had gotten in back with her and the car bounced some more. I had been on the roof of our house installing a motorized TV antenna and had looked down into her backyard and had seen her on her knees sucking Mark's cock while Ben fucked her from behind.

I knew what she was before she started going steady with me, but none of that mattered once she committed to me any more than Donna, Maria, Sue, Abby, Bonnie, Sarah or Nancy mattered to Michelle once I committed to her.

You might ask why, given our close proximity to each other and given the way she was, that I had never been one of her lovers and that we had never even dated before halfway through our junior year in college. The simple fact is that I was insecure where Michelle was concerned. She as just so beautiful, outgoing and fun loving and I was such a nobody that she intimidated me. Maybe intimidated is not the right word to use. Maybe not intimidated as much as afraid of rejection.

https://www.literotica.com/s/michelle-and-jimmy

QuoteI gave away something very clean at that party and like my virginity, I can't get it back.

https://www.literotica.com/s/one-slip-a-hard-fall

Hint: it's about casual sex and chastity.

And self-image, always important in a democracy:

QuoteI hated Jenny more than I'd ever hated anyone in my life. But my heart was singing, I heard birds chirping sweetly in the trees, and my blood was racing through me with joy. She wanted to come back again! She loved me!

https://www.literotica.com/s/my-second-nightmare

Disturbing subplot: some of these writers are very fascinated with sodomy. Did infidelity turn them proto-gay?

QuoteThen I went down on her again – this time adding a finger then two. I started rimming her ass with my tongue exerting more and more pressure. Melinda moaned as her head was turning side to side, begging me for another fucking as I actually fucked her ass with my tongue. I rose up between her thighs, hooked her heels on my shoulders and pushed my cock down until it centered in her little brown rosebud. I told her I was going to fuck her ass.

Her face was a masque of conflicting emotions. She wanted me in her again – just not exactly where I was planning on going. We had done anal a couple of times, usually when she was fall down drunk. She wasn't close to that. We both knew I wasn't going to force her, but it was clear that I was intending to press the issue – so to speak. I played my trump card (I can't tell you how tempted I was to call it "my hole card.") "Forgive me for being such an asshole these last couple of weeks?"

https://www.literotica.com/s/52-pick-up

Addendum: it is both a proxy for control and a proxy for virginity.

Quote"Go for it and have a memorable fuck and let him have that virgin ass of yours he been begging for."

https://www.literotica.com/s/the-receipt

Looks like casual sex has torched Scandinavia as well.

A split here: integralists want sex and love to be coincident, but externalists are perfectly happy to separate the two.

QuoteI always felt that sex and romance should go hand in hand. For Sally it was all about the sex.

https://www.literotica.com/s/computer-history-log

The cuckoo drops its egg into the nests of other birds, often removing their eggs in the process. This is the origin of the term "cuckold." Imagine accidentally raising a potato:

QuoteThe combination of the Irish reveal, an unknown first cousin and later discovering that she wasn't a genetic match with any of her cousins on her father's side led to one conclusion: the man who raised her wasn't her biological father.

After the initial shock, Paterson tried to understand at what point in her family tree this anomaly occurred. She would learn through research that the unknown first cousin had the same last name as a doctor who worked at the hospital her mother worked at in the 1950s.

https://www.ctvnews.ca/canada/i-was-stunned-dna-tests-reveal-hidden-family-secret-for-b-c-woman-1.6810193

Crux of the rage. A choice has been made, but waffling has followed.

QuoteAnyway, your affair tells me that you really aren't committed to me or this marriage.

https://www.literotica.com/s/friend-request-accepted

Deprivation is also an issue:

QuoteSuddenly, the woman I desired, and who used to desire me, would barely touch me. If I tried to initiate sex she would move away or say she was tired, leaving me upset and frustrated.

Four years into our marriage, we had a two-year-old and a baby — and a non-existent sex life.

I did not want to cheat. Despite everything, I still loved and fancied my wife and adored our family. But there are only so many times you can hear a woman say how tired and exhausted she is before recognising that the problem isn't with you, it's with her. Something in my brain shifted.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-13244203/I-forced-cheat-wife-having-children-wrecked-sex-life-deceit-justified.html

BTW, I don't buy the term "forced." Forced means a gun at your back. He chose to handle the situation without her and probably has her tacit consent.

Why it's angry:

Quote"I was trying to get away from a cheating wife without getting raped by the legal system to do it. I didn't do anything wrong, but if I'd stayed I'd have ended up paying for her cheating on me and I didn't think that was right and I wasn't going to do it."

https://www.literotica.com/s/on-the-road-away-from-her

How it breaks the marriage:

QuoteVictor didn't care whether she approved of his drinking or not; after all, she didn't ask his opinion before spreading her legs open for her boss.

https://www.literotica.com/s/revelations-26

QuoteI am someone's wife, someone's mother. I took vows and was building a life and a family. I am living a lie, day in and day out.

https://www.literotica.com/s/anatomy-of-an-affair

A species tormented by its own neurosis:

QuoteI smoke and drink too much and Cathy is a little self-centered and the poster child for passive aggression. Cathy argues her passive aggression is a result of my smoking and drinking and I argue that I drink and smoke because she's so damn passive aggressive. Round and round, on and on but somehow it all worked.

https://www.literotica.com/s/brain-stew

It's the casual sex. No one can ever measure up to the illusion of partial knowledge.

Quote[E]very single woman on the internet or at the bar [has] had a hot sex experience once that would today confound them if they were to meet each other again. All of us women, like all of you men, have a past.

https://www.literotica.com/s/eve-and-jerrys-new-baby

Rejection:

Quote"I apologized until I was blue in the face. I told him that none of it was his fault, that it was me who'd destroyed our wonderful marriage.

He said it couldn't have been too wonderful if it wasn't enough to keep me out of Douglas' bed."

https://www.literotica.com/s/regrets-17

Transcendental bonding:

QuoteI am the man who forms attachments. When I buy a car, I keep it until it won't drive another mile. It fits me and it feels right. I don't just buy a house; I inhabit it. I bond with it. The walls become my fortress and the ground around it nurtures me. My job becomes my avocation. I rise in the morning with excitement and go to bed at night with satisfaction in a day well spent. My friends are everything to me and my family is foremost in all things.

https://www.literotica.com/s/life-in-exile

Paranoia:

QuoteMrs. Watson took that moment to point out that most situations like ours, more times than not, manifest from both people forgetting to defend and protect each other from the outside world. That a crack in a marriage foundation, no matter how slight, can be manipulated by those with selfish intentions and insert themselves into a marriage normally with a negative after effect.

https://www.literotica.com/s/options-5

The only solution to the tragedy of the commons:

Quote"In this State a man is entitled to use such force as is reasonably necessary to protect himself, his family, and his property. While no one would argue that another person could be considered "property," the marriage can be viewed as property with its own interests that are independent of the parties themselves.

https://www.literotica.com/s/january-sucks

Escape parasites:

QuoteWhile looking up and down the shore I was reminded that when they refuel those nuclear boats, they cut a hole in the hull to refuel the reactor and then weld the hull back together. Was that a metaphor for me? Was Karen's betrayal that tore a hole in my heart nothing more than the first step in refueling my life? Could I heal myself once my new life had begun?

https://www.literotica.com/s/ghost-on-the-wind

Mutality:

QuoteIf she was through with me, then I was certainly through with her as well.

https://www.literotica.com/s/clueless-6

Tribalism:

Quote"I even gave you a second chance, something I almost never do. But then you decided to betray me. I don't associate with traitors, and that's what you are."

https://www.literotica.com/s/roland-and-susan

The criminal mentality:

QuoteShe wanted to believe she was terrified by her narrow escape from disaster, but she knew it was untrue. What she'd experienced when Jack told the story was not terror, or guilt, but pleasure – the thrill of the sky diver or bungee jumper in the moment of escape from disaster. Her success made her charitable and she felt compassion and sympathy for Jack. Having won, she wanted to make him feel better – until the next time.

https://www.literotica.com/s/caroline-alone-ch-01?page=3

Jobs are jails and careers are voluntary servitude:

QuoteWe grew up, our priorities changed. Suddenly the thought of ducking out of work and spending the day playing wasn't as important as making a meeting or coming in early to beat the competition, so you'd have a leg up when promotion time came along, or you couldn't go on a spontaneous road trip because you had things left over from the week before, and needed to finish them and start on the new week so you'd gain ground. Good or bad, Beverly, we grew up, and now we're growing old.

https://www.literotica.com/s/let-go-6?page=5

QuoteYour statement of loving me is difficult for me to understand since what you chose to do to me makes that statement ridiculous.

https://www.literotica.com/s/after-the-affair

QuoteI want you to think about me and your mother. Look at us. I've been married to her for seventeen years, and not a day goes by that I regret it. You and her are the most precious things I have, and my life would be empty without you in it. I love her just as much as I did when I saw her in her wedding dress. She is my everything. Things haven't always been easy between us. After all, I'm nine years older than her. The age difference makes it somewhat tough for us at times. We struggle, we fight, but we've always made it through. She knows that I'm not going anywhere. After it's all said and done, we each know that we have a lifelong partner in the other. Nothing is going to split us apart. I won't let it. Neither will she. Trust me son, you want that.

https://www.literotica.com/s/standing-at-the-cliff

This one explicitly links casual sex, jealousy, and cheating:

QuoteSheila chose the afterglow of one of our love-making sessions to tell me an amusing little anecdote about her former boyfriend, James. It seems he decided to cook dinner naked after Sheila and he had made love. The prep in the kitchen involved chopping up some fresh red chilli peppers, then he went to the toilet. Sheila smiled as she recalled how he yelled with pain and she had to get ice from the freezer to help cool down his burning member.

The details of the story were not particularly shocking or even titillating. But something changed. I had been given a brief glimpse into the intimacy of Sheila's previous relationship and it was as if a switch flicked in my brain. I became fixated on her romantic history. It was all in the past and had happened well before I met Sheila, but I was unaccountably angry and jealous.

https://www.literotica.com/s/retro

High costs of no-fault divorce:

QuoteA Kentucky father has admitted to faking his death to avoid paying his ex-wife more than $100,000 in outstanding child support and is facing serious jail time for the elaborate ruse.

Kipf admitted to completing a Hawaii Death Certificate Worksheet in Jan. 2023, where he created a fake death certificate for himself and "assigned himself as the medical certifier for the case and certified that case."

https://nypost.com/2024/04/07/us-news/kentucky-dad-jesse-kipf-faked-his-own-death-to-avoid-paying-more-than-100k-in-child-support-faces-lengthy-jail-time/

Including REDRUM, which probably peaked during the COVID-19 fake pandemic panic:

QuoteBecky Bliefnick was discovered dead in her Illinois home one afternoon earlier this year. Her bedroom door had been kicked open, and the nurse and mother of three was on the bathroom floor. She'd been shot 14 times.

Her husband, a star college football player and well-known local salesman who once appeared on "Family Feud" and described saying "I do" as the biggest mistake someone could make at their wedding, was convicted of her murder in May.

https://www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news/-tim-bliefnick-becky-family-feud-murder-rcna123260

She sounds like a delusional votard. When the courts give everything to the woman, they give the man an incentive to light 'er up.

At the core of our existential question is our biological question:

QuoteEvery animal is on this planet for one reason. To have babies. As a species, we've learned to walk upright, have multi-thousand-word lexicons, and be so sophisticated that we can elect absolute morons to rule over us, but, at heart, we're still animals. Nowhere in nature is there a job description, 'grandmother', or 'grandfather'. Humans, like all creatures, need a reason to live.

https://www.literotica.com/s/dave-and-the-gloryhole

It's not uncommon for the cheaters to retaliate against the victim for noticing:

QuoteGavin Harper, 45, said acting Inspector Andrew McLullich and his estranged wife Pc Stephanie Glynn started punching and kicking him when he discovered their affair.

Harper is on trial accused of stalking his wife and wounding married Mr McLullich during the confrontation, in February 2021.

But today he told the jury that he only punched Mr McLullich 'three or four times' in self-defence. And he claimed the couple, who both worked for Merseyside police, assaulted him when they realised he was filming their sexual encounter on his mobile phone and feared they would lose their jobs.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13215817/Police-constable-caught-inspector-having-sex-wife-Screwfix-car-park-s-t-kicked-couple-confronted-court-told.html

The ones who do not fly into a rage are the ones who get away with murder:

QuoteDavid Lukey, an aerospace engineer, flew into a rage when he returned to the family home to find wife Andrea half-dressed and evidence of another man in the house.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13209045/Husband-wife-affairs-snapped-punched-rugby-player-lover.html

When we add up all the numbers in the future, it will turn out that no-fault divorce led to an epic number of murders.

If you catch your wife cheating, turn off her phone, pack her bags including toiletries and important paperwork, then suffocate her and put her into her car and then push the car into a lake with her bags and phone. Then tell some gossip that she left you and you have no idea where she was going. The word will spread, and by the time anyone thinks to start looking for her, no one will care.

I think a lot of Boomers killed their spouses during COVID-19. All you needed was a positive test and the panicked neurotics would incinerate the corpse without checking for signs of murder.

Normies can't make decisions, so they wait for an excuse and then rationalize:

QuoteI should have stopped it before it went too far, but my selfishness and hubris overrode my rational thinking, and I fell into a stupid affair. Yes, he seduced me, but I let it happen.

https://www.literotica.com/s/long-term-affair-consequences

They mention narcissism/codependency:

QuoteForcing someone to be good is not what we should want in life. You do not have the same love for me that I had for you because when I loved you, it was self-less, as my desire was always what I could do for you rather than what love can do for me. Your narcissism and selfishness did not permit that love.

https://www.literotica.com/s/breaching-a-partnership

No-fault divorce gives women financial incentive to cheat:

QuoteRepublican pundits and lawmakers have been pushing back on the availability of no-fault divorce, challenging the idea that not being in love is a valid reason to end a marriage.

https://phys.org/news/2024-03-americans-fault-divorce-marriage.html

Final diagnosis: these are abused children. Who else fears confrontation? Only those whose parents beat them down and refused to instill confidence in them.

QuoteI hate confrontation. I always have. I avoid it like the plague. If I dislike someone, I avoid them. I cut them out of my life. It works pretty well. Occasionally, I can't avoid a person, but usually, I can. I'm like that because my parents yelled and screamed at each other for years instead of getting divorced. If I have to confront or fight someone, I will, but only if there is no other option.

https://www.literotica.com/s/jim-and-bonnie-and-julie

It takes an extreme transgression to bring these people to the point of conflict and then they flip/invert. What was once passive becomes active, to the point of being murderous. Abuse a dog and it will take it until it has no option, and then it will bite. These stories, like the conservative-themed action adventure movies where the protagonist sees his family killed before he will act, are designed to convince the abused child that he can flip and be justified in doing so.

I started reading these as an analysis of a literary trope that somehow popped up on writing about sex, and now believe I have found a group of people confessing their abuse stories to one another through a subconscious language that they can all understand without consciously admitting that this is what is occurring.

Abused child behavior?

QuoteI folded down into the tub and sobbed like an abandoned child until the hot water turned cold.

https://www.literotica.com/s/cheating-wife-but-so-much-fixed?page=3

Binary solutions: be with a traitor, or have the possibility of something new?

QuoteDivorce doesn't have to only be heartbreak, custody battles and bitter ex-spouses. Experts explain how you can work toward building something new in the wake.

https://www.ctvnews.ca/lifestyle/the-bright-side-of-divorce-according-to-experts-1.6816237

People without purpose (narcissists, solipsists, individualists, Communists, and Christians are this) will use you for their own ends:

QuoteOf course, her reply was to be expected. "I don't want a divorce."

My response had been thought about and prepared for six months. "Of course not. You want me to be the guy who pays for this house, mows the yard weekly, cleans the pool daily, and buys the groceries as you are far too busy to be bothered by such mundane trivialities. Add to the fact that you don't have to provide even pity sex to your husband, since it has been months since you have allowed me even a glance at your body or allowed even a token touch, then I understand why you don't want a divorce."

https://www.literotica.com/s/remember-when-10

They always know, even if they cannot articulate it at the time:

QuoteIt appears to be a message to a departed loved one as it begins 'For My Love'.

The inscription was spotted on a bench in Royal York Crescent in the Clifton area of the city this morning.

The full message reads: 'For My Love. 06.09.69 - 25.12.23. Husband, Father, Adulterer. Yes, Roger, I knew.'

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13227611/bristol-plaque-bench-roger-adulterer.html

Meatsuit people:

QuoteVisually, nothing was different. It was a familiar, even intimate tableau that screamed of normalcy. However, under the comfortable and familiar exterior - the camouflage layer - nothing was the same. The Maria I'd married, loved, impregnated, comforted, nursed through sickness, and pledged my love, my life, and my loyalty to was gone.

https://www.literotica.com/s/the-talk-leads-to-explosive-end

A couple cheaters:

QuoteJust two years ago, Paul Browning, 37, was living the perfect suburban family life with his wife Jo Browning, 32 and their young daughter in leafy Abergavenny in South Wales.

Terry, 56, who was best man at Gordon Ramsay's wedding and is a well known TV chef on programmes like Great British Menu, was also having an affair under the nose of his wife Jo Terry, 54, who Paul says has been left in the same lurch as him.

Paul said: 'My wife came clean about the affair in May last year. She actually only came clean after Stephen Terry's daughters had seen her name pop up on their dad's phone and she knew that I was going to be told. '

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13118531/My-wife-left-Gordon-Ramsays-best-man-knew-marriage-went-Paris-Jilted-lover-claims-hes-financially-crippled-divorce-ex-enjoys-luxury-trips-TV-chef-Stephen-Terry.html

The secret tracking device (GPS) comes out:

QuoteA policewoman was caught having sex with a married inspector in the backseat of his car in a Screwfix car park by her estranged husband who then battered his love rival with a torch, a court heard.

Liverpool Crown Court heard Harper had followed the couple to the car park after allegedly placing a secret tracking device underneath his wife's car.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13188563/estranged-husband-police-officer-wife-car-screwfix-married-inspector.html

The Martian zombie slut ray is real:

QuoteThe anonymous man, who is from the UK, shared on Reddit that whilst his wife had phoned him on tears during her girls trip to confess she'd had sex with a man 10 years her junior the night before.

Despite her remorse and immediately coming clean, he revealed he is 'not even considering forgiving her'.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-13126709/Wife-cheated-younger-man-forgive-guilty.html

And the deception is profound:

QuoteThere are two sides to me, and they're  diametrically opposed: one is a devoted wife and mother who loves her family very much; the other, a sexually voracious woman who is addicted to the thrill of sleeping with someone new.

Andrew and I have been married for 20 years. I've been unfaithful to him eight times during the past 14 of them. As far as I'm aware, my husband doesn't know about any of these other men.

But even if our marriage was distant and sexless, it still wouldn't be his fault that I stray. It's a choice I make despite knowing that if he or Abigail, 18, were ever to find out, it would break their hearts. I feel guilty, but not enough to stop.

I sleep with other men purely for the frisson of excitement it injects into an otherwise ordinary, and perfectly tolerable, life.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-13239841/I-love-husband-Im-addicted-having-sex-strangers-Shes-devoted-wife-mother-utterly-unrepentant-having-eight-affairs-20-year-marriage.html

Sexual ostracism also factors in:

QuoteI'd lost count of the times I'd rebuffed his sexual advances, closed my bedroom door on him and shut down any conversation around our love life.

Graham and I were having sex only once every two years, if that, and we'd made love maybe five times over the previous decade.

I was the breadwinner, working on the front desk of the local leisure centre while Graham ran the house and home-schooled our children.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-13248349/Meet-woman-says-fault-husband-cheated-agreed-sex-two-years.html

And loverboy is usually a scam:

QuoteNo, these are real men, our age or older, who see a well-off wife as a ticket not only to fun, but to a very comfortable old age with their feet beneath our well-laden tables.

They see us as a catch, but also as women of a certain age who will fall at their feet once shown some attention – hence their confidence (and, as Nadine has discovered, some of these men can be very forthright indeed).

Dressed in old jeans and a scruffy jacket, aged about 70, within minutes of our meeting, he asked whether I'd ever consider getting married again. The 'date', if that's what it was, did not last much longer. Later I discovered that this international financier and publisher was living in a bedsit on the coast. After two divorces, he had hardly any money left.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13245801/real-reason-older-men-proposition-later-life-women-no-think-sexy-liz-hodgkinson.html

One of Sowell's/Coase's tradeoffs:

QuoteYou love yourself more than you love me. You had an opportunity to do something that you never thought you'd have the opportunity to do so you took advantage of it. You didn't think about the costs or consequences because you were getting something that you valued more.

https://www.literotica.com/s/february-sucks-goodbye-jim

How high the social cost of casual sex, no-fault divorce, and infidelity?

QuoteBut rumors surrounding the incident still swirl today, with some speculating the disaster was in fact a murder-suicide triggered by a sordid squabble after one of the crew members engaged in an affair with another's wife.

Indeed, one report claims that the man responsible for the explosion had received a phone call from his wife asking for a divorce just minutes earlier - while the co-worker accused of sleeping with his wife was later found pinned to the ceiling directly above the blown reactor.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13271859/mystery-america-nuclear-disaster-idaho-love-triangle-murder-suicide.html

Rebonding/reimprinting:

QuoteThe Marriage Foundation found that, for those who were still together by the time their child was 14, having had date nights at any stage of parenthood 'significantly increased' the likelihood of them reporting that they were 'very happy' with their relationship.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13279593/date-nights-save-marriage-avoid-divorce.html

The crisis of casual sex: it is detachment from life.

QuoteI never lost the mindset that sex with random men was fun but didn't really mean anything. It required no emotional investment.

https://www.literotica.com/s/all-my-loving-1?page=3

Entitlement, rationalization, excusing, justification, projection:

Quote"No, because I think there is more to it than revenge. You see, the true, interesting part of her career started late in her life. And that's what she's finally living and enjoying right now. It must be thrilling to her. And now you say she's part of a specialized mission abroad. For the first time in her life, she feels that she has some power."

"See, for a lot of people, reaching a position of power or success often comes with a sense of entitlement, as if they feel that they finally deserve to take whatever they want, because they're at the top. Listen to the news. Not a week goes by without a politician or corporate officer being caught in a scandal, just because they thought their position of power gave them the right to do what they did. To a lesser extent, I think this is what happened to Marcy. She thinks that now that she is where she is, the world opens to her, and all the doors are suddenly unlocked. She feels unstoppable, and she doesn't even think that you could seriously consider dumping her."

"Rick, the lack of respect that she shows about your marriage and her contempt for what we did as soldiers just tell me that she no longer has any consideration for you. Add to this her not saying goodbye before she left and her not texting that she had arrived. So yes, I'm afraid that in her mind, you two are history."

https://www.literotica.com/s/just-once-who-wouldnt-mind

Mortality:

QuoteI don't think Barb lacked character or values. I think something just scared her. She saw herself getting older and lost sight of what was important. Maybe I let her down and didn't comfort her enough, but I always tried to be there whenever I knew something was bothering her. The thing is, you can't be responsible for what a person keeps inside themselves.

https://literotica.com/s/witness-david-and-barb

Eugenics:

QuoteI see two kinds of people in the world. I see builders and collectors. Builders try to create something that didn't exist before and to do it they put a part of themselves into everything they build. In the process, they see their own worth in the worth of what they build. If you are a builder, then you are a builder in all aspects of your life; you are a builder in your relationships, in your work, in your play, and in how you view your role in society. Builders know that they cannot build two things in conflict with one another because each is a part of themselves and they know that it takes both time and commitment to build something of value. Collectors surround themselves with things that already have value. They may enhance the value of what they collect; but in the end, they draw their own worth from the value of the things they collect from the world around them. The irony is that many collectors think they are builders because they are building a collection, but that isn't what makes you a builder.

QuoteEighty-nine percent of participants reported monogamy, 4% reported open relationships, and 8% reported NCNM.

https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10508-018-1178-7

QuoteFor instance, results of a 36 study meta-analysis on CNM indicate a largely homogenous population of educated, white, middle- and upper-middle-class professionals, with the percent of people of color ranging from zero to a rare high of 48% (Sheff & Hammers, 2011). Specifically, within the context of polyamory communities, Sheff (2005) found race to be the most homogenous demographic characteristic, with the majority (89%) of 81 participants identifying as white.

https://digitalcommons.chapman.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1133&context=psychology_articles

QuoteHalf of Americans say open marriages – a marriage where both spouses agree that they can date or have sex with other people – are somewhat or completely unacceptable. This includes 37% who say these marriages are completely unacceptable and 13% who say they're somewhat unacceptable.

https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2023/09/14/views-of-divorce-and-open-marriages/

QuoteAlthough we know of no representative research that has addressed the question of the prevalence of CNM in the population, it appears from samples that we have recruited generally (i.e., cases in which recruitment was not targeted for CNM individuals), that approximately 4% of participants identify themselves as CNM (Conley et al., unpublished data).

This percentage is comparable to the percentage of lesbian, gay, and bisexual individuals estimated in the population (Mosher, Chandra, & Jones, 2005) and also equivalent to the percentage of lesbian, gay, and bisexual individuals in those same samples.

https://deepblue.lib.umich.edu/bitstream/handle/2027.42/102091/asap1286.pdf?sequence=1

QuoteThe percentage of wives having affairs rose almost 40 percent during the last two decades to 14.7 percent in 2010, while the number of men admitting to extramarital affairs held constant at 21 percent, according to the latest data from the National Opinion Research Center's General Social Survey (https://gss.norc.org/).

Blacks, executives and managers, and Southerners were most likely to report extramarital affairs to the 40-year-old survey, the oldest continuous source of data on American behavior.

https://www.bloomberg.com/news/articles/2013-07-02/cheating-wives-narrowed-infidelity-gap-over-two-decades

QuoteSome research suggests that open marriage has a 92 percent failure rate. Steve Brody, Ph.D., a psychologist in Cambria, California, explains that less than 1 percent of married people are in open marriages.

https://edition.cnn.com/2010/LIVING/personal/03/23/o.open.marriages.work/index.html

QuoteUnlike the goal of an open marriage, in which the focus is on meeting individual needs and desires at the expense of marital unity, a monogamous marriage focuses on individual growth within and not at the expense of the protected space of marriage.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-marital-labyrinth-series/202110/the-problem-open-marriage

QuoteIf a woman isn't attached to a friend or married to a colleague, then I'm afraid the sexual pizzazz just isn't there.

Sleeping with my brother's girlfriend gave me an added frisson because I was having sex with someone he — one of the golden boys who monopolised my parents' attention — cared for. At last, I was the one in control.

As I shake the hand of a new business acquaintance, I still find myself wondering what his wife is like. They all think their other halves are different and would never stray. But honestly, given the encouragement, they really aren't.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-13315711/sleeping-friends-wives-enjoy-power-serial-adultery.html

QuoteThe prosecution say the pair hired an unknown killer to strike at Morgan's Food Fayre in Linslade, Bedfordshire, after realising divorcing their respective spouses would leave them in financial difficulties.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13319453/Cheating-husband-married-lover-paid-shopkeeper-murdered-brutal-1981-attack-trial-hears.html

QuoteNadine Arslanian left the lights on and TVs blaring at her Englewood Cliffs, New Jersey, home without even her children knowing where she was, The Post has learned.

And she left a "weird" typewritten note on the door for the man she was casually dating, that lover told The Post.

She then secretly flew for a week-long assignation with Menendez, the New Jersey Democratic senator, in the Dominican Republic in the spring of 2018.

https://nypost.com/2024/04/30/us-news/bob-menendezs-wife-was-declared-missing-by-her-other-lover/

QuoteA 24-year-old Wisconsin elementary school teacher was arrested Wednesday for allegedly "making out" with her fifth-grade student — less than three months before her wedding.

Inside her bag, police also found a folder with the victim's name on it containing many handwritten notes talking about how much they kissed one another, the charges allege.

In one of the letters, Bergmann allegedly wrote, "One of my cousins is in the 5th grade and I can't imagine a man talking to her how we talk. I know we have a special relationship and I do love you more than anyone in the world but I have to be the adult here and stop."

https://nypost.com/2024/05/03/us-news/wisconsin-elementary-school-teacher-madison-bergmann-arrested-for-making-out-with-student/

QuoteA random sample of 464 partners in heterosexual relationships graphed changes in commitment to wed monthly for 8 months and then graphed them from memory. Results supported the developmental change hypothesis; retrospective reports of commitment initially were lower than concurrent reports and increased more steeply over time. This effect was moderated by changes in relationship stage, with advancement showing accuracy of recall, maintenance showing developmental change, and regression showing amplification. Accuracy of recall depends upon relationship history, which has implications for relationship outcomes and reliability of retrospective reports.

https://pure.psu.edu/en/publications/a-comparison-of-concurrent-and-retrospective-trajectories-of-comm

Let's look at marriages -- both straight and gay -- in terms of rank:

A. Transcendental bond, you esteem each other, partner empties your balls or ploughs your cervix or rectum because they want to make you feel loved.

B. Mental bond, you are working together toward family, you enjoy each other as friends, and you keep each other sexually happy and fed to make that work.

C. Physical bond, you like to screw and eat a lot afterwards, but both are scheming for the tradeup.

I suppose we can add:

D. Convenience, you needed someone and they are there.

F. Codependency, you are both insane or alcoholic and need someone to be dysfunctional with.

Did I miss anything?

QuoteWhen I trust someone enough to finally take them to bed, I end up handing over my heart to them.

https://www.literotica.com/s/conversation-by-a-burning-bed-ch-02

QuoteCognitive psychologist Iliana Samara conducted her Ph.D. project on romantic attraction and discovered that men, in particular, tend to overestimate the interest of their date.

"Note: we observed this mainly in men who found their female date attractive. Men who were less interested in the other person estimated their chances more realistically."

https://phys.org/news/2024-05-looking-for-love-how-we.html

Quote"He had been dating this other woman, who he'd met online, since March 2019," Palmieri told The Post.

"The last texts they shared were disgusting, sexual messages," said Palmieri. "Eric sent them to her seven days before our wedding."

"I cried for the first few days. But there is just no denying his pathological, narcissistic behavior behind this," she said.

https://nypost.com/2024/05/17/lifestyle/my-fiance-died-on-our-wedding-day-and-then-i-discovered-his-secret-life/

Call out the narcs. They are reptilian meatsuit fake humans, like sociopaths and other individualists.

QuoteA mom of two has been mocked on social media after revealing she left her longtime husband for a man she believed to be her "soul mate" — only for him to promptly reject her.

"As I settled into my seat, I looked up and immediately lost my breath," Trenfield wrote. "When our eyes met there was an instant familiarity that ran deeper than water-cooler chat. These eyes had locked before. Twelve years earlier. His name was Jason. I hadn't forgotten."

Less than a month later, Trenfield ended her 14-year marriage with her husband, despite not having had any further communication with Jason since the night of the dinner party.

https://nypost.com/2022/05/09/mom-leaves-husband-of-14-years-for-her-soulmate-only-to-be-rejected/

QuoteSandra Pagniano, 39, vanished without a trace in May 2017, with two mysterious letters left behind.

The letters, which appeared to have been left by the mother-of-two, said that she was leaving and wanted to hand over the house, cars and custody of their two children to her husband David Michael Pagniano.

Prosecutors later learned that the notes had been forged by her 62-year-old husband.

https://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/americas/crime/divorce-murder-shallow-grave-arizona-b2548192.html

Why lose 50%+ of everything when a shallow grave is easy to dig? lol weep

QuoteIn its conclusion that "Durall's mental state, including his research and planning of his wife's death, which preceded the murder for months, was qualitatively and quantitatively much more egregious and culpable than that required to prove meditated intent," the trial court relied upon the following facts: on several occasions during the months before Carolyn's murder, Durall conducted internet research on how to kill his wife; Durall stated in e-mails to women he met on an internet dating service that he dreaded the prospect of a divorce and he had "a plan" to resolve his unsatisfactory marriage; Durall met with one woman six months before Carolyn's murder and told her that it would be easier if his wife were dead; and Durall made a list of tasks and items needed for the crime. In addition, Durall took elaborate steps to cover up the crime, including hiring a private investigator, cleaning and concealing blood stains from the murder, disposing of his wife's body in a rural area, suggesting to police, friends, Carolyn's co-workers, and family that Carolyn had run off with another man, and concocting an alibi to comport to these facts.

As seen in Wood, the degree of Durall's planning and research distinguishes this case apart from more typical murder cases. Moreover, while the defendant in Wood used third parties to explore means of killing her husband, Durall's use of the internet to do the same suggests a similarly culpable mental state.

https://www.casemine.com/judgement/us/5914b802add7b04934782ae5

QuoteAnd so it was arranged and surprise, surprise, Mr Dolan was a very large guy, ginger hair and masses of freckles, a cock at least in proportion to his stature, and not only did he look Irish, he had the brogue and lilting voice that pegged him as more Irish than the Blarney Stone.

https://www.literotica.com/s/tt-bb

QuoteTaiwanese police allege she was carrying 15lbs of the drug, which - they say - she initially 'vehemently denied' having any knowledge of.

She later claimed her ex-husband John was behind the scheme, police say.

John's exact whereabouts are currently unclear. Mr Huang said that the legal team was seeking to subpoena him.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13451445/Mother-57-faces-execution-gunshot-heart-Taiwan-drug-smuggling-blames-ex-husband-15lb-cocaine-heroin-suitcase.html

Quote"I saw her online, I recognised her last name and it turns out her son actually used to bully the s**t out of me and so I figured if I could f*** his mum, I could rub it in his face."

The four radio hosts reply in various states of shock, before revealing that Arielle also heard his astonishing plot to get revenge on her son Sam.

https://www.mirror.co.uk/news/world-news/man-gets-revenge-school-bully-10986761

QuoteA team of economists studying a large pool of lottery players in Sweden (https://archive.ph/o/E2894/https://www.nber.org/papers/w31039) found that when men win the lottery, they become a lot likelier than demographically similar lottery losers to get married (if they were lower-income and unmarried before their win), and they have more children. On its face, that supports the work-life-balance idea. But when women win the lottery, the only big change in their behavior is divorce: Divorce rates for women almost double in the first couple of years after winning the lottery.

https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2023/03/money-wealth-lottery-impact-fertility-rate/673549/ (https://archive.ph/E2894)

QuoteQueen Letizia of Spain brought her alleged lover on secret trips to New York City — all while her distraught husband had updates sent to him in "real-time" by their bodyguards, a bombshell new book claims.

The mother-of-two is the subject of "Letizia's Silences," in which veteran royal reporter Jaime Peñafiel claims she has frequently cheated on her "broken" husband, King Felipe.

According to the book, royal bodyguards joined the queen and her alleged lover Jaime del Burgo on a 2011 visit to NYC  — information that would have been passed on to her husband.

https://nypost.com/2024/05/30/world-news/inside-the-bombshell-affair-claims-rocking-spanish-royal-family/

"del Burgo" = of the city

Quote"It's very hard to hate or not be able to forgive somebody that you believe is a human being that deserves empathy and understanding. And I think we all do," Twain said. "Do I hate my ex-husband for making a mistake? No. It's his mistake. Not my mistake."

She added, "So sad for him that he made such a great mistake that he has to live with. And I don't know what that is, but it's not, that's not my weight."

"Forgiveness is in the family of letting go. But forgiveness — for me, anyway — is not about forgetting, necessarily," Twain continued. "It's about understanding the other person, and that might mean that they're wrong. Maybe you believe forever that whatever they did was wrong."

https://www.ctvnews.ca/entertainment/shania-twain-shares-how-she-forgave-her-ex-husband-s-cheating-it-s-his-mistake-1.6906929

yeet narcs

Historical development of this form:

• After the Cruise (https://www.literotica.com/s/after-the-cruise-day-of-redemption)
• As the Worm Turns (https://www.literotica.com/s/as-the-worm-turns)
• Betrayed by My Wife (https://www.literotica.com/s/betrayed-by-my-wife)
• Bitter Harvest (https://www.literotica.com/s/bitter-harvest)
• Boredom (https://www.literotica.com/s/boredom-1)
• Caught (https://www.literotica.com/s/caught-12)
• Changing Destinations (https://www.literotica.com/s/changing-destinations)
• Cindy, Oh Cindy (https://www.literotica.com/s/cindy-oh-cindy)
• Cruise of Deception (https://www.literotica.com/s/cruise-of-deception)
• Don't Get Mad, Get Even (https://www.literotica.com/s/dont-get-mad-get-even)
• A Matter of Trust (https://www.literotica.com/s/a-matter-of-trust-2)
• A Real Surprise Party (https://www.literotica.com/s/a-real-surprise-party)
• Revenge (https://www.literotica.com/s/revenge-14)
• Take My Wife, Please (https://www.literotica.com/s/take-my-wife-please)
• Unfaithful Wife (https://www.literotica.com/s/unfaithful-wife-1)
• The Video (https://www.literotica.com/s/the-video-ch-02)
• Wife's Revenge (https://www.literotica.com/s/wifes-revenge)

QuoteThe researchers found that the trait manifests itself in vulnerable and subtle ways in women, which deviates from stereotypical manifestations of (male) narcissism that are typically expressed in grandiose and overt ways.

"For women, recalling having a caring mother during childhood was associated with reduced levels of vulnerable narcissism and subsequent perpetration of violence toward their partner, highlighting possible buffers that can be acknowledged and integrated into intervention programs."

"Instead, features of vulnerable narcissism, which more closely aligns with femininity, is a greater risk marker for offending behaviors in women and, as a consequence, more likely marginalized and disregarded due to its elusive and subtle features."

https://phys.org/news/2024-06-unraveling-gendered-undertones-narcissism.html

QuoteKnowing that you were caught or might be caught was not a good reason for you to not go through with it. You had to stop it because you knew it was wrong, not because you were going to get caught.

https://www.literotica.com/s/telephone-blitz?page=2

For the "free will" vs. "why does God/gods let us sin?" crowd.

QuoteAn unfaithful husband who arranged meetings with prostitutes via messages on his iPhone is pursuing legal action against Apple after his wife discovered that his deleted messages were still stored on a linked computer.

https://www.thetimes.com/article/husband-pursues-apple-after-wife-finds-deleted-messages-to-prostitute-bbhlg2x07

QuoteFormer Lt. Ryan Terrell admitted to using Verkada security cameras owned by the City of North Charleston in an attempt to catch his wife cheating on him, according to a South Carolina Criminal Justice Academy Notice of Disciplinary Action.

The report states several officers contacted the Office of Professional Standards on April 11 regarding Terrell threatening to harm a sergeant.

The report states Terrell caught his wife in a romantic relationship with the sergeant earlier in the day while at work.

https://www.live5news.com/2024/06/24/north-charleston-police-officer-demoted-using-cameras-track-wife/

Literary fiction about divorce. In the order a good compilation would be. If you want to nail this genre, these are the top echelon.

• The Bridge (https://www.literotica.com/s/the-bridge-6)
• Fortune (https://www.literotica.com/s/fortune-1)
• Was It All Worth It? (https://www.literotica.com/s/was-it-all-worth-it-1)
• Christmas Biology Lesson (https://www.literotica.com/s/christmas-biology-lesson)
• An Unexpected Reaction (https://www.literotica.com/s/an-unexpected-reaction-1)
• Cheating Hearts Club (https://www.literotica.com/s/cheating-hearts-club)
• Time Is The Ultimate Revenge (https://www.literotica.com/s/time-is-the-ultimate-revenge)
• The Cost (https://www.literotica.com/s/the-cost)
• Sleeping With a Stranger (https://www.literotica.com/s/sleeping-with-a-stranger-1)
• My Wife Goes On a Date (https://www.literotica.com/s/my-wife-goes-on-a-date-1)
• Look of Lust (https://www.literotica.com/s/look-of-lust)
• Ask Aunt Agatha (https://www.literotica.com/s/ask-aunt-agatha)
• Legion (https://www.literotica.com/s/legion-1)
• Caroline Alone (https://www.literotica.com/s/caroline-alone-ch-01)

QuoteThe footage allegedly showed Peters taking the Diet Mountain Dew from the fridge and a bottle of Roundup weed killer into the house. A few moments later, Peters returned and put both items back in their original spots.

Peters' husband said he was not sure if his wife was having an affair, or if she was looking to collect his $500,000 life insurance policy. He also noted that she had "drastically reduced" the money she had been transferring to their personal account from a business account.

https://nypost.com/2024/06/27/us-news/wife-poisoned-husbands-soda-after-he-was-not-appreciative-of-birthday-party-cops/

QuoteA girl never forgets her first love.

https://www.literotica.com/s/major-mistake

I love to watch it all burn.

QuoteWhile plenty of happy couples can trace their meet-cute moment to an online dating app, many others find the never-ending process of likes, swipes, taps and awkward DMs that go nowhere to be exhausting — leading to a phenomenon known as "dating app burnout."

https://www.ctvnews.ca/lifestyle/ever-feel-exhausted-by-swiping-through-dating-apps-you-might-be-experiencing-burnout-1.6944561

QuoteMercy to the guilty is cruelty to the innocent.

https://www.literotica.com/s/teacher-learns-a-lesson-2

QuoteCox's book is a feminist take on anger-inducing life experiences; from unresolved feelings about miscarriage and loss, to the sometimes maddening business of looking after toddlers, feeling undermined at work, partners failing to pull their weight at home, sexual harassment and violence. Her argument is essentially that it is hardly surprising many women are hopping mad and that their suppressed feelings eventually burst out, sometimes with toxic consequences. She is fascinated by the phenomenon of women becoming online trolls, venting spleen under the cover of anonymity. ("I think trolling is a horribly brilliant way of being able to enact that destruction, but invisibly," she says.)

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/article/2024/jul/03/all-the-rage-women-are-furious-and-repressing-it-can-ruin-our-lives

QuoteWhy is this (prostitution -- Ed.) different from the four guys I've slept with prior to dating you?

https://www.literotica.com/s/its-not-about-the-money-1

QuoteThe "just sex" excuse misses what is the truly important issue in these cases. It is the total lack of respect it shows for the partner. The cheater knows what they are doing is wrong and would hurt the other person. Otherwise, they would be doing it in the open and I would have known all along.

https://www.literotica.com/s/good-enough-for-the-goose

Quote"Sylvia's cheating was bad enough to end the marriage all by itself, of course, but her lying about it was ten times worse. That showed a total lack of respect, a disregard for me almost to the point of contempt. But the very worst thing of all, which was a hundred times worse than THAT, was that she'd manipulated me into being complicit with her lies. She used my feelings for her against me. She turned me against myself, and then watched me drive myself mad. I became unfocused. Dissociative. I wasn't sure what was real and what wasn't. I distrusted and second-guessed myself about everything. I found myself gazing off into space and becoming unresponsive to what people were saying to me. I was depressed. I was isolated. I was miserable. I broke out into tears, just for no reason, without knowing why.

"Sylvia saw it, of course. She saw the changes in me. She'd ask me 'what's wrong?' and I couldn't tell her, because my suspicions made me a BAD MAN. So I sucked it up, repressed it, and made it worse. She knew what she was doing to me, because she's not stupid, either... and yet she kept right on doing it. She watched herself torture me, encouraging me to believe I was crazy, and jealous, and WRONG to think the evil thoughts that I just could not keep out of my stupid, insecure head. Good husbands TRUST and have FAITH in their wives and would never, ever, EVER believe that they'd betray you like that... and she Did Not Stop. I mean, how can you claim to love someone, to care about them, and yet still do that? How could she keep it up, week after week, month after month, and keep on doing it with no end in fucking sight?

"The answer, as it turned out, was that she's a sociopath."

https://www.literotica.com/s/february-sucks-same-old-me-1of4?page=3

QuoteThe term "gaslighting" was not yet widely in use during the nineties, but that was what had been done to me. If I voiced any concern, it was dismissed as silly. If I became accusatory, I was merely jealous. If I was depressed, I was imagining things. Above all else, any failure on my part to trust her and believe her meant that I was a bad husband, a bad man, and a generally awful person, because she promised up, down, and sideways that I had "Nothing To Worry About." I was convinced I'd gone mad. The level of betrayal I was experiencing was unfathomable, therefore it COULD NOT be real. I HAD to be imagining it. The worst part is that she watched herself do it to me. She saw me twisting at the end of her rope, beating myself up with my own misplaced faith in her, and she had no intention of ever stopping it.

https://www.literotica.com/s/twenty-years-is-a-long-time

QuoteA majority of states also allow fault divorce, where one party can claim reasons like adultery, abandonment, long-term incarceration or cruelty.

"Cruelty – and more specifically, causing a spouse unneeded pain, whether emotional or physical — is typically the most common grounds for a fault divorce.," says Thomas A. Ramuda Jr., a divorce attorney based in Colorado.

https://www.cnn.com/2023/11/27/us/no-fault-divorce-explained-history-wellness-cec/index.html

QuoteMike had never conceptualized it, but inside him, there was a wall. A wall of love. The stones in the wall were strong, but what was even more essential—the mortar that held them together—was trust.

Behind the wall lurked demons. Barbarians. They had tribes: jealousy, suspicion, fear, insecurity. They'd harried him mercilessly as a teenager; less so in his college years; yet strongly again when he first started dating Jennifer. Happily, as their love grew, so grew the wall. Eventually, the barbarians were shut out.

But in the wild, dark lands behind the wall, the barbarians lived on.

https://www.literotica.com/s/tunnel-of-love-pt-01?page=5

QuoteA swarm of swingers descended on a quiet British village for a weekend of raunchy debauchery that has locals fuming.

The town of just 7,900 has complained to police in the past about "screaming and moaning" coming from the countryside site and keeping them up at night.

https://nypost.com/2024/07/20/lifestyle/swingers-festival-swarms-quiet-british-village-of-allington-bigger-better-and-bolder/

QuoteTerry Boyle, a former employer of Laroche, testified that the woman told her she kept Mantee's body in their apartment refrigerator, periodically disposing of his remains between March and August 2020.

https://bc.ctvnews.ca/woman-guilty-of-murdering-dismembering-boyfriend-in-nanaimo-b-c-1.6970891

QuoteRobin Heidt has been the center of an investigation herself. Back in August 2008 her husband Carey and his father Phillip were murdered.

Prosecutors say they have evidence that Robin was having an affair with the suspect, her brother-in-law, Craig Heidt. Craig Heidt is charged with the murders.

https://www.wtoc.com/story/13160451/heidt-family-dealing-with-another-tragedy/

QuoteOn August 23, 2008, Heidt and Robin observed a low-flying helicopter circling the hunting cabin in which they were staying. Philip and Carey had arranged for a friend to attempt to photograph Heidt, Robin, and their vehicles from the helicopter. The next day, August 24, Robin asked Carey about the helicopter, and he confirmed that it was part of an effort to obtain proof of her affair with his brother. Carey and Robin then had a "heated discussion," which ended with Carey leaving to spend the night at the home of his parents in Springfield, Georgia.3 Robin called Heidt "not long after Carey left" and told him what had happened.

Early on the morning of August 25, someone entered the home in Springfield, using a spare key that typically was hidden in a storage room under the carport. The intruder went into the room in which Carey was sleeping and shot him with a 12–gauge shotgun. The intruder then went into the bedroom that Philip shared with Heidt's mother, Linda, and shot both Philip and Linda. The intruder poured gasoline throughout the home and broke out a window, apparently in an attempt to make it appear as though someone had entered the home forcibly. The intruder, however, failed to remove the spare key from the door lock.

According to other testimony at trial, Heidt was one of only a few people who knew that a spare key to the home of his parents was hidden under their carport, several 12–gauge shotgun shells were found in his truck on the day of the murders, and four days after the murders, Heidt was seen with three bruises on his upper arms, consistent with him having recently fired three shots from a shotgun .

https://caselaw.findlaw.com/court/ga-supreme-court/1620010.html

QuoteEvidence at the two-week trial showed Craig Heidt was having an affair with Carey Heidt's wife, Robin. Craig Heidt had also looked at land with a Realtor, saying he expected to have some money soon.

The affair became known to the family and caused great tension, "reaching a peak," in the days leading up to the murders, Muldrew said.

The motive, according to Muldrew: "Lust and greed," citing the affair with his brother's wife, a $3.5 million life insurance policy on the life of Carey Heidt and Craig Heidt's share of his father's estate.

https://www.savannahnow.com/story/news/2018/08/25/decade-passes-since-heidt-murders-that-shook-effingham/10943625007/

QuoteThen Sheriff McDuffie recalled an unsettling conversation he's had with Carey Heidt only a month earlier.

"...he knew that his wife was runnin' around on him," McDuffie said. "But he did not tell me who it was with."

Not only was the marriage on the rocks, but even more shockingly, Robin Heidt was having an affair with her husband's older brother, Craig.

https://www.cbsnews.com/news/affair-leads-to-shocking-ga-double-murder/

QuoteA spurned woman in China turned off her husband's life support after he suffered a severe brain bleed at his mistress's home and ended up in hospital.

The 38-year-old man had been living with his mistress while still technically married, having left his wife some ten years prior.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13713847/wife-stroke-coma-life-support-mistress.html

QuoteShe added: "I also thought it weird that our son has brown eyes when both of us have blue. Then I found out that while this is uncommon, it's possible sometimes due to many genes controlling eye color."

https://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/wife-wants-divorce-husband-finding-202726204.html

QuoteA Missouri man with an alleged history of domestic abuse is accused of strapping his ex into a wheelchair and forcing her to watch him and his new girlfriend dig her grave before killing her, investigators said.

https://nypost.com/2024/08/13/us-news/missouri-man-made-ex-watch-him-dig-her-grave-before-killing-her-cops/

QuoteThe woman, who cannot be named, challenged the rejection of her workers' compensation claim for facial and psychological injuries suffered when a glass light fitting came away from the wall above the bed as she was having sex in November 2007.

The woman in her late thirties was required to travel to a country town by her employer, the Human Relations Section of the Commonwealth Government agency.

The male friend said in his statement at the time that they were "going hard" and he did not know if they bumped the light or it just fell off.

https://www.news.com.au/finance/worker-injured-during-sex-gets-compo/news-story/16d876427c3b216be20048f917544959

QuoteAttachment is also more likely to evolve when individuals can directly assess the quality of their reproductive opportunity (as opposed to relying on imperfect information from reproductive success), when the quality of the reproductive opportunity has adult survival ramifications, and when divorce coevolves with attachment.

https://www.journals.uchicago.edu/doi/10.1086/731671

QuoteAged 36, he hadn't made friends outside of work for 15 years, and working remotely, his opportunities to create new friendships became even more limited.

"The only person I've had frequent contact and constant contact with is my wife or her family and that's it," Mr Sheridan says.

https://www.abc.net.au/news/2024-08-25/fathers-overcome-loneliness-through-gaming-with-dadlan/104259066

QuoteTan Xianglong, 37, planted what he thought was more than half a kilo of cannabis between the rear passenger seats of his wife's car, assuming it was enough to warrant the death penalty for drug trafficking.

https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/cj9l8zx2wn4o

QuoteCoppola is charged with two counts of second-degree murder for supposedly fatally shooting his ex, Kelly Coppola, and her boyfriend, Kenneth Pohlman, as they slept in their St. James home around 11:45 p.m. Wednesday.

The scorned divorcé told his teen daughter to stay inside his car outside the house just moments before he broke open the front door.

https://nypost.com/2024/08/30/us-news/long-island-divorcee-who-allegedly-gunned-down-ex-wife-her-lover-in-million-dollar-home-scowls-as-hes-led-by-cops-in-handcuffs/

QuoteGetting frisky with other passengers might have been an option – upside down pineapples, a cruise symbol to signify a cabin's occupants are open to swinging, were apparently affixed to some of the doors – but a desire to get soused while aboard only got passengers so far.

https://nypost.com/2024/09/14/us-news/cruise-confessions-stories-from-a-9-month-world-cruise/

QuoteMost mornings Ron still woke with at least a semi-erection. This wasn't one of them. Actually he wondered if he would ever become sexually excited again.

https://www.literotica.com/s/and-on-the-seventh-day-god-rested

QuoteAn Ohio mom has been sentenced to 40 years behind bars after she was caught on camera ambushing her ex-husband and fatally injecting him with a powerful animal tranquilizer during an ugly custody dispute over their kids, federal prosecutors said.

https://nypost.com/2024/10/03/us-news/ohio-mom-amanda-hovanec-fatally-poisoned-ex-husband-during-custody-battle/

QuoteWhile I sat there stunned, a thought kept going through my head about how while men can fake their interest in a woman so as to get her into bed, a woman can fake an entire fucking relationship.

https://www.literotica.com/s/the-intersection-of-past-and-present

QuoteHe also attempted to force Weber, who was in her mid-20s at the time, "into a quid pro quo relationship with Trustee to secure a political favor" — forcing her to make up excuses, including that she had COVID, to skirt his advances, the lawsuit claims.

https://nypost.com/2024/10/04/us-news/millennial-ex-mayor-of-ritzy-hamptons-village-accused-of-pimping-out-staffer-for-political-vote-suit/

QuoteDid something happen in your last relationship or during the breakup that hurt your self-worth? Presumably, you've had breakups before, and it didn't lead to ED, so I'm inclined to think there was something different about this one.
During the breakup, did she say very hurtful things about you, taking cheap digs about your penis size? Did she claim you were shitty in bed? Or, perhaps it was more insidious, and she subtly degraded you throughout your relationship?
It's necessary to figure out what was said or done. Only then can you get to the root of the problem and specifically address that insecurity. Because psychological ED is often rooted in fear. Fear you're not big enough. Fear you're not going to satisfy your partner. Fear they're going to make fun of you, you'll cum too quickly, you won't make her cum, she'll find your body gross, or any of ahundred other valid fears.

https://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/a62486141/sexplain-it-erectile-dysfunction-ed-breakup/

QuoteShe even learned he'd been renting an apartment in Colorado, where he would have sex with escorts and women he'd picked up.

https://nypost.com/2024/10/05/world-news/widow-ate-dead-husbands-ashes-after-discovering-his-cheating/

QuoteThe findings of the individual experiments and the overall study revealed that when participants observed others showing interest in their partner, they experienced decreased desire for their partner, a reduced inclination to invest in the relationship, and a strong urge to fend off the "rivals."

When a person is looking for a mate, such attention may serve as evidence of that mate's value. However, in an established relationship, the same attention may be perceived as a threat indicating the possibility of losing the partner to someone else. The fear of losing a partner may trigger defensive reactions.

To protect ourselves from the potential pain of such a loss, we may create emotional distance from our partner and withdraw from investing in the relationship as a way of softening the blow we would experience in the event that our fears materialize.

https://phys.org/news/2024-10-flirting-paradox-attention-partner-liable.html

QuoteI was tired of people who claimed to be my friend and then fucked me behind my back.

https://www.literotica.com/s/silver-anniversary

QuoteI don't think that I would want a child out of you after what you did. It's as if your body has been tainted by what you did.

https://www.literotica.com/s/broken-dream

QuoteJennifer Gledhill allegedly admitted to her paramour that she shot her husband in his sleep Sept. 21, stuffed his body in a rooftop storage container and drove it north before digging him a shallow grave.

https://nypost.com/2024/10/16/us-news/jennifer-gledhill-shot-husband-after-he-confronted-her-about-affair-officials/

QuoteThe more men are concerned about appearing masculine, the less likely they will forgive a co-worker for a transgression such as missing an important meeting, because they view forgiveness as a feminine trait, Haselhuhn and his co-author, Margaret E. Ormiston of George Washington University, found.

What's more, men who are not inclined to forgive are also more likely seek revenge or avoid the transgressor, which contributes to an unhealthy and less effective work environment, the research found. They also view men who forgive as unmanly.

https://phys.org/news/2024-10-masculinity-linked-revenge-workplace.html

QuoteNearly 60 Hongkongers, including four women, were victims of extortion in which they were tricked into undressing during video chats and then coerced into paying more than HK$1.9 million (US$244,430) over the past week.

https://www.scmp.com/news/hong-kong/law-and-crime/article/3282979/naked-chat-blackmail-4-women-among-59-hongkongers-duped-undressing-during-video-chats

QuoteA large number of the men who cheat on their wives with me really need a therapist and not a lover. I think its true that in general the act of sex, no matter how many variations we add to it, is essentially the same, but the emotional and lets say spiritual quality of sex is quite different from person to person.

https://www.literotica.com/s/a-truly-horny-man

QuoteNo fault divorce wasn't a mistake.
It was Treason.

https://pkteerium.xyz/objects/86970fc0-0bb1-4b31-9536-73c18de10030

Dying empires love anal:

QuoteI'm not a prude—I'm no Condoleezza Rice—but anal is not something I'm particularly interested in, and I never thought Jake was either. That is until he came back after death in ghostly form to tell me otherwise.
Once I had wrapped my head around all this, I realized I was stuck in a classic dilemma that every woman must deal with at some point in her life: Should I submit myself to a sexual act I'm uncomfortable with because my husband died and his spirit came back to ask for it?

https://www.mcsweeneys.net/articles/my-husband-died-and-now-his-ghost-wants-anal

Lots of this going around:

QuoteA North Dakota woman was sentenced to 25 years in prison for poisoning her boyfriend after mistakenly believing he had inherited $30 million and planned to break up with her, officials said.

Ina Thea Kenoyer, 48, was convicted for the murder of Steven Riley Jr., 51, who died last year from ethylene glycol poisoning, the same toxin found in antifreeze.

https://nypost.com/2024/10/20/us-news/woman-sentenced-to-25-years-for-poisoning-boyfriend-when-thinking-she-inherited-30-million/

Historical cucking:

QuoteFurther investigation comparing the Y chromosome in the hair samples with those of modern relatives descending from Beethoven's paternal line point to a mismatch.

This suggests extramarital sexual activity in the generations leading up to the composer's birth.

"This finding suggests an extrapair paternity event in his paternal line between the conception of Hendrik van Beethoven in Kampenhout, Belgium in c.1572 and the conception of Ludwig van Beethoven seven generations later in 1770, in Bonn, Germany," said Tristan Begg, a biological anthropologist now at the University of Cambridge in the UK.

https://www.sciencealert.com/dna-from-beethovens-hair-reveals-a-surprise-nearly-200-years-later

QuoteThe stunt showcased a towering skeleton beside a sign that read: "Here lies all the boys who did us wrong," while gravestones were engraved with their exes' names and playful fake causes of death. The footage captures the women digging into the ground, a symbolic gesture to bury the past.

https://www.kentucky.com/living/article294345194.html

QuoteDivorce laws in this country must have been written by hard core feminazis. Let's face it, if you have a dick, you are screwed in the divorce. Cheating pays for women. The poor innocent husband who has been faithful and done nothing wrong ends up paying the slut to keep fucking around. There is only so much that a guy can do to protect himself.

https://www.literotica.com/s/the-goose-and-the-gander

QuoteWilkerson was married to another soldier stationed in Hanau, who was pregnant at the same time as Gonzales.

Gonzales, uncertain about the paternity of her unborn child was, had wanted to end her relationship with Wilkerson, according to prosecutors, who also said Wilkerson feared the child was his.

https://www.upi.com/Top_News/US/2024/10/25/soldier-sentenced-murder/1871729834342/

QuoteThe content of the marital relationship isn't in the "oath" or any other symbolism like the marriage certificate, contract, ceremony with friends and family, social optics, calling each other "honeys," social expectations of spousal roles, God as Elvis who married you in Vegas (or sanctimonious equivalent).

The actual marriage is in the degree of psychological bonding between the two and the exchange of value it encourages.

https://www.literotica.com/s/time-for-a-non-fiction-cold-shower

QuoteA team, led by Dr. Julia Schroeder and Dr. Jamie Dunning from the Department of Life Sciences, found that male sparrows that cheat on their social partner have a higher life-time fitness—the ability to survive and reproduce.

They found that males that had offspring both with their bonded female and outside that relationship had the highest fitness, while "floating males," which only had non-bonded offspring, had the lowest lifetime fitness.

https://phys.org/news/2024-10-boosts-male-sparrow.html

Tom Wolfe evocations:

QuoteI was still very popular among our team supporters and our junior players. A man to look up to, a man who thanks to the hockey had got everything a young hockey player could dream about. If I had let an asshole fuck my beautiful wife without taken any vengeance, my reputation had turned from admired sport star to a poor wimp and a laughing stock.

https://www.literotica.com/s/gold-plated-lighter

QuoteI didn't care what happened to me, but I refused to stand and face a bunch of people that I knew and look like a cuckold loser.

https://www.literotica.com/s/no-deposit-no-return

QuoteMacLaine was present at the event and says she attended an afterparty where she saw President Kennedy leave a bedroom with Monroe inside.

Shockingly, MacLaine asserts that Robert F. Kennedy — who was then serving as US Attorney General — entered the room immediately after, presumably to have sex with the "Some Like It Hot" star straight after his sibling did.

https://nypost.com/2024/11/02/entertainment/shirley-maclaine-marilyn-monroe-had-both-kennedy-brothers-in-bed-on-same-night/

QuoteOne of the boys filled a large beaker with some type of clear solution. The other placed a single drop of another, blood red, chemical in next. I sat and watched that tiny, insignificant drop of liquid infect the entire solution. It weaved its way though the clear liquid, sometimes streaking other times billowing but in the end the entire beaker was a pale pink. No portion was left untouched.

https://www.literotica.com/s/my-story-34

QuoteAt this point in our marriage I couldn't sustain the disgust and outrage. I just realized sluttishness was a genetic trait, just like eye color. Her mother was a slut and MaryAnn inherited that trait.

https://www.literotica.com/s/forgiveness-denied

QuoteDailyMail.com exclusively obtained dozens of abusive messages sent over WhatsApp in which Reusch urged the former soldier to kill himself, threatened to shoot him and mocked him over the death of his beloved dog.

She described in graphic detail sex with other men and sent a 49-second clip of her performing oral sex on her new partner as she berated Metzger with messages about how he was 'ugly, bald and had rotten teeth.'

Police said the messages for which she was indicted were among the 'most extreme' examples of bullying they had ever seen.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-12195333/The-depraved-texts-girlfriend-Mandie-Reusch-drove-Army-veteran-suicide.html

Quote"Why does it even matter how many guys I slept with before, anyway?"

"If it didn't matter, why didn't you tell me? But you know it matters, it's because it would've told me the kind of person you were."

https://www.literotica.com/s/body-count-1

QuoteMarriage requires loyalty and commitment to take precedence over sexual fulfilment, while Sexuality wants it to be the other way around. These two perspectives are clearly illustrated in BTB and RAAC stories. In both subcategories, you typically have a wife character who wants to enjoy the benefits of marriage and have the freedom to 'experience her true sexuality' with other men. The difference is in what happens. In a BTB story, the husband character will thwart that goal or take revenge for the transgression. In an RAAC story, the wife may pay some sort of price, but she will ultimately have her 'sexual experience' and get to keep her husband.

https://www.literotica.com/s/sex-stories-and-morality

QuoteShe said you'd destroyed his sexual confidence and he had real performance problems with her.

https://www.literotica.com/s/the-will-1

Quote"The pain caused by having spouse cheat is as great as having a spouse die," Todd paused and looked out the window. When he looked back, his face showed no emotion. "When a man or a woman cheats, their spouses suffer greatly. However, I believe that a man suffers more. In both cases, trust is shattered. This is way more important to a man than it is to a woman."

https://www.literotica.com/s/todds-unusual-revenge

QuoteA Welsh woman was fined and hit with a restraining order for sending her boyfriend's ex-partner a series of videos of herself farting as part of a bizarre harassment campaign, according to report.

The impetus for the harassment is a child contact dispute between Evans' partner and Preytherch, the outlet reports.

https://nypost.com/2025/01/29/world-news/welsh-woman-fined-for-sending-taunting-fart-videos-to-partners-ex/

QuoteFormer Air Force legislative liaison Maj. Gen. Christopher Finerty was found to have had improper sexual relationships — both physical and over the phone — with five women, violating three laws in the Military Code of Justice, according to the Air Force IG report.

https://nypost.com/2025/01/29/us-news/lothario-air-force-general-had-multiple-sexual-relationships-with-capitol-hill-staffers-enlisted-troop-and-married-dod-employee-ig-report/

QuoteI just did what he would have done: exploited a weakness, doing what I wanted regardless of the impact on others. It makes me less of a man not more.

https://www.literotica.com/s/february-sucks-what-if-she-didnt

Quote'Anal sex is actually one of the most frequently requested things,' says Susann from the Swiss Escort Avantgarde agency.

She added about the type of clients hiring escorts at the WEF: 'These types of people consider themselves untouchable, which they often realistically are.'

'In my experience, the higher a man's professional/social rank, the lower his inhibition threshold for violence against women is.'

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-14314271/Secret-depravity-Davos-global-elite-sex-parties-NDAs-prostitutes-transsexual-women-commonly-requested-sex-act-revealed.html

QuoteAs the police dug deeper into the marriage of Jill and Kent, they discovered that Jill had been having an affair with a fireman named Sean for about two and a half years.

In his retrial, Kent's defense painted him as a helpless husband who did not have any backbone, especially in front of his wife Jill. But the jury found him guilty and sentenced him to 180 days in prison.

https://thecinemaholic.com/kelli-peters/

QuoteDolly previously shed light on the truth about their marriage, quipping that they were in an 'open' relationship when it came to flirting, but not anything else.

'He's not jealous and I'm not jealous of him. He knows I flirt. He flirts too,' t previously said as she set the record straight.

'Yes, it's an open relationship, but NOT sexually and I would kill him if I thought he was doing that. He would shoot me too. At the end of the day we love each other madly.'

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-14458897/The-truth-Dolly-Partons-open-marriage-husband-Carl-Dean-death.html

QuoteYet when she moved to Washington in 1857 with her husband and their young daughter, Laura, she came under the spell of Key, a 39-year-old widower to whom many women were attracted. By the spring of 1858 they were deeply into a passionate, obsessive affair, which she seems to have "lived within . . . as a secret fantasy, as in a virtual and time-consuming experience that lacked any power to inflict damage on other areas of her life."

https://www.washingtonpost.com/archive/entertainment/books/2002/04/14/a-story-of-tammany-hall-wartime-and-amorous-intrigues-and-murder-in-lafayette-square/415eafc5-a9fa-4613-89a3-602a54061343/

QuoteMicrocheating, a term popularized by Australian psychologist Melanie Schilling, could be anything short of a physical or emotional relationship if it involves a behavior you can't talk about openly with a partner.

Besides furtive social media chatting, it also could mean lingering too long at the water cooler to talk to a co-worker, sharing personal details of your own relationship, or dressing up if you know you'll see someone.

https://apnews.com/article/microcheating-infidelity-flirting-social-media-3933161a5cd97365e73b133744e4175c

QuoteMen fall in love slightly more often than women, but women obsess about their partner more than men, according to a first-of-its-kind study investigating the differences between sexes from The Australian National University (ANU).

https://phys.org/news/2025-04-men-fall-faster-women.html

QuoteA Tennessee mom has been arrested for allegedly plotting to murder her ex-husband, a former Nashville news anchor, after telling an undercover cop posing as a hitman that she wanted him to "disappear" and "be put underground."

https://nypost.com/2025/04/15/us-news/ex-wife-of-former-tv-anchor-tried-to-have-hitman-kill-him-cops/

QuoteThey discovered that while the mating strategies of the mice are flexible, they're also tied to consistent individual differences—what scientists call "personality traits." Some mice might just consistently roam and some might just defend nests.

Here's the twist: these behaviors don't need to be hardwired into DNA. Instead, they can emerge based on the male's circumstances—what evolutionary biologists call "making the best of a bad job." It's not that these males are born roamers or territorials—it's that they're adaptable.

The researchers also found that roaming males have relatively larger testes, suggesting they invest more in sperm production—perhaps to improve their chances in brief encounters.

https://phys.org/news/2025-04-male-mice-fiercely-females-territories.html

QuoteThe 40-year-old woman went missing from her Madrid apartment on Feb. 2 after a man in a motorcycle helmet was seen entering her building and plastering spray paint over a security camera lens, prosecutors said.

The man, who the feds believe is Knezevich, then is seen wheeling out a suitcase. The victim's body has yet to be found.

The couple were married for 13 years but were bickering about millions of dollars in property during divorce proceedings.

https://nypost.com/2024/11/14/us-news/david-knezevich-charged-in-murder-of-missing-estranged-wife-ana-hedao-knezevich/